Iolite:


Why the pleading from his relatives? From what I understand, she's been there before, she just refused to go after the wedding and the husband (ur Uncle) cannot do anything about. Na wao some women strong sha.

d tin strong ni ooh,she d rather spend her holidays abroad whilst her husband comes to d village alone

parrotibaba:
my uncle is not d autocratic type(if u understand) he just kept mum about it

oh really?? But if uncle is not showing concerns why are you fighting his battles for him?

@op, because she has refused to visit husband village, I think her husband should divorce her and marry another wife that would visit his village or better still kidnap her to the village if that's how you people are that desperate FULLSTOP

parrotibaba:
what I meant was dat she refused to visit her husband's village despite pleas from both her husband n relatives

SHE IS PLAYING WIT FIRE,wit d look of things ,she does not like inlaws ,just hoping for d good all d time ,may d man not die b4 his time ,am so sure she is already workin on her accounts if the man is financially comfortable.

Godmystrength:
why do you think she thinks that your family wants to kill her? What have you done to her in the past? Makes absolutely no sense to you bt it sure will make absolutely much sense to her

From my thorough investigation ,I don't think we (husband's family) has done anything dat she won't forgive(which means we hv nt done anything bad to her) ...n d most annoying part is dat u can't be comfortable when u visit her(n my uncle) at dia place in Lag

Godmystrength:
oh really?? But if uncle is not showing concerns why are you fighting his battles for him?

he is my family

parrotibaba:
dats d problem, what could possibly
cause dis kind of thought about her husband's family? dats why I suspect
brainwash from d other side of d Table

that is what you need to ask her. but na wa for you o. so anything a wife does dt doesn't go well wt hubby's fqmily must be brainwashing from her family. hmmm.

There's bad blood between the families.
That needs to be sorted out first. When everyone is sure no one is trying to kill them,visitng won't be an issue.

parrotibaba:
dats d problem, what could possibly cause dis kind of thought about her husband's family? dats why I suspect brainwash from d other side of d Table

parrotibaba:
what r ur suggestions?

I mentioned earlier that until she opens up about what she saw or heard for her to come to such conclusions, the issue will remain the same.

I suspect something.

Hmmmm Story For The gods

Godmystrength:
that is what you need to ask her. but na wa for you o. so anything a wife does dt doesn't go well wt hubby's fqmily must be brainwashing from her family. hmmm.

what do u suspect is d problem?

[quote
author=parrotibaba post=27006299] From my thorough investigation ,I
don't think we (husband's family) has done anything dat she won't
forgive(which means we hv nt done anything bad to her) ...n d most
annoying parties dat u can't be comfortable when u visit her(n my uncle)
at dia place in Lag[/quote]you can't be too sure. meanwhile what makes you uncomfortable when you visit? Your uncle, his wife or just you?

Sophyrocks:


I mentioned earlier that until she opens up about what she saw or heard for her to come to such conclusions, the issue will remain the same.

I suspect something.

@bolded, which is?

Godmystrength:
you can't be too sure. meanwhile what makes you uncomfortable when you visit? Your uncle, his wife or just you?

his wife ,n not just me but everyone else,from my grams to my cousins n aunts

parrotibaba:
what do u suspect is d problem?

only the wife will know what the problem is. plus whoever has done her strong thing/she has done strong thing to in your family

Godmystrength:
only the wife will know what the problem is. plus whoever has done her strong thing/she has done strong thing to in your family

ok

parrotibaba:
@bolded, which is?

I feel you are still being economical with some info that could help. Perhaps you are trying to keep it within the family buh its all good. Maybe a round table meeting between she, her husband and both families would do some good. If the meeting ends up being inconclusive, then she should be left alone.

parrotibaba:
what is ur opinion of a woman/wife dat has not visited her husband's village for once since she was married? And judging from d look of things she has no tangible reason for it...

Nothing spoil. The husband is fine with it obviously so it's cool.

Don't think this should be anyone's wahala.

ifyalways:

Nothing spoil. The husband is fine with it obviously so it's cool.

Don't think this should be anyone's wahala.

so as a woman its cool not to visit ur husband's village n see his family?

parrotibaba:
so as a woman its cool not to visit ur husband's village n see his family?

Is this about me or "Your" story/question?

Abeg, chop your thread. Byeeee

ifyalways:

Is this about me or "Your" story/question?

Abeg, chop your thread. Byeeee

A thread opened to solve an ongoing situation n u think it's funny?

parrotibaba:
d husband's relatives n family...






...look man just drop ur opinion

I don't understand why anyone would be pleading in that situation?

I feel the OP should mind his business but I have an issue with this woman if what the OP is saying is true. She could handle it until they got married so I think she's being unfair. She did what was necessary to get the ring and made up her mind without discussing with her husband that she would not entertain his family after the wedding. I doubt that she told him that she would never go home with him after the wedding. It's sneaky in my opinion. Not fair to the man or the kids.

Why are you taking panadol for your uncles headache?

Whats so special about visiting the village anyway?

You never know. It could be that she had a bad experience the last time she was there and has decided not to tell anyone about it.

Careful, @op.

You're starting to sound quite evil. Why do you hate her so much?

Where are you from? East? West? North? Or south? Where is she from?

EfemenaXY you nailed it. The OP clearly hates his uncles wife and note the way he refers to her family with disdain. I am sure the woman has sensed this hatred and would rather keep away

ladygogo:
Why are you taking panadol for your uncles headache?

Whats so special about visiting the village anyway?

You never know. It could be that she had a bad experience the last time she was there and has decided not to tell anyone about it.

dude he's my uncle n am not d only one who is worried abt dis situation

shooze:
EfemenaXY you nailed it. The OP clearly hates his uncles wife and note the way he refers to her family with disdain. I am sure the woman has sensed this hatred and would rather keep away

dude a family dat allows dis to happen without doing anything is not a good one don't u think? I don't hate her ,it's being over 10yrs since dis situation has being lingering n its being too much ,so d question u should be asking is dis "what is her own family doing about it?" while our own family has being pleading for to at least come back for once

EfemenaXY:
Careful, @op.
You're starting to sound quite evil. Why do you hate her so much?
Where are you from? East? West? North? Or south? Where is she from?

we r both from d east n am not evil, its a family situation n everybody(including me) is starting to feel worried...if I hate her,I wouldn't hv opened dis thread or worried abt dis case cos u might never know d future

Op just come out straight, your family hates the woman shikina.

amanda2013:
Op just come out straight, your family hates the woman shikina.

so we hate her n we r pleading for her to come back village abi? ,we just want to solve dis issue once n for all... u begin to wonder what is d reason behind being treated unfairly if u visit her home in lag

This woman is obviously doubtful of her in-laws. The more they insist that she visits, the more scared she becomes.

Why are you pleading?? Wetin una wan use am do for una village?? Why can't y'all visit her in Lagos and squash this once and for all??

If Mohammed wouldn't go to the mountain, then the mountain should go to Mohammed. (lol, I think that's how the saying goes)

BananaBender:
This woman is obviously doubtful of her in-laws. The more they insist that she visits, the more scared she becomes.

Why are you pleading?? Wetin una wan use am do for una village?? Why can't y'all visit her in Lagos and squash this once and for all??

If Mohammed wouldn't go to the mountain, then the mountain should go to Mohammed. (lol, I think that's how the saying goes)

dats d problem, we r scattered across d country n abroad n only during d Christmas period do we come together in one place =The village.., now what stops her from coming back? n more over my grams went dia 4yrs ago n she was treated like sh*t dia,she had to leave...