germainediva:
Please I need matured advice,am a married woman who has fallen helplessly inlove with another married man, I have tried all I can to put him out of my mind but the more I try the worst it get, I have even gone for counseling,deliverance,fasted and all that but yet reality is starring me in the face, I have deleted all his contact from my fone but then I see him every day at work tho he dosent no this.....please my brothers and sisters how do I get out of this mess(I have never felt this way in my life)

Tallesty1: This is a big test of your control over your feelings. You can't always control what you feel, yea, but what you do about those feelings is totally in your court, you need to know that you are facing an important test and any case of mishandling the situation will lead to a lot of hurt. You must think of the pain it will cause to those you love. Imagine being his wife, ask yourself how you would feel if your hubby is the one doing this. Honestly the cons are way too much than whatever you may gain from it so if I were you I would lock-up my feelings and concentrate on loving my husband

echobee:
What re u doing here? Jump jump

thorpido: Sometimes you can't help but admire someone of the opposite sex even when married.However,something is wrong when you allow it to dwell in your heart just as you are doing.
I think the bigger problem is that there is a disconnect with your husband.You are not getting the attention you need from him.Why don't you get your husband to pay more attention to you?Perhaps,he's been too busy lately.

It's a good thing the man is not the one trying to hit on you.Do everything possible not to get him to notice you.

zeb04: If you weren't married,i would advice you let him know because most times when we get to be Friends with the people we crush on,we find out things we wouldn't know from afar of and It just kills the whole romantic stuff but then again,you are a married woman and when I talk about *Leaving 80% to find 20%.......I am sure you know what am talking about.Goodluck

Chillisauce: Three kids and you are dying for a married man that doesn't even know how you feel about him. Do you think he feels same way?

Since you have tried all you could to get the attention away. Try strafing him.
By the time you do am once, the love go clear for your eyes when everything you built for the past 13 yrs go just fall yakata for your eyes.

Two things, get him out of your mind or strafe him so the conji go clear for your eyes.

This 'love' won't take you anywhere.

germainediva:
Please I need matured advice,am a married woman who has fallen helplessly inlove with another married man, I have tried all I can to put him out of my mind but the more I try the worst it get, I have even gone for counseling,deliverance,fasted and all that but yet reality is starring me in the face, I have deleted all his contact from my fone but then I see him every day at work tho he dosent no this.....please my brothers and sisters how do I get out of this mess(I have never felt this way in my life)

germainediva: I know that.........I just need a miracle in my heart........on my part I have tried but d heart kips going

snazzylove: Chillisauce Lol@ frog eater.
Babe I dey come make I give u correct advice. Was once in ur shoes

onegig: What happened to telling your husband about this?

He is the best that can help you here since your individual efforts is not yielding results. That's if you guys communicate well and deep and you agree to such open discussions from the start. You may also ask for a transfer to another department or something just to be able forget him.

kreamidiva: He doesn't know u are in love with him? How so? U are secretly admiring him or what?

It will pass. Look for the things that made u fall in love with your hubby in the first place and focus on them. Get closer to your hubby because there could be a vacuum or void u feel this guy will fill.

Otherwise, ask 5mindedness the meaning of his moniker. When u don chuk the guy for the 5mins of fun, this "in love" go clear from your eyes.