Hi NLander. Have been the 'read the thread/topic and comments' guy on nairaland (though more active on facebook and twitter) and get out so this topic is simply seeking your opinions and it happens to be my first post under Romance Section.

I have this Babe that I am now very fond of and gradually, it is turning to a love affair. She is the kind of Lady that falls under my taste; hardworking, intelligent, social, down to earth and open to communication. I have asked myself several times if I will be comfortable waking up by her side for the rest of my life not looking at container but the content and the answer keeps coming in the affirmative through her actions. She is not orobo and she is not lekpa but I am a bit consign about her when the 69 and Child-bearing process kicks off. Afraid she might add more weight because I am a classical example of letter I.

She is a graduate, responsible, works and a leader a small group of young single females in church while I have a young and growing IT company and just conclude my tenure as a Youth Leader in same church (sorry can't name the church). Neva bleeped her cos of personal belief and Church dictate though tempted to smooch at our last meeting. I don't and haven't bleeped before at 29 and cool about it .

Of recent, I asked her about her age and she openly told me "I know Ladies don't like telling guys/people their age" and she didn't give me an answer rather she asked me about mine which I told her. I killed the question about her age waiting for another time or for her to tell me of her own volition. Not that I consider age as a prerequisite in relationship for I have known her better now for close to a year due to our increased communication-flow and had even fallen in love with a babe six years older than me (craze dey my head). The quest to know her age was heighten when my Elder Brother and a Friend asked me her age cos of her mature look and poise so I had to ask.

What do you think her action of not telling me her age means? Is it that she is afraid that I will leave her which is far from it or She doesn't want to scare me away if She is eventually older than me though marriage for me is no-time-soon and won't want to tie her down if she is in a rush.

They actually won't when they are older than 23

PROCTOR: They actually won't when they are older than 36

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@PROCTOR and ICEBERYLIN

please elaborate. diff views

When u guys were discussing,playing doing 69 and oda cat killing methods
did u call me

^^^
How does this relate with wat d o.p has said...

chimerase2: When u guys were discussing,playing doing 69 and oda cat killing methods
did u call me

Do you have an idea of what her action means and why? if not... run along, bro.

ERCROSS: ^^^
How does this relate with wat d o.p has said...

Thank you Bro for reminding him.

She might be at the same age range with you or older than you.+29 nd still a virgin? That's *coughs*

She's probably older than you. Or not really serious abt the relationship

Op bone age jor n do ur tin, she maybe older than u or same age bracket

Still observing your comments.
Thanks @Harrysterol, Waspy and Ideee03 and those yet to comment.

harrysterol: Op bone age jor n do ur tin, she maybe older than u or same age bracket

Not that I bother much about it just some concerns which Love conquers.

ideee03: She might be at the same age range with you or older than you.+29 nd still a virgin? That's *coughs* cool.

Fixed

Lol,ok. And on your signature,it's not practisioner but practitioner

charliebiz: Still observing your comments.
Thanks @Harrysterol, Waspy and Ideee03 and those yet to comment.

Not that I bother much about it just some concerns which Love conquers.


Fixed

When ladies know deep down within that their age outweigh yours, they tend to flare up in anger and start telling you you need not to be curious about their age.. OP, pls jst have this at the back of your mind that this thing is common with 9ja babes.. Just know that you can neva get a generally acceptable answer to this ur kweshion cos the reasons why dey refuse to tell their exact age cannot be overemphasized

ideee03: Lol,ok. And on your signature,it's not practisioner but practitioner

Thanks. Didn't see that. Guess my brain and muscle memory weren't correlating at that time.

tosyne2much: When ladies know deep down within that their age outweigh yours, they tend to flare up in anger and start telling you you need not to be curious about their age.. OP, pls jst have this at the back of your mind that this thing is common with 9ja babes.. Just know that you can neva get a generally acceptable answer to this ur kweshion cos the reasons why dey refuse to tell their exact age cannot be overemphasized

In this case, she didn't flare up rather she smiled sheepishly and threw the kweshion back when I pushed further with a guess.

Are u really sure ur babe as all dis qualities? If u said u were beginning 2 fall 4 her y are u so bother about her age? It is not a crime 2 ask of her age oooooh. Even if she decided 2 tell u or u later find out she is 5X older dan u what will u do? In relationship age does not really matter, what matters is d love u guys have 4 each other .

