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I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 6:53pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Hi guys,i just said yes to my boyfriend of 2 years but i still have doubts because there are some of his characters that i dont want in a husband.E.g The fact that he makes business and money a priority over me and so on.Should i go ahead and marry him or i should quit the relationship now that i still can? Will he ever change? |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 6:55pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
is that the only character flaw you observed abeautifulchick: |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:04pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
pickabeau1:That is the one that hurt me most and he can even abandon me just for a drink with his friends e.g he have abandoned me at the airport once with heavy luggages and said i should pick a cab just because he was busy hanging out with his friends.But he gives me almost anything i asked for financially. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:05pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
*space booked* |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 7:07pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: would you have said yes if he is a poverty-stricken bicycle repairer? 24 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:11pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar:Yes.What matters most to me is love. 8 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Tallesty1(m): 7:12pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
What do women want? 12 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by TV01(m): 7:14pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Tallesty1:...to be led by strong men. Fact about female behaviour and human nature! @OP, if you meet someone who has all you want in a husband, what will you do? TV 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 7:15pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: you would go out with a vulcaniser? why do you women always pretend money does not matter when selecting a suitor? your boyfriend was trained very well. growing up, i was told countless times to chase the money....if a guy chases the dough, girls will chase him. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by naijaboiy: 7:19pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Tallesty1:They actually don't know 5 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:19pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: My sister, the bolded isnt a good sign. Anything you know you cannot deal with or succcessfully live with for the rest of your life, do not accept when dating. But lemme guess, you ignored all these because of what you get from him. And now that he has proposed, you suddenly remembered that he has flaws. You could have raised this issue while getting to know him and see if he could make changes. You are funny o. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by naijaboiy: 7:20pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Op don't tell me you want to marry a poverty stricken man Take a chill pill |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:20pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Tallesty1:We cherish attention and the op's guy seems not to be giving her that..... 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 7:22pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod: will he kill himself? if he concentrates too much on attention, he will be broke. he's a young man - he's making hay while the sun shines. na "attention" go pay brideprice? will "attention" pay bills? 10 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:24pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
naijaboiy:what are you saying? ? so because the man has money, she should overlook all his flaws?? is he the only rich guy?? op, don't know what to tell you really. .. didn't you see this flaw all along or you were enjoying his cash? ... Have tried talking to him about how you feel?? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by pickabeau1: 7:24pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick: So he abandoned you once and you believe that he does not care about you He may be a pragmatic fellow that feels it is better to spend 50 dollars than spend 500 dollars in traffic Time is money One more question Are you working or a student Age gap between u and him Also has he ever consulted u on anything before and what was that 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by JayKayMaybachz(m): 7:28pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar:The truth is that gals are so clueless..... Like Tallesty1 asked, what do women want? .... Hmmmm ah tiree for dem oooo.... which kain tin.......
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Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by TV01(m): 7:28pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod:..."wool over eyes alert" - guys don't fall for this - Women do not base their marital choices on the level of attention - in fact the opposite. TV 10 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:29pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar:So making money while still giving his gf necessary(not excessive) attention will kill him?? Ain't there rich guys who give their wives attention? how can he prefer staying out with friends to spending time with his Fiancee?? That's not a good sign because he may keep late nights after marriage. . Op, are you boring a person? ? Just figuring why he may not be spending much time with ya 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by BABE3: 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar: you dey mind them. Small girls. If you don't want to put up with a broke man, you have to put up with a busy man. For all we know, his "friends" could be business associates. Even if there're not, what's the big deal in taking a cab (not even danfo) home from the airport? It's not like she'll carry the "heavy" bags on her head; and the man will still foot the cab bill anyway. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by JayKayMaybachz(m): 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
pickabeau1:The Op need this
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Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by okotv(m): 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick:sorry to say this but I think you are not yet ready for that big step.... |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:32pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Sophyrocks:So on point! !!! 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 7:33pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod: there is no rich man who sits down at home dishing out attention unless he's 50+. young men go out there to make what they can before age starts slowing them down. money/career should take priority over any woman.
OP is probably an oliver twist. she admitted she gets whatever she wants & yet she still wants his time. she forgets that time is what has been providing the things she has been getting. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by naijaboiy: 7:33pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
MarvellousGod:Cut that Bullshit no lady will marry any man who is poor...including the Op. If the man loves her too much and he is poor,,she wont marry him. Now he is hustling for their betterment and she is complaining You women are confused 2 Likes |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by thorpido(m): 7:34pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
The 'flaws' you raised are not really issues IMO.He didn't come to pick you but he payed for the cab,innit? You are talking marriage and you don't know that comes with a lot of bills to be paid? Women want attention but they also want things that money has to be paid for.Even if a lady is saying I'm not asking him for cash,what about things that money will still need to be paid for? |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by audreybrian(f): 7:36pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Hmmm.Pls think carefully.Marry a man that truly cares for you not money. 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by coogar: 7:37pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
BABE3: she will not even marry a broke man! who wan suffer?
yes na..... taking the cab from the airport is such a huge task. no nigerian woman has ever achieved using the cab from the airport before. what a wicked boyfriend!!! some women need to be flogged. |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by naijaboiy: 7:38pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
coogar:Spot on 1 Like |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Nobody: 7:39pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
abeautifulchick:Forgive me, I think you have unrealistic expectations. First of all, I find it unbelievable that your boyfriend would "abandon" you at the airport to go drink with friends, this means he was at the airport with you but left to go have a drink; or did you call him after arrival and he told you to pick a cab because he was with friends at th time you got to the airport and called? Also, when you say he places business and money over you, what exactly do you mean? That he'd rather make money than hang out with you or he prefers being with his chequebook and office documents than being in your company? |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by Tallesty1(m): 7:40pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Broke guys give alot of that MarvellousGod:and women don't like broke guys. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Just Said Yes To The Big Question But I Still Have Doubts. by thorpido(m): 7:41pm On Oct 14, 2014 |
Unrealistic comments from some ladies here.They're talking about a guy that cares. Abeg,na wetin man dey take do this care? 1 Like |
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