Thank God me I get one nice naija igbo lady for the past 4 years who has never failed me. I thank her for making a difference. However the more I hear what some of our naija sistas do to men the more I shiver and tremble. Some ladies are the reason some men treat our naija sistas as suspects from day-one until proven innocent.

1). I Ran into a man last week in Canada who said he’s been training a naija girl for the past 4yrs in college & they both agreed to marry this year. My dude traveled to Naija in March as they agreed for the trad only to find out that another home-based dude has started paying dowry on the same lady. My dude came back empty-handed, heart-broken. 4yrs investment lost, travel fare lost, souvenir he bought for the wedding lost, time out of work lost. Now dude is just mean and heartless when you mention naija girl. Good a thing I heard the home-based man also abandoned the heartless double-dating girl from a popular town close to Owerri (won’t mention the community. I no wan die). As at the time of my post that sista is still single. She lost both end.

2). This one sef, I no understand. A naija babe at Abuja is in the center of a heated confrontation. She has been double-dating 2 guys. The guy at Abuja is no-nonsense, mean, aggressive and beats the crap out of her. The one at Lagos is very educated, nice, gentle and respects her. My dude at Lagos said each time he visits Abuja this girl will refuse to spend a night with him; she prefers to come, rush-rush, and go for fear of being beaten up by the Abuja-based man if he finds out. Meanwhile, she spends weekend at the mean guy’s house, cooking, washing, and cleaning otherwise the man will ‘panel-beat her’. Her reason is that the mean guy promised to marry her. Haba! My dude was swearing to start being mean and ruthless to her now to get his own respect?...LoL!

3). This one is a female corper. She is a serial use-and-dump expert. She left trails of using and dumping any man she dated. Once their money and gifts stops following she finds a flimsy reason dumps them and block all contacts. She just got another mugu where she was posted. But a concerned friend who knows her well back in school in the East has warned the new dude about this girl’s records. My dude is now confused how to proceed because the thing that happened to others will likely happen to him too. But from the outside there’s nothing about this girl that warns you she’s creepy. She dresses modestly, acts like a reserved person, and even goes to Pentecostal church. but my dude is threading with caution now especially as the girl just said she wants to delay intimacy in the relationship till they are stronger.

Please Naija men and women, who’s more responsible for the lack of respect some men have for the women in relationships?

the man.....until men understand their role and start functioning accurately as men .......the trouble continues....

The magas and mugus.

God help us.

If only Nollywood will do a talent hunt on Nairaland...........


We have so many amazing fiction writers here

BananaBender:
If only Nollywood will do a talent hunt on Nairaland...........


We have so many amazing fiction writers here

Yes dear, you are absolutely correct. Amazingly the characters are in Nairaland too...when it hits them...they scream "Nollywood Script" to cover themselves. The truth is Nollywood stories are based on real-life stories. Keep doing, we keep writing ur script, and Nollwood keeps acting it.

"...Always ask your date how his/her previous dates and relationships ended and what they think about ex's. If u discern spirit of deceit, lack of emotions, resentment, hate, hurt, creepy nature and vengeance, thread with caution. That's who he/she really is. Your own story shall be told one day when you become Ex....."

no! some men are heartless and cheating monkeys who do not consider girls they blame everything on the girls leaving their own faults!

EroticAngelina:
no! some men are heartless and cheating monkeys who do not consider girls they blame everything on the girls leaving their own faults!

you are exactly one of the examples the bigheartman illuminated on this thread - no wonder you fücked your gateman the other time.

Choi...... ....

People dey suffer oo

Am quite selective about the kind of lady i respect nowsday. Watching ladies dance uncald in most music videos breaks my heart , i was in a friend's house, i saw a 5yr boy watching Music video of wizkid showing ladies shaking their booties, do you think he will grow up to respect ladies, honestly i felt ashamed that day. Not to talk of the popular road side prostitue \, alot of ladies now show their cleavages in pictures... The fact remains any guy will respect a decent girl anyday anytime.

Women raised with low self-esteem issues!
100% YES!
They should DIE inside the abuse.
No sympathies!
Amen.