@ op, u are here dreaming about this lady on NL , kindly do the needful and intimate her of your feelings , her response will now determine if you can relaunch the question . I personally feel it's not polite for my friend to ask for my age directly. However, you may get her age by probing her educational background

she is 31.
dont marry her until you are 35
goodluck

A lady who cannot openly tell her man how old she is could most definitely be a bag of secrets.






Brother, ask your pastor to confirm; Secrets do suffocate relationships

Except you are a carefreewnnabe.

DECOtech:
A lady who cannot openly tell her man how old she is could most definitely be a bag of secrets.






Brother, ask your pastor to confirm; Secrets do suffocate relationships

Except you are a crefreewnnabe.

May you live long my broda

she's may be close to her peak bro.

ideee03:
She might be at the same age range with you or older than you. +29 nd still a virgin? That's *coughs*

Are surprised about that or are you feeling some sort of shame for yourself?

Go ahead wif it if you love. Age is just a number after all

happyjuliet:
Are u really sure ur babe as all dis qualities? If u said u were beginning 2 fall 4 her y are u so bother about her age? It is not a crime 2 ask of her age oooooh. Even if she decided 2 tell u or u later find out she is 5X older dan u what will u do? In relationship age does not really matter, what matters is d love u guys have 4 each other .

happyjuliet:
Are u really sure ur babe as all dis qualities? If u said u were beginning 2 fall 4 her y are u so bother about her age? It is not a crime 2 ask of her age oooooh. Even if she decided 2 tell u or u later find out she is 5X older dan u what will u do? In relationship age does not really matter, what matters is d love u guys have 4 each other .

Yea She has those qualities and that is why I fell for her.

LibrarianD:
@ op, u are here dreaming about this lady on NL , kindly do the needful and intimate her of your feelings , her response will now determine if you can relaunch the question . I personally feel it's not polite for my friend to ask for my age directly. However, you may get her age by probing her educational background

Okay. thanks

krall:
she is 31.
dont marry her until you are 35
goodluck

Thanks for the advise. How do you know she is 31?

DECOtech:
A lady who cannot openly tell her man how old she is could most definitely be a bag of secrets.
Brother, ask your pastor to confirm; Secrets do suffocate relationships
Except you are a carefreewnnabe.

DECOtech:
A lady who cannot openly tell her man how old she is could most definitely be a bag of secrets.
Brother, ask your pastor to confirm; Secrets do suffocate relationships
Except you are a carefreewnnabe.

Wise words. though she had been open to me concerning somethings sha which I cannot reveal here. Just that the age question was an unexpected one. Will pick maturity in thoughts and actions over age even if younger. Though the diff don't have to be much.

philantoxx:
she's may be close to her peak bro.

valmunich:
Go ahead wif it if you love. Age is just a number after all

ok

charliebiz:

Wise words. though she had been open to me concerning somethings sha which I cannot reveal here. Just that the age question was an unexpected one. Will pick maturity in thoughts and actions over age even if younger. Though the diff don't have to be much.

Of course she can be open abt past issues she doesn't consider as strongly as her age.

How's it gonna be in the future when issues she considers stronger than her age arises?
1-Wld she be able to tell you that her friend advised her to watch u closely cos u might be cheating while you are not?
2-Wld she tell you that ur son or daughter messed up really bad to allow you administer your fatherly authority or hide them from you in the name of motherly protection?
3-Would she rather ask you for money to buy things for herself than to add extra 10k to children's school fees?
4-And some other little secrets that might not matter at the moment.

Number 1 happened btw my parents but thank God for wisdom n openness btw mum n dad, the devil failed.
Number 2 happens presently in a friend's family. To d extent his daughter got pregnant, d mum took her to abort it, the father only got a wind of it when they wr asked to bring plenty money cos of complications.
Number 3 was btw an Ex n I. The relationship barely lasted 5months. The girl collects almost 3times her school fees from her dad and shares it with her mum. I walked out of the relationship when I asked of her age and she found it a big deal to tell me. A small girl for that matter. Till date she calls me wicked, but this is me. I hate secrets

Pls brother, I'm not tryn to scare you. You are d one who knows the lady you have talked about better than any of us in this forum. Just shine ur eyes.

