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Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Sagamite(m): 7:41pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
SirShymex: Normally, out of town contractors charge extra to cover renting a room for £400 a month. Instead of £500, they might get £525 or £550. You get the same offer as London. The only differences in contracting are: - Size of firm - Public vs Private Public sector usually pays shyt compared to private. And the bigger the firm, the money they are likely to pay would be more. 2 Likes |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by soulglo: 8:07pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
SirShymex: What exactly do you want to hear? Tell me and I'll say it. I can't do you today Shymexx. I just can't |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 8:30pm On Oct 15, 2014 |
soulglo: Hmmm...still waiting for a proof of the west side story about the bubble ____ you told me. I won't lie, you stole my heart with that. Don't break it now. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 9:50am On Oct 16, 2014 |
SirShymex: There are people that have been contracting for years and not out of job for once. That’s why you have to acquire specialist skills that will make you indispensable. More so, with that kind of money you realistically only have to work like 8 months a year. Mind you, do not underestimate the perquisites that comes with Permanent roles. It’s the ‘africanness’ in us that makes us think the company that’s paying £500/day is a maga, the company will be like this new employee is ode for taking this chicken change. If you have benefits that gives you accommodation in choice areas, bottomless medical allowance, your choice of company car that would be sold to you at a ridiculous price after 2 year use, tuition for your kids up to university anywhere in the world, and annual bonus for your efforts. You’ll realise you are short changing yourself by contracting. That’s why you see some people working in the same place for the past 25 years polishing their pension pot. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 10:13am On Oct 16, 2014 |
wonlasewonimi: contracting is still the better option. it gives me more control & i can manipulate my taxes to the barest minimum. besides, the contractor can claim expenses for all of their work-related equipment, things like tablets, mobile phones, office equipment, laptops, internet connections and so on. as for paid holidays, a contractor earns more than enough he can save to afford any holiday he wants. on items that come with VATs alone, a contractor can can offset against their input VAT charged on their invoices, representing a further discount compared to what the permanent staff pays. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 10:48am On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: I'm talking strategic you're talking operational! Even if you earn £2000 a day, some permanent roles with better perks are way better. If you go and play 5 a side football tomorrow and you break a bone. You are doomed if you are contractor. And, that's also the africanness in you doing the talking. Give me all those benefits I'm good to go! |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 12:16pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
wonlasewonimi: what are the odds that such would happen? i have never been admitted to a hospital before. the worst i have had is A & E and I walked away within few hours. if i break a bone, i can work from home. many contractors do. is it not to log in via intranet & do what you gotta do? abeg, cash is king anytime anyday & i have more control of it than a permie. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 1:31pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: You see I'm saying you are not thinking strategic. If you have family nko? Bobo yii omode ni e. Contractor would pay tuition for 3 kids in US university or medicals for immediate family? AVPs in very profitable investment banks can earn up to 100k as bonus albeit pre tax. You a contractor on the same level would open mouth. You don't log in via intranet mate. You log in via VPN! Regulatory controls are changing, information protection is key. Most companies will not grant a contractor remote access these days. Anyway whatever floats your boat. But on the long run, I'd prefer a Permanent role with very juicy benefits. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 1:37pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
wonlasewonimi: why would they need to go to a US university? imperial college, kcl, etc don't exist anymore? send my precious kids to a country where they are more likely to be shot or räped? thanks but no thanks.... besides that, there are even students loans here. NHS is free. i am BUPA-signed....what else?
i don't want - i am not a banker....i never studied banking, let investment bankers keep £4m as bonus, that's their luck.
if they value his input, they would grant him a remote access. is it his fault he broke his anterior cruciate ligament?
