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What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 6:46pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
A happy marriage is not one without ups and downs but IMHO one where both people love and respect each other and accommodate their human frailties. Nobody is perfect and nobody can claim to be But imagine for a second you could change something about your spouse What will that be? OK let me go first( I wrote this on another thread earlier) My husband's greatest flaw IMHO is that If he takes someone in confidence and they slip or betray his trust or he has a perception of trust betrayed,he completely switches off that person and there is no going back to the way it was. Some people mistake it to be arrogance but I know it isn't I try to shield him by keeping some info I know about people from him so he doesn't judge them too harshly. He can completely switch off from a group or association once he feels some vibes he's not comfortable with and once his mind is made up,it is made up. I wish I could change that. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 6:50pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama Lomg time no see Hmmmmmm your question is a hard one o! . . . cos If I want him to change some things, It means that I will have to change some things about me too and I don think I am prepared for that 2 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 6:51pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
and you call that a flaw? i thought once beaten thrice shy.....babymama, tell us another flaw of his, this one isn't a flaw at all. 6 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 6:54pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1: You see why I said I rather let things be & no one should try to change the other I am exactly the same You rarely get a second chance with me once youve fecked up Hubby too tries to keep some peoples nonsense away from me too cos he knows that I wont forget and will keep you at arms length from that point. I guess its because I dont do "kami kami" with people, so if you do it to me, the relationship changes. |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 6:55pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: and you call that a flaw? Are you the same way? It is a big flaw IMHO Look at this typical example We were going to this church and we all loved it,the kids were doing wonderful in the puppet ministry and absolutely loved it Then hubby noticed some things going on in the church amongst the senior members of the church about some blatant preferential treatments etc that I didn't think was a big deal,then suddenly we had to leave the Church. My children cried and cried and that wasn't enough to make him change his mind 1 Like |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:00pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1: it's for the greater good! he did well noticing those things you failed to notice because of the weekly jollof rice you love to eat in that church. i can't stand the preferential treatment ish in church too. it would pain me to the marrow if my kids get slighted as a result of this. it's better to be safe than sorry. buy a big bottle of wine for your hubby for making that decision - he's got the gift of foresight. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:01pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
chaircover: Wow I am the protector in my own family in that regard Some things daddy must not hear Right now we are in the process of selling a property ,contract has already been signed but he perceived some deceptions from the realtor and he has made up his mind to pull out from the deal and nothing will change his mind I give people more benefits of the doubt unlike him |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:05pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1: The elders say its the position the calabash maintains, that determines from which angle it is picked up from. If someone chooses to pay good with bad, then sorry I dont want that person round me, neither will I give you a second chance to do damage to me and my family. Dont also forget that every situation is different and people have their reasons for doing things. Your husband must have weighed things up and for him to still be adamant after you have worked on him then there is something serious going on and you are going to have to trust his judgement. |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:08pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: Ur crazy Which church serves jollof rice every week |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:11pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
chaircover: most of them. someone must celebrate something - christening, birthday, marriage, graduation, job promotion, granted visas, house warming, burial, bazaar, etc |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:14pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar:You don come again |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Stillfire: 7:19pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama, what's your own flaw? |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:21pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: Surely not every week haba! I understand where BM is coming from especially as the kids are settled and happy there, but on the other hand, if they are not practising what they preach, what kind of examples are they giving to these same kids? BM Your hubby is just very principled and unfotunately you cant pick and choose instances when he will show that trait and when he wont. That is him and there will be many times when that trait will be of an advantage. You have a man of integrity there. A man who is not afraid to stand for what is right. |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:24pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Stillfire: Babymama, what's your own flaw? what else? sunday sunday jollof rice |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by gidjah(m): 7:31pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
MY HUBBY hmmm,,She talks seldom,she fit gather two years matter for mind,one good day she will tell u all u hav done in relation to that matter!she can hide any thing from u if she thinks u shouldnt know about such.(just saw something i hav bin workin on, in her posession ,even though she knows i need to see that thing and take decision about the thing).she can be very secretive and this can hurt me so bad.pls let some one (matured and married) give me some advice in relation to this.she is currently on a vacation wit my kid and i told her to examine and evaluate her ways before returnin back else,me no go gree about this excessive attitude of hers.she ended up laughin about this issue even when i told her i am kind of developin a HBP over this matters on ground.she ALSO WILL NEVER SAY I AM SORRY WHEN EVER SHE KNOWS I AM ANGRY 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by edwife(f): 7:35pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: This coogar eh |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by raumdeuter: 7:37pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Mine I no know o 5 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:39pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
edwife: that's the truth! anytime you see any naija woman sticking to a big church steadfastedly.....trust me, it's because of the jollof rice. come rain, come snow - she will find her way to church by hook or crook on sunday. nothing will stop her, not even a curfew or police warning. 6 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by edwife(f): 7:44pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: Coogar ,which kind jollof rice that she can't cook herself? and what will you say about men who stick to a church? 3 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:49pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
edwife: Dont mind Coogar o! I dont know how many churches he has been to where they serve jollof rice every sunday If anything, its the batchelors who cant cook, who will be interested 3 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by kreamidiva(f): 7:49pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
The flaws are too numerous to mention. I'll pass. 4 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:53pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
edwife: jollof rice on a sunday can be time-consuming. by sunday, most people are already preparing for work.....to find a well-cooked awoof jollof rice can be very tempting. men? men are mostly begged to attend churches. 80% of the bachelors you see in church are doing it to win the heart of a particular sister they are trying to catch. 4 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 7:53pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
chaircover: Ours was monthly.we had a monthly foodfest at the church and I missed it greatly.come and see food |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by coogar: 7:56pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Babymama1: chaircover & edwife - what did i tell y'all? 3 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by edwife(f): 7:57pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
chaircover: Tell him o,they pack two sometimes and drinks ,most of them don't eat in church, the sisters will see them |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by edwife(f): 7:59pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
coogar: Coogar will not kill me this evening |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 8:49pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Stillfire: Babymama, what's your own flaw? Hmm I don't know how the man manages me wallahi One time he made me angry and I was talking and he refused to respond Nothing as annoying as that,dead cold silence I said to myself babymama How can I punish this man this morning ,that is eh , show him well well I put his bunch of keys in my handbag and went to work and switched off my phone Chai He called me over 25 times whosai He had to take a taxi to my place of work 3 Likes |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by emeraldoe(f): 8:55pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
edwife:men who stick to a church are lookin for cute gals and taking note of their next prey |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 9:00pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Any way my greatest flaw is that when I get angry,I can say a lot of hurtful things I don't mean that I end up regretting but my anger is very short lived which is a good thing. I don't bear a grudge for long 1 Like |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by edwife(f): 9:02pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
emeraldoe: men who stick to a church are lookin for cute gals and taking note of their next prey Talking from experience? |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by emeraldoe(f): 9:04pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
edwife:nah not at all 1 Like |
Re: What Is You Spouse's Greatest Flaw? by Nobody: 11:45pm On Sep 12, 2014 |
Hubby's too trusting, and I always have to say,I told you so 3 Likes |
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