parismarc:
I'm wondering why the husband didn't take her. Is she supposed to find her way to his village by her self?

parrotibaba:
she refused to come back

parismarc:
I'm wondering why the husband didn't take her. Is she supposed to find her way to his village by her self?

parismarc:


Come back from where? Are they not staying together?

parrotibaba:
what I meant was dat she refused to visit her husband's village despite pleas from both her husband n relatives

itstpia1:


her relatives or the husband's relatives?

why are they pleading with her to visit?

parrotibaba:
d husband's relatives n family...






...look man just drop ur opinion

Winneygirl:

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Drop opinion when there are so many unanswered questions??
Not everyone does things in a one-sided manner.

parrotibaba:
what is ur opinion of a woman/wife dat has not visited her husband's village for once since she was married? And judging from d look of things she has no tangible reason for it...

parrotibaba:
she refused to come back

crackhaus:

The look of what things?
Are you saying she has no reasons or that her reasons are not good enough?

Which leads to the next question;
What is/are her reason(s)?

Sophyrocks:
This Op sef. You dnt want to come out clean with more facts. The story is incomplete. There are underlying issues/problems between the woman, her husband and his people. What are those issues causing the woman to avoid her husband's hometown? what reasons did she give for refusing to go?

parrotibaba:
more like she believes dat d husband's family is conspiring against her which is a lie

parismarc:
Hmmmmm, I won't be surprised the hubby told her negative things about his village hence her reluctance.

Op, is it your wife we are talking about? If yes,what are her reasons for not wanting to go?

cococandy:
Why would she believe that? Any particular incidence took place that gave her that impression?

parrotibaba:
I suspect her side of d family might hv brainwashed her into thinking dat d husband's family wants to kill her or something

parrotibaba:
I suspect her side of d family might hv brainwashed her into thinking dat d husband's family wants to kill her or something

Sophyrocks:


You shouldnt conclude that her people are brainwashing her. That could lead to more feud between families. I feel she needs to open up more about what she saw or heard that made her conclude that they are conspiring against her. You can't make accusations like that without concrete proof. I hope she isnt the superstitious type that loves to point fingers.

parrotibaba:
what's hard to understand? A woman dat has refused to visit her husband's village since de got married despite pleas from d husband's family n relatives ...what's ur opinion? simple!






anyways ask ur questions

Godmystrength:
why does she think there is a conspiracy? Besides, you telling us that her reasons are not good enough is unaccept unless you tell is what her reason is exactly. You are uncle's family and will definitely be on his side whether right or wrong.

cococandy:
Just like that?
Haba what happened?

My family can't just wake up and start telling me my husband's family wants to kill me.

Something must have led to that. And if it is something genuine,then it's not surprising that she's reluctant to visit.

No one wants to play with their life even if the threat is very very minimal.

In fact if there's possibility of a quarrel or fight,someone like me won't even want to visit because I fear trouble pass anything. Not to talk of when I'm genuinely afraid for my life.

Finally why doesn't she trust her husband?
Even if I have issues with my in laws,as long as my husband dey my corner,I'll have no fear.
Something tells me she doesn't trust the man.

They need to sort out whatever is going on beneath before the visiting issue can be addressed.

Godmystrength:
suspects, suspicions, accusation here and there. beside, is you family doing anything to make her think so or did she tell you so or you went into her head to fish this out? What is your uncle saying about all these because it concerns him more than you....