you have not advanced any point why you think permanent is better but like you said, whatever floats your raft. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by TV01(m): 1:45pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Good effort Wonlasewonimi, Sagamite and Coogar' Contracting definitely has it's merits. I sit next to two at work. And both cinsidered their positions and actually gave up perm roles. In addition to those mentioned, they also avoid most of the politics and get to keep it fresh, building more extensive networks. Wonlasewonim actually has a point about benefits though. Lot's of firms are still cutting back and those he cited sound eye-wideningly juicy - and probably not to rare at worker-man level ! However, even lower down non-contributory pensions of 20% and bonuses of around 15% still make a difference. Not to mention paid holiday, family health insurance cover and a number of other - albeit - small - ones - all add up. Security is often cited, but that's not a big seller in the current market. Although If you are a perm, a 4 figure pay-off is always likely. I didn't cause the derailment, only helped it along ! TV |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 1:48pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: So, you'd rather your wards start their lives with gbese? if you have the easy options to pay for them? You think BUPA would do dental work of £40k or give my favourite olosho breasttt enlargement olodo ni e ni, sebi you call yourself a tester. Tester no dey work for financial services? Come on, break a bone and be waiting for a remote access when they can get someone with same skillset without struggling. How else do you expect me to advance my point than what I have already highlighted up there...you get astigmatism? |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 1:51pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
TV01: do you sometimes think about their take-home pay? to be perfectly honest - whether contracting or permie, i think it depends on what stage of life the person concerned is. if he's unmarried yet with no big family responsibility, contracting is the surer bet. if he's a newly wed.... permie is the better option. he has to stay near his wifey as contracting can take one to as far as anywhere in europe. if he's a settled family man with grown kids already, then whatever floats his boat should do. i like traveling.....i love the hotel life. wonlasewonimi: which gbese? so they won't incur gbese in yankee where they would be international students? even yankee citizens use grants to get into Ivy League schools. who didn't start with gbese? mortgage is not gbese? car finance isn't gbese? wonlash, i am 600% sure your iPhone is also gbese.
who says they don't work there? but they will be paid normal rates there. they won't pay them more because they are contractors in an investment bank. only the bankers get ridiculously paid.
NHS will treat me.
you haven't - your child does not have to study in the US. there are good schools here - plenty of them sef. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Sagamite(m): 2:08pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
TV01: Well said! Contractors don't get bonuses and the day contractors don't work, they don't get paid. So time-off work or on holiday can be pricey for contractors. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 2:24pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: This guy when your elders that are actually in the field are talking, you listen. If your employment comes with tuition for your children as part of the package(someone told me Shell does this but I have not confirmed) All you need to do every session is to go to your company HR and give them the bill and account details to remit it to. You go tell dem say na your wahala sort it. And, that is anywhere in the world. Olodo ni e jare. You have Vice President – Information Technology in JP Morgan, You could also have VP – Quality Assurance. You think when they give companywide bonuses, they ignore them? Learn boy, learn. Yeah NHS will treat you but if I can get better than NHS without stress why not? I have highlighted the points, it’s just that people like you need divine intervention to understand Tv01...you have spoken well |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 4:43pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
I think its down to what suits one best after one has considered all the pro's and cons I sit near a contractor who is always broke. . I can never understand why. . . although I do know that the more you make the more you spend. Ive also learnt that life is not always about money. You close your eyes one day and you are gone and so for me, having a good quality of life is very important to me and money does not fill all the gaps for me. Dont get me wrong, contracting is good for the money; but when I sat down and looked at it I found that I was better working as a permie for my situation. I am still in my bed when most contactors are fighting for train seats at Kings Cross Station. I can also work flexible hours (I dont know of one single contractor who works part time) . . . .and i work so close to home, a full tank of petrol lasts me a whole month. I also find that contractors get so used to the money that they even come to work in