^^^
Alwite. Thanks for the insight. Guess it is not just a matter of now but the future and her principles. Your post has given me more insights to why it is not about the number in age but principle. 1000 likes. If eventually she tells me cause I will ask again, guess I will take note of her reaction and make her see the reason for my asking. Even if she eventually lies about it, I will definitely know one day and that might leave a scar in the relationship if not break-up.

charliebiz:
Hi NLander. Have been the 'read the thread/topic and comments' guy on nairaland (though more active on facebook and twitter) and get out so this topic is simply seeking your opinions and it happens to be my first post under Romance Section.

I have this Babe that I am now very fond of and gradually, it is turning to a love affair. She is the kind of Lady that falls under my taste; hardworking, intelligent, social, down to earth and open to communication. I have asked myself several times if I will be comfortable waking up by her side for the rest of my life not looking at container but the content and the answer keeps coming in the affirmative through her actions. She is not orobo and she is not lekpa but I am a bit consign about her when the 69 and Child-bearing process kicks off. Afraid she might add more weight because I am a classical example of letter I.

She is a graduate, responsible, works and a leader a small group of young single females in church while I have a young and growing IT company and just conclude my tenure as a Youth Leader in same church (sorry can't name the church). Neva bleeped her cos of personal belief and Church dictate though tempted to smooch at our last meeting. I don't and haven't bleeped before at 29 and cool about it .

Of recent, I asked her about her age and she openly told me "I know Ladies don't like telling guys/people their age" and she didn't give me an answer rather she asked me about mine which I told her. I killed the question about her age waiting for another time or for her to tell me of her own volition. Not that I consider age as a prerequisite in relationship for I have known her better now for close to a year due to our increased communication-flow and had even fallen in love with a babe six years older than me (craze dey my head). The quest to know her age was heighten when my Elder Brother and a Friend asked me her age cos of her mature look and poise so I had to ask.

What do you think her action of not telling me her age means? Is it that she is afraid that I will leave her which is far from it or She doesn't want to scare me away if She is eventually older than me though marriage for me is no-time-soon and won't want to tie her down if she is in a rush.

Christ embassy / She is older than ‎u

charliebiz:
Hi NLander. Have been the 'read the thread/topic and comments' guy on nairaland (though more active on facebook and twitter) and get out so this topic is simply seeking your opinions and it happens to be my first post under Romance Section.

I have this Babe that I am now very fond of and gradually, it is turning to a love affair. She is the kind of Lady that falls under my taste; hardworking, intelligent, social, down to earth and open to communication. I have asked myself several times if I will be comfortable waking up by her side for the rest of my life not looking at container but the content and the answer keeps coming in the affirmative through her actions. She is not orobo and she is not lekpa but I am a bit consign about her when the 69 and Child-bearing process kicks off. Afraid she might add more weight because I am a classical example of letter I.

She is a graduate, responsible, works and a leader a small group of young single females in church while I have a young and growing IT company and just conclude my tenure as a Youth Leader in same church (sorry can't name the church). Neva bleeped her cos of personal belief and Church dictate though tempted to smooch at our last meeting. I don't and haven't bleeped before at 29 and cool about it .

Of recent, I asked her about her age and she openly told me "I know Ladies don't like telling guys/people their age" and she didn't give me an answer rather she asked me about mine which I told her. I killed the question about her age waiting for another time or for her to tell me of her own volition. Not that I consider age as a prerequisite in relationship for I have known her better now for close to a year due to our increased communication-flow and had even fallen in love with a babe six years older than me (craze dey my head). The quest to know her age was heighten when my Elder Brother and a Friend asked me her age cos of her mature look and poise so I had to ask.

What do you think her action of not telling me her age means? Is it that she is afraid that I will leave her which is far from it or She doesn't want to scare me away if She is eventually older than me though marriage for me is no-time-soon and won't want to tie her down if she is in a rush.

Girls don't usually like disclosing their age to guys, but from what I have read itln your case, she is probably older than you, that's why she doesn't feel comfortable revealing her age to u. The fact that your elder brother asked u for her age also comfirms this.

I guess she's older dan u nd she's scared of telling u cos she feel u might dump her

Sarimah:
I guess she's older dan u nd she's scared of telling u cos she feel u might dump her

hw re u

Sarimah:
I guess she's older dan u nd she's scared of telling u cos she feel u might dump her

hehehe! na wah ooo

richommie:
hehehe! na wah ooo

wat is wah?

Sarimah:
wat is wah?

its a slang! pidgin precisely ...aint u a nigerian?