jennylove7575: Because the society and our family said so..even though we are not happy in it, let us remain inside and die unhappily inside to please people.

And isnt that a miserable life to live? The only one life you've got, you then decide to live it miserably and start ageing faster than your peers when you have the choice to be happy? Thats just too bad.

Tdrumz:

Argh! Baba na goat person go born wen e go rear am?

According to the online dictionary

Rearing - bring up and care for (a child) until they are fully grown.

2. (of a horse or other animal) raise itself upright on its hind legs.

With the aforecited, we are both right, and my use of the word 'rearing' in this context is so apt.

moriton:

As in REARING OF CHILDREN. ..Shey na cows them don turn to.

According to the online dictionary

Rearing - bring up and care for (a child) until they are fully grown.

2. (of a horse or other animal) raise itself upright on its hind legs.

With the aforecited, we are both right, and my use of the word 'rearing' in this context is so apt.

Philadelphia:

Was almost hitting 'like' but didn't since you forgot the most important thing 'SPIRITUAL READINESS'. It is what sustains the others. I teach this to people as well so I'm certain about this.

That's very correct sir. Apology for the omission. Spiritual aspect of ones life is imperative in all dimensions and facets of life, with no exception to settling down.

Sophyrocks:

And isnt that a miserable life to live? The only one life you've got, you then decide to live it miserably and start ageing faster than your peers when you have the choice to be happy? Thats just too bad.

abi o

rawpadgin: please can u throw more like on the 'physical readiness'

Kindly refer to 'Metamorphosis'. We could say your look, body structure ,and most importantly your age, et al.

salt1:


Jennylove, I doubt if you have ever fallen in love. You may not have felt like there's this one person you can't live without. Whose smile keeps you smiling and whose approval you value. That something went wrong (which can be remedied) does not negate the beauty of young love.
I married at 23 and more than 20 years later I am
Still very happy with my decision. I prefer being unhappy with my spouse than being alone. We didn't marry to please family or society.
Getting married is a gift we gave to ourselves

you are right. That is why cohabitation is there to avoid loneliness. I know loads of people in Nigeria who cohabit. They move in together and start having kids or decide not to...they agree not to get married. Shared responsibility. The man and woman contribute to pay the bills, rent and others........

observing mood

freeradical: Not as amusing as why you are still single hon

Such a silly conclusion

Chrisbenogor: For me, human beings can withstand so many things.....loneliness is not one of them.

Life needs meaning, she is that meaning for me.

May God bless your home

benromeo39: I'm married to Jesus. Reason? Because he's my lord and savior.

Gay Alert!!

pyyxxaro: because I have always wanted to be a member of MEN FELLOWSHIP in my Church

Lmao!

I'm A Reverend Father.

Well as for me,the reason i might get married would be because of having children and pleasing the society.
If she has given me 1 or 2 kids,i would find a way to divorce her or i put on an attitude that will make her want to divorce me.And i would pay her off well.
After that,i no marry again.Atleast i was married

Exjoker: Everyone knows that getting married is a
major life decision. Yet people have different
ways of knowing when the time is right to get
married and who to marry. How did you
decide to get married? What do you wish you
had known prior to getting married? What can
you share with folks considering getting
married?

I LOVE GOOD FOOD YWT I HATE EATING OUTSIDE

My room is getting bigger by the day, and I'm becoming very lonely. Time to make a difficult decision

Am happily divorced. Can I comment?

Dcmg: Taaaaaaah.
Sha,they say "one man's food is another man's poison".
Apart from business and work,most times i always want to be alone,i'm in love with Solitude.Mehn,i don't get it when guys say they feel lonely just becos there's no woman with them.As far as i'm concerned,women are too clingy for my liking.
They always want attention all the time,they always want to talk all the time,they want you to tell them everything,always want to do everything together,they believe your life should be about them alone.No space atall;mehn i no get that kind strength for them o.
I value my time alone

I feel you big time!

I really like this thread the way men comment,there is no female here,let put up my own for advice sha.I will be 30 by next year that is when am probably goin for NYSC.have not been working or find any means of income,my parents still give me money but brothers am tired of loneliness,right now am d only one living in 3bedroom bungalow with big palour,the question now is can I get married without any means of personal income,or can any responsible lady date me without any work or somethings doing,though I have flings that I rush to incase any serious urge,but I want a serious lady.pls advice not to scold me.

I got married so that I can finish training my children on time...I do not want to have Gray hairs and still be paying school fees.
God bless my Household.

lol

ayukdaboss: So now that these lousy single NL folks have filled the Front Page with silly comments how will the married people who are definitely asleep with their spouses air their views on the FP? Abi wuna no fit read? "What prompted you to get married"

Nothing cos I'm not yet married. Anyway, why
don't you check out
www.myeventsgallery.com and sign up
before the official launch party!