instances where a permie would have stayed at home. I worked with a girl who lied about her due date and worked up to Friday and had her baby on Sunday. They wont take annual leave or sick leave and come to work sniffing and with broken legs. Maybe if I was a batchelor in my twenties who didnt mind renting a flat or room in Manchester today and Oxford in the next 6 momths, then I would be a contractor |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 4:54pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar pray that you are not wholly dependent on the NHS if you have a life threatening disease that needs immediate treatment. An 8 week waiting list on the NHS will be a 1 week wait at a private hospital. If you have a growth, God forbid, that 7 week difference can mean the difference between life and death. Dont get me wrong, the NHS is great, but not every disease will wait for the NHS waiting list. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 5:10pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
chaircover: Maami to fine e ka san ma. E ku ijo meta. Coogar likes useless arguments so we know him but we know how to always treat his fuckups...he doesn't know diddly-squat about life. 3 Likes |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 5:23pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
chaircover: coogar: #sigh! |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 5:54pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: My bad . . I missed that bit You argue too much joor thats why I missed some of your post |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 5:56pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
wonlasewonimi: Lol this your user name always makes me smile Dont mind coogar He went and stole a picture of one gorgeous baby and said it was his. I thought he was a family man Then I started to come accross some of his arguments and then came to the realisation that he is 21 . . .and a baby 21 for that matter Now he is chasing one sister Ruth at Edwifes church |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 6:22pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
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Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Stillfire: 10:52pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Contractors are often broke! Anyway in continuation of the topic of this thread... Exclusive: Izuchukwu Ehiemere, Father of Alleged “Kidnapped by Grandma” 2 Year Old Nigerian UK Girl Tells BN his Side of the Story. Here’s Izu’s account: “My name is Izuchukwu Ehiemere and I am the biological father of Miss Liya Tinuke Temidun Ehiemere. To be frank, I met Miss Moronke Fadoju (Liya’s mother) at the University of Hertfordshire, United Kingdom and we began a casual friendship at the time. We were not in a “binding” relationship, it was purely casual. This relationship/friendship did not last up to three months of which I was informed by her that she was pregnant with my child. Naturally, I was surprised and in doubt but before I could make proper verifications, she had already informed everybody both domestically and internationally that myself and her were having a baby together. Furious at the time, admittedly I must have said some harsh things with which I regret till date but I accepted my responsibility and worked towards welcoming Liya into the world. I went as far as accommodating Moronke for some months as she had been evicted from her house. This idea didn’t go down well with my friends at the time but it was the right thing to do, up until my landlord discovered. To cut that story short, I remained actively involved even when she got a new place because the baby was fast approaching. I helped with the baby shower party, purchasing the baby cot, baby essentials etc. as well as transporting her to the hospital to give birth, and thankfully I witnessed the birth of Liya. I remained a key figure from Day 1 helping Moronke run errands since she was so weak after birth. I could go on and on about how actively involved I was but the point drew near when I had to return to Nigeria for my NYSC some months after Liya’s 1st birthday. I am sorry if going to serve my country portrayed me as an absent father. It does hurt a lot when Moronke says I never wanted Liya and I have never been there for her. If I was never there for Liya, she had the right to name Liya whatever she deemed fit and deny me parental responsibility. There is a reason why her surname is Ehiemere. Given that I have PR (Editor’s Note: Parental Rights) to Liya, I share equal responsibility over Liya unless Moronke has a court order stating otherwise. During the period of my return to Nigeria, we had an agreement that the best way to help Moronke as a new mother, was by both mothers from the maternal and paternal side taking intervals to travel to the UK to babysit Liya and enable Moronke go back to University. An agreement both families as well as Moronke were very receptive to. Labelling my mother as a squatter who relied on her assistance was very wrong. My mother handled every expenditure in Moronke’s household within her stay there and assisted to the best of her ability. (Bank Statements available as proof to that effect). My mother did not have to come to the UK but she did purely out of love, twice as a matter of