Well, here's a new one. If u are in any of those ships, here's a thread for ya. All question on any of those issues will b answered to ur satisfaction. Myself n a couple other professionals will try to keep u on the ryt track. Good thing about Nairaland, almost everybody is anonymous so ur problems wil be treated as such.
Am ur In house physician n my name is...
...Dr Kiss

vizkiz:
Sorry, i don't belong to any of those ship(s)....i am in a furckship

it's still a Ship n things could get messy even in dt ship especially if d other party sees d ship in another light

I knw am typin dis piece 4m dream land,until i wake i wont comment

Seems interesting....

Its like your "relationship" has two ships

Nice idea man

Hmmm... It's like my own ship never reach offshore, it's named FRIENDZONESHIP .
I'll wait for someone who's in the same ship with me, hopefully there are no "Rose and Jack on this ship (thread) that will sink it before we (friendzoneship) reach offshore.

Good idea op, just that nairalanders have been lying since the time of Aristotle, and they may turn this counsellor zone to lying zone . God Bless U op...

good. waiting

Bunchersstab:
I knw am typin dis piece 4m dream land,until i wake i wont comment

for most of us, sleep is the only time we rest. If u are still typing in the dream land, u do need our advice

Afrok:
Hmmm... It's like my own ship never reach offshore, it's named FRIENDZONESHIP .
I'll wait for someone who's in the same ship with me, hopefully there are no "Rose and Jack on this ship (thread) that will sink it before we (friendzoneship) reach offshore.

Good idea op, just that nairalanders have been lying since the time of Aristotle, and they may turn this counsellor zone to lying zone . God Bless U op...

u r a funny one. If anyone here was around in d days of Aristotle then they should be wise enof bot to lie. The thing is we help people here n we can't help if its a lie. I do pray we get serious people in here. Thanks man

chinziaski:
Its like your "relationship" has two ships

you are very observant my man. I guess dt comes from creating a new thread dt late in d night. Ope u guys won't hold dt against me. Btw can i change dt?

Bishopskiss:

you are very observant my man. I guess dt comes from creating a new thread dt late in d night. Ope u guys won't hold dt against me. Btw can i change dt?

Yeah! You can change it. Just modify your original post.

Well. Interesting. No wonder he made me sign up.
well. I hope we can save the world by helping people in here.
I am Dr Peaches and i wish you a happy Sunday and a fulfilled week

chinziaski:


Yeah! You can change it. Just modify your original post.

done. Thanks man. U've proved urself valuable to d counsellors office.

Bishopskiss:

done. Thanks man. U've proved urself valuable to d counsellors office.

Thanks sir,

Bishopskiss:

u r a funny one. If anyone here was around in d days of Aristotle then they should be wise enof bot to lie. The thing is we help people here n we can't help if its a lie. I do pray we get serious people in here. Thanks man

I pray so too, coz someone like me will definitely learn one or two things from the counselling zone. U are welcome sir...

Bishopskiss:

for most of us, sleep is the only time we rest. If u are still typing in the dream land, u do need our advice

You can only inspire someone when you know what they dont...
What do you have to say that i dont already know

Bunchersstab:
You can only inspire someone when you know what they dont...
What do you have to say that i dont already know

we are not here to inspire. We are here to help people sail their relationShips the ryt way

OK..following

Kissbliss:

we are not here to inspire. We are here to help people sail their relationShips the ryt way

I would luv to know to know how successful you are in your past and present r/ships.

Bunchersstab:
I would luv to know to know how successful you are in your past and present r/ships.

am not dating for now. Men are distractions i dont need at the moment

Kissbliss:

am not dating for now. Men are distractions i dont need at the moment

how possibly give wat u dnt have

Truth is I'm inbetween


Infact I'm confused

Bunchersstab:
how possibly give wat u dnt have

am not dating doesn't mean ve never dated.

