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Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:22pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Hello family section guys, you guys have been doing a lot of good works, this is my first post here nd I know I'll be glad I posted this. I'll try to be as simple and short as I can be... There's this girl, she's 25 and married but has been unable to conceive. Tho she Got pregnant (wch she aborted) before she married, she has been unable to repeat the feat with her husband after over a year of marriage. She's done all investigations trying to ascertain the cause of her infertility (frm HSG to hormonal assays, to hysteroscopy nd all) but they have all come out normal. Now to the issue, she was my girlfriend in the past (we've long forgotten eachother since when she became seriously engaged as I was not even thinking marriage at that time) and she now wants me to get her pregnant. She knows me well and believe I can keep everything secret. Honestly, I don't mind because I'll just see it as being a sperm donor but yeah, there's a but.. What I'm also concerned about is the fact that I'll be sleeping with a married woman nd I've always said I'll end my marriage if my wife does that. I really wanna help her, she's someone dear to me nd truth is, she's been ridiculed for it. I'll like to have different school of thoughts and opinions on this issue, anybody with an experience on a similar issue should also please share your wealth of experience (esp possible repercussions ) here. Thanks. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:26pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
You call sleeping with some one wife a help ? ,bros abeg don't pity her to that extent as for the girl I don't know what to say bt I think she's been hunted by her past " self conviction " , sit her down and explain to her that she's only newly married also tell her to ask God for forgiveness, if she insist on sleeping with you better fine ur way else you will regret dearly in the end. 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Priceless24(f): 8:33pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
If you really want to be of help to her, then you don't have to sleep with her. There are other medical methods for that, just donate your sperm. However, there is another aspect to this which may ultimately come back to you, she is not doing it with her husbands consent, what if he finds out in the future, what happens to the child, what happens to your own relationship/family, And you are human, dealing with humans, what if (God forbid) you are unable to have your own child in the future, will you want that child back? In my opinion, she should just go for an anonymous donor so that there is no story for the gods later 12 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by flexing11(m): 8:33pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
just begin to report my own insultive post,for u to even have the thought of sleeping with a married woman haaaaaaaaa not even minding if she was your ex before,ahhh my guy such thing is always a nemesis somebody else we still Bleep your own as simple and deadly as that! |
Re: Story for the gods.. by agohmamuda(m): 8:33pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
some people and prick wahala. #just saying. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Priceless24: Thank you. Her husband doesn't want the donor stuff, he doesn't even want to hear such. He's been unsupportive nd insensitive. Thinking of making her sign some papers that'll secure my involvement in it.. 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
If you really want to help, Pour out what she want in a container. She should do the rest. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by bennyrazz: 8:44pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
@silentdon the spèrm donor go ahead and impregnate her, why are you troubling us with the thread |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:44pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
krall:That'll be like artificial insemination, It'll be an exercise in futility since we don't hv the expertise or equipment. It'll be illegal in the hospitals in this environment if done without her husband's consent because they're LEGALLY married. 1 Like |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:47pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
bennyrazz:Your view/experience on the issue might be the one to spur me or restrain me bro. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by wellmax(m): 8:47pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Priceless24: GBAM |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Priceless24(f): 8:50pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
silentdon: That's your best bet to avoid any wahala from urs or her end 3 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by bennyrazz: 8:51pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
silentdon:just listen to this song www.youtube.com/watch?v=hiP14ED28CA 1 Like |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:54pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Priceless24:Thanks friend |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:56pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
bennyrazz:I will tomorrow when using a Wi-Fi, thanks for sharing. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:56pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
It would be wrong to impregnate her behind her husband's back. It is morally wrong to deceive her husband to such an extent. And then imagine what CAN happen if he finds out. Imagine the consequences for you, for her and the innocent child. Forget this idea, I am not sure you are aware of the long-term consequences. Either you will both have to live with a severe lie for a the rest of your lives or he will find out and even kill you. 1 Like |
Re: Story for the gods.. by coogar: 8:57pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
silentdon: go & do what you need to do.......may the gods of your ancestors be with you. 4 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 8:58pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
coogar:Lol. Thanks. You really think I should go on? |
Re: Story for the gods.. by jokinexcel(m): 9:01pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
The bitter truth is that u will definitely come back to claim the child in the future, because your conscience will never be at peace knowing that u have a child out there, blood is thicker than water. U can help her by arranging anonymous person to assist her not you. 3 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by coogar: 9:01pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
silentdon: what have you got to lose? she's your ex, she needs your help - are you going to turn such an offer down? if anything.....you should do it for old time's sake. 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 9:02pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
silentdon: 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by helen4(f): 9:10pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
@op. To me u're not helping her, u're oily complicating issues. Believe me, the reason why she wants to do this is to save her marriage, but she might eventually lose the home if she follows this path through. Sincerely, the only help u can render to her is to leave her alone. 6 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by egopersonified(f): 9:15pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
coogar: |
Re: Story for the gods.. by egopersonified(f): 9:19pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Seems you just want to be pushed on. A year isnt enough to be considered infertile. Why not advice the husband to go for tests too, she learns this ovulation period thing, etc. Please, give this couple space to build their marriage, it is just too early. Btw, hope you intend telling your gf when u go to do the deed? If you dont have one, go get yours now. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Story for the gods.. by lomaxx: 9:20pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Put a valve in your manhood. You realize you're interfering with their marriage right? Their problem is their problem. When they need your help, they would ask for it. Emphasis on "THEY" 3 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 9:28pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
Thanks y'all. Your positions are being put into consideration. I'm wholeheartedly grateful. |
Re: Story for the gods.. by ameenahz(f): 9:31pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
There's probably no way you can tell her this, but in my opinion, if she has been certified OK medically and it is the husband who has the problem (I am going to assume that from all you have said), it is better for her to adopt if she wants to stay or divorce that man (he is kuku not being cooperative anyway). Please do not desecrate somebody else's marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 9:34pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
carefreewannabe:Lol 1 Like |
Re: Story for the gods.. by Nobody: 9:35pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
One year isn't enough for her to conclude she can't be impregnated by her husband. She should give more time and if it is obvious the man is impotent,well you can be of help only if her husband agrees. Again,I think her husband would like his brother to impregnate her and not you. 2 Likes |
Re: Story for the gods.. by omicron(m): 9:36pm On Oct 04, 2014 |
1. Nothing is hidden under the sun 2. Blood is thicker than water Your body is saying 'Do it'. Search your brain well, you will hear it keep saying 'No' 4 Likes |
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