fact. During her stay, things did not pan out well as my mother observed a lot of traits and behavioural patterns that could be of potential harm to the proper development of Liya. For good reasons, confidential information would not be disclosed here, but there is adequate evidence to prove our genuine concern for Liya’s welfare and wellbeing in the UK. Social Services were also involved and would know best. As a result of the potential risks to Liya’s welfare and wellbeing discovered, I granted my mother Power of Attorney to act on my behalf with matters regarding the welfare of Liya as I was not happy with the situation at hand and the best outcome was for Liya to be brought to Nigeria. Ronke’s family was informed that same day Liya arrived Nigeria including our exact location. Putting up that Instagram post on missing child was not called for, as they were duly informed. It seemed like a deliberate act to sabotage the good name of my family and indirectly hurt my mother. Kidnap is a harsh allegation and it was uncalled for in this regards. The blogs and messages were put up to generate undue sympathy and rage. They were too erratic. She remained in contact with Liya too, therefore I do not understand her claims of not being allowed to speak with Liya. Every decision that was taken was in the best interest of my daughter, Liya. She knows her father just as well as her mother, and I am not a stranger to her. Liya was never traumatized during her stay here, as a matter of fact, she was extremely happy to be reunited with her father in a cleaner and stable environment. There have never been issues between both families and the stories portrayed do not justify that. We remain as diplomatic as possible and would not result to name calling or war of words because we want peace to exist. I have no doubt with the events that have taken place and the publicity generated, more watchful eyes would be placed on Liya and her welfare going forward. This is all, we as a family have always wanted. http://www.bellanaija.com/2014/10/16/exclusive-izuchukwu-ehiemere-father-of-alleged-kidnapped-by-grandma-2-year-old-nigerian-uk-girl-tells-bn-his-side-of-the-story/ |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by coogar: 11:12pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
Stillfire: izu is an idiöt....
so he granted his kidnapper mother the power of attorney but was it with the consent of liya's mother? this is stealing - how can you take what belongs to someone else without her permission. then again, he said ronke's mother was informed the same day liya arrived in nigeria? why didn't they inform ronke's mother before the baby was taken from the UK? i hate it when a fool thinks he can play on my intelligence. this boy should be arrested. this is a conspiracy to kidnap a minor. he should have kept quiet instead of coming up with this crap. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Stillfire: 11:23pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
coogar: They think they are in the village where men do, act, breathe, poo as they like and think the mother's rights are inconsequential This is why feminism will continue to thrive as far as I'm alive!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The people that want to die because of that statement should begin to die. 4 Likes |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by soulglo: 11:27pm On Oct 16, 2014 |
He obviously thinks he's talking to children. He even took the time to write out how ignorant he is. It obviously runs in the family. Imagine someone with a functioning brain concluding that he can give POA to his mother to do anything she wishes to a child she has zero legal rights to. Is this his legal defense or just the random one he pulled out of his a55. I don't know about UK law but in the US this letter he wrote is probably what would make him lose any chance of custody. 2 Likes |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by pickabeau1: 4:57am On Oct 17, 2014 |
Interesting angle on damage limitation but he should not have kidnapped the girl. There is a double whammy over you on your actions Traditionally u are not married.... U have no rights over d child..... Igbo custom Modernically...u did not want the child...kidnap over waters is serious game. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by itstpia1: 5:36am On Oct 17, 2014 |
how is the child getting back into the UK? |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 5:57am On Oct 17, 2014 |
itstpia1:By Keke Marwa. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by Nobody: 6:08am On Oct 17, 2014 |
Lmao...I knew it was just a casual relationship. However, I still don't know why these chics always get pregnant, to be honest. That was the same way some any chic that wasn't even my gf told me she was pregnant with my baby when I was 19. GTFOHWTBS!! I just ran away from Uni till she found her baby's real dad. Anyway, that's no excuse for what ya mum did, bruv. Put ya mum in check next time, else she might not be lucky. They don't joke with minors out here. |
Re: UK-based Nigerian Mother Pleas For Help For Kidnapped Child by wonlasewonimi: 9:23am On Oct 17, 2014 |
chaircover: No wonder, I have been wasting my precious time with someone who just stopped breastfeeding. 1 Like |
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