If na to fight other women for the same BEASTS OF MEN . . . dem mouth go dey run like 'mmiri jordan' ati 'by the rivers of babylon'!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

Yes of course they contribute to it.

The amount of shyt thrown at you is directly proportional to the amount of shyt you've shown you can swallow.

Most Nigerian women have an immense threshold for maltreatment. Can't blame the dudes who disrespect them when they've shown they don't mind being disrespected.

It' will stop when they've had enough.
Until then...

Kanwulia:
Women raised with low self-esteem issues!
100% YES!
They should DIE inside the abuse.
No sympathies!
Amen.


If na to fight other women for the same BEASTS OF MEN . . . dem mouth go dey run like 'mmiri jordan' ati 'by the rivers of babylon'!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

Funny enough you are right

Kanwulia:
Women raised with low self-esteem issues!
100% YES!
They should DIE inside the abuse.
No sympathies!
Amen.


If na to fight other women for the same BEASTS OF MEN . . . dem mouth go dey run like 'mmiri jordan' ati 'by the rivers of babylon'!
Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew!!!

Nawa o! Does it then mean that a very large population of ladies in Naija are raised with low self-esteem? Because the things ladies do there these days in relationships are baffling...

Poverty is the key issues to all this problems
And the orientation they got right from childhood that a man is meant to take care of them and shoulder all their responsibility and their families when they are not even married..... ......

Bad friends and peer pressure play some bad role on this too.
Oh do you remember alhaji, he takes care of my major need. School fee
Femi is responsible for recharge cards
Efe is my escort If i want to eat out. He buys everything. And re stocks my wardrobe
Emeka is my true love. I will marry him because he has a bright future even though he is a student now, I know he will be working tomorrow. And we settle down.

When other girls heard all that, they feel it is the best way to live and start acting the same

cococandy:
Yes of course they contribute to it.

The amount of shyt thrown at you is directly proportional to the amount of shyt you've shown you can swallow.

Most Nigerian women have an immense threshold for maltreatment. Can't blame the dudes who disrespect them when they've shown they don't mind being disrespected.

It' will stop when they've had enough.
Until then...

You spoke my mind. Some keep taking poo, thinking they are being "good" so as to get the guys to marry them. This same guys leave them to marry the so called "no nonsense" women. Irony of life!

What you want is what you get.

cococandy:
Yes of course they contribute to it.

The amount of shyt thrown at you is directly proportional to the amount of shyt you've shown you can swallow.

Most Nigerian women have an immense threshold for maltreatment. Can't blame the dudes who disrespect them when they've shown they don't mind being disrespected.

It' will stop when they've had enough.
Until then...

They are built for it

And how do they get to prove their 'submissiveness'?

coogar:


you are exactly one of the examples the bigheartman illuminated on this thread - no wonder you fücked your gateman the other time.

punchline hahhahaa lols lmao

bukatyne:


They are built for it

And how do they get to prove their 'submissiveness'?

through taking in all the punches and slaps I really appreciate women who date hyper active and rude guy just for marriage they are trying

samflexxy:
through taking in all the punches and slaps I really appreciate women who date hyper active and rude guy just for marriage they are trying

LOL

The Nigerian god will continue to bless their 'hustle'

Richy4:
Poverty is the key issues to all this problems
And the orientation they got right from childhood that a man is meant to take care of them and shoulder all their responsibility and their families when they are not even married..... ......

Bad friends and peer pressure play some bad role on this too.
Oh do you remember alhaji, he takes care of my major need. School fee
Femi is responsible for recharge cards
Efe is my escort If i want to eat out. He buys everything. And re stocks my wardrobe
Emeka is my true love. I will marry him because he has a bright future even though he is a student now, I know he will be working tomorrow. And we settle down.

When other girls heard all that, they feel it is the best way to live and start acting the same

These are more of eroded values and poor family upbringing than poverty issues. Even abroad I know ladies from other African countries who are poorer than our girls who do not expect men to take care of their problems, and won't do the types of things our girls do just to get by. These girls even talk about the eroded values of some of the female colleagues and friends from Nigeria as a turn-off.