Well, have been watching a lot of wedding videos lately and have also been thinking of how beautiful marriage Is. In as much as have been listening to wedding musics and checking out my buddy's wedding pictures, I still have a little fear of the unexpected. I kept asking myself this questions.

* What if I wake up one day and noticed that the affection is gone?

* Won't I get tired of making love to thesame woman forever?

* What if we start arguing or start having little problems?

I do have a short temper too and I know that it will definitely have a negative impact on my marriage.

Over to you married or about to be married people. I need ya advise on what I need to do or change about myself.

Life is not a bed of roses son , problems and difficulties and misunderstandings will definitely come but the duration of their stay depends on you , as for the affection choose to fall in love with your wive every morning over n over again , anyway when you get to the bridge you'll definitely cross it .

behind every sucessful man dere is a woman. go n get married n be happy foreva

Elantracey: Life is not a bed of roses son , problems and difficulties and misunderstandings will definitely come but the duration of their stay depends on you , as for the affection choose to fall in love with your wive every morning over n over again , anyway when you get to the bridge you'll definitely cross it .

Thank you for your reply but If I may ask, how does one fall inlove with their partner every morning? Doesn't it get boring at some point?

sameer1212: behind every sucessful man dere is a woman. go n get married n be happy foreva

Am looking forward to the "Being Happy Forever" part

unapologetic:


Thank you for your reply but If I may ask, how does one fall inlove with their partner every morning? Doesn't it get boring at some point?

it all depends on you , love grows and also depreciates with time , remember am not talking about lust.

Elantracey:

it all depends on you , love grows and also depreciates with time , remember am not talking about lust.

Yes I do understand. I just hope it appreciates for me and not the opposite

@OP
you have signed up for the hardest work on earth, and unless you are ready to WORK HARD, you will fail at it.

what you need to do is change your mindset about life, and FULLY enjoy today instead of ruining today by worrying about tomorrow.

* What if I wake up one day and noticed that the affection is gone?

then you accept it as life, but until that day happens LIVE FULLY!!!!!!!

* Won't I get tired of making love to the same woman forever?

if you do her the same way each and every night, without upgrading your bedroom game, without listening to her desires, without opening your mind se.xually, without become the freak that she desires......then yes, this time will come sooner than you think. the catch is that, if you act RIGHT then that day may come in many decades, and by then, your love for this woman will be more important than your search for se.xual satisfaction (and will rather be IN LOVE but se.xually miserable instead)

* What if we start arguing or start having little problems?

solve the issues/problems by being OBJECTIVE and OPEN MINDED...... and understanding that sometimes you simply have to walk away and say these 5 magic words:"ok babe, whatever you say"

marriage is not a smooth sailing affair. If you're truly in love, you'd be able to overcome obstacles.

sameer1212: behind every sucessful man dere is a woman. go n get married n be happy foreva

I can name 500 very successful men without a woman behind them

xtervaganza: I can name 500 very successful men without a woman behind them

and i can equally name 500 men who became unsuccessful BECAUSE a woman was behind/next/attached to them, lol!

the motto of most broke and very single 9ja men is:"get money and women will come" but the end of the story is that, as soon as these women come and the guy flashes the little cash he has, then he goes right back to BROKE!!!!

MRbrownJAY:

and i can equally name 500 men who became unsuccessful BECAUSE a woman was behind/next/attached to them, lol!

the motto of most broke and very single 9ja men is:"get money and women will come" but the end of the story is that, as soon as these women come and the guy flashes the little cash he has, then he goes right back to BROKE!!!!

Hehehe that's some serious shit lol

xtervaganza: I can name 500 very successful men without a woman behind them

True that bro. It seems u don't intend to get married am I right?

xtervaganza: I can name 500 very successful men without a woman behind them

am all ears...