Ok here is mine! I have been engaged to this man, I love him and I feel he loves me .. Couple of months ago I travelled to visit my parents so I stayed for close to a month cos i had to settle all the wedding arrangements ( pay for hall food, see the priest etc) I and my fiancée were all lovey dovey on phone all these while. One morning he called me with a very harsh tone started shouting at me that he doesn't understand this my traditional marriage list, I was trying to explain that if the burden was too much we can shift it he started scolding me to keep quiet. That In fact him and his father would come to see my dad to review the list. When he said that I was upset. He came to ask for my hand in marriage December 2010 till now he has been very sluggish! My parents are bugging me on that why the delay, besides June this year my fiancé came to see my dad to review this same list and my dad scraped lots of things off, my fiancé now fixed a date for trad and informed my dad, so I was upset cos this issue has been over flogged, my fiancé is stable financially and can do it in a heart beat if he means to.. I asked him where he was he told me he was in his village and him and his dad had concluded to come the next week to review this same list. So I asked him why is it that when he goes to his village his attitude towards me changes? ( this is not the first time oo) he started yelling at me that he would call my father and tell him how I hate his village people. He called my father, the whole thing escalated now the wedding has been stalled. I want to know if I am wrong here. Thank you .

Ever since his father accompanied my fiancé to my house to meet my dad for the first time my parents familiarized with his father ( his mom stayed back she is not so strong) although she travels, till date his dad has never called my parents to for once. Neither has his mom how can we be planning a wedding by December and the both parents never communicated is it a healthy one? I am baffled cos my fiancé is almost obsessed about his parents and lets them make decisions for him, after he called my father to complain that I hate his village people, I was angry with my fiancé so we started to argue via text msg. So I noticed that I would send him a text and he wld reply me with a number I wasn't familiar with. he sent me over 10 msgs with it so I decided to reply him with that ( but my instincts warned me that it may be a trap) but then he just got another new phone so I felt it was a new phone line he bought. So I sent him a text msg to stay away from me that he is not husband material and he has not learnt from his past experiences that he is a puppet. He replied immediately with that same phone number that I should expatiate on what I meant by that text, that was around 1am. I ignored he repeatedly sent me the msgs that I shld explain better but I slept off. The next day his uncles started calling me that they saw the msg I sent to my fiancé father! That his father sent for all his aunt's and uncles to show them what I sent to him. Then I knew that it was just a trap. Though the wedding is on hold and I have left him he still calls me to come visit him but I am just tired of all this drama that comes with him and his family!(pls correct me if I am wrong) thank you.

xtassie:
Ever since his father accompanied my fiancé to my house to meet my dad for the first time my parents familiarized with his father ( his mom stayed back she is not so strong) although she travels, till date his dad has never called my parents to for once. Neither has his mom how can we be planning a wedding by December and the both parents never communicated is it a healthy one? I am baffled cos my fiancé is almost obsessed about his parents and lets them make decisions for him, after he called my father to complain that I hate his village people, I was angry with my fiancé so we started to argue via text msg. So I noticed that I would send him a text and he wld reply me with a number I wasn't familiar with. he sent me over 10 msgs with it so I decided to reply him with that ( but my instincts warned me that it may be a trap) but then he just got another new phone so I felt it was a new phone line he bought. So I sent him a text msg to stay away from me that he is not husband material and he has not learnt from his past experiences that he is a puppet. He replied immediately with that same phone number that I should expatiate on what I meant by that text, that was around 1am. I ignored he repeatedly sent me the msgs that I shld explain better but I slept off. The next day his uncles started calling me that they saw the msg I sent to my fiancé father! That his father sent for all his aunt's and uncles to show them what I sent to him. Then I knew that it was just a trap. Though the wedding is on hold and I have left him he still calls me to come visit him but I am just tired of all this drama that comes with him and his family!(pls correct me if I am wrong) thank you.