Dcmg: Well as for me,the reason i might get married would be because of having children and pleasing the society.
If she has given me 1 or 2 kids,i would find a way to divorce her or i put on an attitude that will make her want to divorce me.And i would pay her off well.
After that,i no marry again.Atleast i was married

Nah, don't make any innocent woman go through that. A lot of women these days are comfortable being baby mamas. Look for them and make your choice.

Too drunk in love to do otherwise, i would have eloped with him if anyone dared suggest we wait .


Marriage shouldn't be prepared for like one gauging for war, once the two are willingly to walk together, they will. Submitting to each others brilliant suggestions won't be an issue as ego doesn't get to over ride common sense. Once you see each other as one and not opponents, every other thing runs smoothly. Compatibility is very important, if you are not compatible with your spouse, it will be a rough ride.


Most importantly, marriage is never a do or die affair, so I took the plunge with the mind that if it ain't working out, i beat it, no fraction of my life can be wasted on anything that isn't progressive
.


No 1 marriage killer is following protocols, the " that's how it's done " mentality. The fact that your parents did it that way doesn't make it right or profitable. People must unlearn all stereotypical ideals before they stand a chance at seeing the light.

koyyes:
Nah, don't make any innocent woman go through that. A lot of women these days are comfortable being baby mamas. Look for them and make your choice.

Haha,i just want the soceity to know i was married,atleast that would keep my heart at peace.Single with kids "NO',Married with kids but divorced sounds "Better".By the way i would pay her off better.If i'm worth 10b naira,then i can give away 1or 2b to her{only if she deserves it}i.e,she din't cheat,she was lovin,caring and respectful.She can then go ahead and marry the man of her choice that would give are all care and attention she deserves

1) To flee fornication
2) To procreate
3) For companionship
4) 2heads are better than 1(most cases)

I got married dis year cos 1st,I looked at my self and concluded that,my hubby would be a perfect partner in my life,cos I find joy and lot of happiness around him ,it was d right time 4 me, d right man 4 me,old enough,experience too. 2nd,I wish i had known more of his mood and his heart. 3rd,what I can share with people considering to getting married is, marriage isn't about u alone but all about 2 people working together for a common goal,he/she shud wait 4 dere time, u dnt marry because ur friends are getting married or because u are tired of staying in ur parents house,u shud marry because u love ur partner,compliment each others attitude and u are ready to spend d rest of ur life with him/her

nacosprof: Am due to marry but n't too finacial balance, dis makes the one I luv got married late last year,.praying provide a better one 4me soonest

in d same boat with u, mine married months ago after 7yrs of been together.

it is well

nacosprof: Am due to marry but n't too finacial balance, dis makes the one I luv got married late last year,.praying provide a better one 4me soonest

in d same boat with u, mine married 3months ago after 7yrs of been together.

it is well

I decided to get married when I realized that it was time to wake up from fantasy land....ie. facing the realization that most of my weaknesses was here to stay,...knowing that perfection in a partner was only an illusion,... and knowing that the universe wouldn't even notice if I didn't get married.....all that with the discovery of the one person who didn't mind my weaknesses and the one person I didn't require too much from....in summary.. finding contentment.

ghettodreamz:

With the above comment, without any doubt, it shows you are still single.

Although it's one of the elements of marriage which leads to reproduction, and subsequently, rearing of kids. However, there is more to being married than just sexual intercourse alone. When you are married, it makes you feel some sense of maturity, and become a more responsible adult.
It's a new phase of life and you start seeing things in a more different ways than the way you would have seen them or had always seen them while you were still single. Marriage comes with a lot of commitments, responsibilities, perseverance and sacrifice; if you are not ready physically, emotionally, psychologically (mentally), materially and financially- marriage is not for you.

The op asked why you decide to marry and not ur experience now that you are married, ofcos sexual intercourse might B D reason some virgins rushed to marriage!

dancok: I really like this thread the way men comment,there is no female here,let put up my own for advice sha.I will be 30 by next year that is when am probably goin for NYSC.have not been working or find any means of income,my parents still give me money but brothers am tired of loneliness,right now am d only one living in 3bedroom bungalow with big palour,the question now is can I get married without any means of personal income,or can any responsible lady date me without any work or somethings doing,though I have flings that I rush to incase any serious urge,but I want a serious lady.pls advice not to scold me.

almost 30... bro you're just 10 years away from being a fool for life... keep it up and you shall achieve your goals

no offense o