MRbrownJAY: @OP
you have signed up for the hardest work on earth, and unless you are ready to WORK HARD, you will fail at it.

what you need to do is change your mindset about life, and FULLY enjoy today instead of ruining today by worrying about tomorrow.



then you accept it as life, but until that day happens LIVE FULLY!!!!!!!



if you do her the same way each and every night, without upgrading your bedroom game, without listening to her desires, without opening your mind se.xually, without become the freak that she desires......then yes, this time will come sooner than you think. the catch is that, if you act RIGHT then that day may come in many decades, and by then, your love for this woman will be more important than your search for se.xual satisfaction (and will rather be IN LOVE but se.xually miserable instead)



solve the issues/problems by being OBJECTIVE and OPEN MINDED...... and understanding that sometimes you simply have to walk away and say these 5 magic words:"ok babe, whatever you say"

gbam.......10,000 like

MRbrownJAY:

and i can equally name 500 men who became unsuccessful BECAUSE a woman was behind/next/attached to them, lol!

the motto of most broke and very single 9ja men is:"get money and women will come" but the end of the story is that, as soon as these women come and the guy flashes the little cash he has, then he goes right back to BROKE!!!!

lol



You're right bro



But I'm not anti-women, I love them, they are our mothers



But the saying behind EVERY successful man is a woman is all too wrong...



I have a problem with the word every in that cliche

I'll uote author=unapologetic]


True that bro. It seems u don't intend to get married am I right? [/quote]hahahahahaha



No be so, boss




I'll invite you when the time's right



I'm only saying a man can be successful without a woman in his life

sameer1212: am all ears...

I'm not anti-women ooo



I'm only being realistic



U can decide to do without women for the rest of your life and still be successful

xtervaganza: I'll uote author=unapologetic]


True that bro. It seems u don't intend to get married am I right? hahahahahaha



No be so, boss




I'll invite you when the time's right



I'm only saying a man can be successful without a woman in his life

Hehehe ok bros. I thought you've given up on the idea and please don't hesitate to let me know when the time is right.... I will definitely be there :d :d :d

xtervaganza: lol
You're right bro

But I'm not anti-women, I love them, they are our mothers

But the saying behind EVERY successful man is a woman is all too wrong...

I have a problem with the word every in that cliche

dont get me wrong, i was just agreeing with your post, saying that you could be successful without women AND you can also lose your wealth because of women.

YES, life is better with a great woman (or two) by our side, the catch is that you have to find the RIGHT one. anyone who thinks that any woman will do, will have to learn the hard way that not all women are a blessing to a man's life.

MRbrownJAY:

dont get me wrong, i was just agreeing with your post, saying that you could be successful without women AND you can also lose your wealth because of women.

YES, life is better with a great woman (or two) by our side, the catch is that you have to find the RIGHT one. anyone who thinks that any woman will do, will have to learn the hard way that not all women are a blessing to a man's life.

I knew you agree with me.......




I'm only making myself clear cos I was quoted by some guys who think I'm against women




And why did u say a man should be with a woman or 2? You're wicked




Lol

xtervaganza: I knew you agree with me.......

I'm only making myself clear cos I was quoted by some guys who think I'm against women

And why did u say a man should be with a woman or 2? You're wicked

Lol

different men, different appetite lol, and since polygamy is legal in 9ja.....

MRbrownJAY:

different men, different appetite lol, and since polygamy is legal in 9ja.....

true....but I'll never be happy I such set up

^^^it is understandable....it is hard enough to satisfy ONE woman, and some want to add stress to their lives by having 2 or more. sadly, many will tell you that this is the only way for a man not to stray, so...... to each their own.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^it is understandable....it is hard enough to satisfy ONE woman, and some want to add stress to their lives by having 2 or more. sadly, many will tell you that this is the only way for a man not to stray, so...... to each their own.

Have actually heard some men saying the more the women, the better. I really do wonder how they get to satisfy two women at thesame time and this is a normal occurrence for Nigerians abroad. Having a wife abroad and another one back in Nigeria. I can't even imagine the mental stress involved

unapologetic: Have actually heard some men saying the more the women, the better. I really do wonder how they get to satisfy two women at thesame time and this is a normal occurrence for Nigerians abroad. Having a wife abroad and another one back in Nigeria. I can't even imagine the mental stress involved

its again down to these brainwashed women who will gladly be happy with half of a man than a full time man for themselves...... giving you all the excuses under the sun why its better.

having a wife abroad and one in 9ja is easy....the man just say to wifey at home:"I am hustling cant talk to you as often, but i love you" while he cuddles in the arms of abroad wifey.

MRbrownJAY:

its again down to these brainwashed women who will gladly be happy with half of a man than a full time man for themselves...... giving you all the excuses under the sun why its better.

having a wife abroad and one in 9ja is easy....the man just say to wifey at home:"I am hustling cant talk to you as often, but i love you" while he cuddles in the arms of abroad wifey.

I can't even wish two wives for my enemy.