wow. And i was here thinking ve heard it all. One thing we do here is give advice n make suggestions but the final decision lies wit u. Like i tell young girls who come to me, courtship is fine but if it takes too long it becomes ugly. Wen i first read ur post i was thinking. God! Dat list must ve been quite expensive but i dnt think so now. Here are my suggestions;
1. Its likely dat his parents dont really like u n are not in support of d marriage hence d problems once he goes to d village. Probably they ve someone they deem a better candidate for him.
2. Maybe he is developing cold feets and he is not sure marrying you is the ryt choice to make.
3. They myt b a secret, or a problem. Something u dont know about him which is standing in the way. He doesn't know how u will react wen u find out.
Well, my advice is simple. Its never wise to marry into any family dt doesn't like u. I believe u need to make a stand n so does he. Communication is very important. Make him tell u wat the problem is n promise to help him work it out. Personally i wonder, if d wedding is ds troublesome how will marriage be? If all ds things can't be resolve 'soon' then u myt just ve to let him go so someone who understands you myt come in. If he is having second thoughts about marrying u then i think somethin has changed for him. Find out what and take ur stand. It myt hurt to let go but it gonna hurt more in d long run if u keep holding on to an illusion.
God bless u

Kissbliss:

wow. And i was here thinking ve heard it all. One thing we do here is give advice n make suggestions but the final decision lies wit u. Like i tell young girls who come to me, courtship is fine but if it takes too long it becomes ugly. Wen i first read ur post i was thinking. God! Dat list must ve been quite expensive but i dnt think so now. Here are my suggestions;
1. Its likely dat his parents dont really like u n are not in support of d marriage hence d problems once he goes to d village. Probably they ve someone they deem a better candidate for him.
2. Maybe he is developing cold feets and he is not sure marrying you is the ryt choice to make.
3. They myt b a secret, or a problem. Something u dont know about him which is standing in the way. He doesn't know how u will react wen u find out.
Well, my advice is simple. Its never wise to marry into any family dt doesn't like u. I believe u need to make a stand n so does he. Communication is very important. Make him tell u wat the problem is n promise to help him work it out. Personally i wonder, if d wedding is ds troublesome how will marriage be? If all ds things can't be resolve 'soon' then u myt just ve to let him go so someone who understands you myt come in. If he is having second thoughts about marrying u then i think somethin has changed for him. Find out what and take ur stand. It myt hurt to let go but it gonna hurt more in d long run if u keep holding on to an illusion.
God bless u

Thank you! I have called off the wedding I am concerned about the future and it seams bleak with him, if I go to visit him at his place and we have a little misunderstanding he wld just dash out of the house enter his car and zoom off straight to his village stay there for 3 days no text, no calls nothing. It is getting worse by the day. by the way this is his 3rd attempt to marry and he has even printed invitation cards just like our own.. for his previous exes one thing or the other the marriage plans would be scattered. And I remember the first time I asked him why he broke off his engagement with his ex fiancé he said 'cos she just hates my mother', now it is my turn and he is saying the same thing about me, I asked him how come all your exes hates your mother? He is in his late 30's 40 next year and yet he still dosnt get it! I am not the too spiritual kind but this the only explanation I can understand from this whole thing is that he may be under a spell cos talking to him is like talking to a brick wall, his parents dislikes any woman that comes close to him, but their hatred for me increased when I insisted he moved out of his parents house,, that was what caused his former engagement to end the lady wanted him to move out then his family said he should call it off, and till date you see him and his mother constantly criticizing his ex fiancé how she is a witch and so forth (I wonder what they would be saying about me) His father tells him to just get me pregnant that after 3 children we can now do marriage then we are sure that we can live as husband and wife I refused and insisted I would do court and trad marriage. So many reasons why they don't like me. He keeps telling me his parents like me but I honestly do not see the love. They are sarcastic and hostile to me with style. Well I thank God it is all over.

Kissbliss:

am not dating doesn't mean ve never dated.

so y did it end?

I don't belong here because I have a phobia of ships and double dose of serious Thalassophobia

there is this lady who flirts with me and says all kinds of erotic things to me when we outside , she gets jealous when. i talk about my g/f ...buh d problem is when i try to make advances towards her when we alone she shuts me out...d last one i tried she hit me on d back and was vexed.....abeg make una advice me coz i fink i have been friendzoned nd d question is....y will you flirt with me outside even in front my friends and become something else when we alone.....i guesss women are more complicated than i thought.......oh i forgot to mention that we have been friends and coursemates for years now....been a loyalist to her academically tho.....smh!!!