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Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Samuel1402(m): 11:50am On Nov 04, 2014 |
They both got married twelve years ago, up till now no child. The problem is the man have low sperm count, they went for different type of test and treatment but yet not result tho low sperm count is curable but age is not on their side the man is fourty years old and the lady is 36years. In few years the lady may not be able to conceive again now the anxiety of this problem is affecting this lady and her marriage cos if in the next five years or less she enter menopause and cannot conceive again and probably tha man later get solution to his problem when she can no longer get pregnant. Now SHOULD SHE SACRIFICE THE MARRIAGE NOW AND GET HOOK TO ANOTHER PERSON TO BECOME A MOTHER OR STAY WITH THIS MAN WITH ZERO HOPE note after a series of test the woman is perfectly OK please ur word of wisdom is needed here thanks. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 11:54am On Nov 04, 2014 |
Never underestimate the power of miracles... They should try adoption. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by briantext(m): 11:55am On Nov 04, 2014 |
She said I DO when she was asked wether she will stand by the man in every condition |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 12:40pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Samuel1402: Marriage is through thick and thin she never knows what going to happen next. I hope she finds it in her heart to trust God and be patient miracles do happen. 1 Like |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Ab025(m): 5:25pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
women are very selfish human beings, they only think of themselves most times and what they feel they need Our Nigerian women of nowadays lack PATIENCE and are always in a hurry. she should leave her husband if she feel having a baby is superior to the marriage or for the gear of menopause, that's her business, but remember, there is a GOD Ordinary 36yrs of age!! 1 Like |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 5:41pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
some of the available solutions are 1. adoption 2. get a sperm donor and try artificial insemination if they can afford it. 2 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 6:50pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Remember, your mum, sister(s) and aunts are also women You just called Dear woman who gave you life selfish Ab025: 6 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Ab025(m): 11:06pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Mizchief: yes, my mum and sisters are women but it doesn't change the fact that u all are selfish and only think about yourselves most times |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Kanwulia: 11:10pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
Arrrrrrant NONSENSE! After over 10 years of marriage? The white race is TRULY SUPERIOR! |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 11:20pm On Nov 04, 2014 |
If d man has low sperm count as u claim, der a lot of herbal medicines dat can take care of dat na. Iyanmi! Even if he sticks to two bottles of asheitu bitters a month for a period of 6 months, d mata go cure na. Why is it such a big issue? Am sure u guys hav not tried natural remedies, as in herbal solutions. Hay! Am not saying u shd just start doing asheitu bitters oh! But u need to see a herbal doctor. Some times d solution to our problem is often overlooked. Why not give it a shot and thank me later, say afta 6 months of consistent consistency. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by bukatyne(f): 12:35am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Ab025: Bros, please keep quiet! A typical man would have had kids outside or married another wife if his wife was the cause If you saw a 36yr old unmarried woman, would you tell her 'just 36ys'? Sometimes I don't understand some people Advise her to stay if you will but cut that crap of selfishness 14 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 2:21am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Samuel1402: Marriage is for better or worse Let them go and adopt,I wonder why it's taken her 12 years to come to terms with her reality As soon as she found out he couldn't father a child,she should have started adoptions immediately Let her go and adopt two immediately.one boy and one girl Children are not just your children when they come from your womb 3 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by GboyegaD(m): 3:37am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Mizchief: You don't have to twist his words to make your point. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by GboyegaD(m): 3:41am On Nov 05, 2014 |
I don't know why she got married in the first instance thus, it is difficult to advise. If get reason for marrying in the 1st instance is having kids, then she is difficult to advice. If it is for companionship, she can go adopt. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by jumbotron: 5:17am On Nov 05, 2014 |
babyosisi: 100% agree. Poster, she should not leave her marriage. Yea yea, if the tables were turned, it might be a different story but we should strive to do what is right and not compete with others and in doing so do the wrong thing. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 6:32am On Nov 05, 2014 |
She should get a second husband. 4 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by gidjah(m): 7:21am On Nov 05, 2014 |
PLS ADOPT A CHILD AND GO herbal ,that will sure help |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 7:48am On Nov 05, 2014 |
They should exhaust all possible scientific means. Why continue waiting for a miracle? Meanwhile, the woman dey approach or has even reached menopause sef. I trust my Naija brothers, dem go done get like 15 children outside. . No time abeg. 1 Like |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 9:09am On Nov 05, 2014 |
Get a spe- rm donor abeg or adopt, you can get someone from the family or go anonymous. The world is developing lets develop our minds too and move away from archaic mentality. If you have fertility issues instead of running from church to church drinking concoctions go to the hospital and as early as you can as soon as you can afford too start medical intervention. Why would anyone be thinking of leaving their spouse due to infertility when technology has helped us find solutions? 1 Like |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by cococandy(f): 6:06pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
Sperm donor. That's the surest way. At least they can still experience pregnancy as a husband and wife if they don't like the idea of bringing an already made baby into the home |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by bennyrazz: 11:34pm On Nov 05, 2014 |
@op they can still conceive if they have the faith. all the man needs to do is to keep on praying "oh lord increase my sperm" 24hrs a day. Surely God will hear is cry one day. shallom |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by EfemenaXY: 3:16am On Nov 06, 2014 |
Ab025: Would you be singing the same song if it was the other way round? @op: it's quite difficult to say. Having kids - for most West African, or better still, Nigerian marriages is the deal breaker. I can't explain it, but for many of our women, nothing on earth beats having your very own flesh and blood, and the husband could find himself becoming second place. Twelve years is a pretty long wait. I think the idea of going for a sperm donor is ludicrous and geared to suit the infertile man. Why have an unknown person father your kid(s)? If the woman was the infertile spouse, how many Nigerian men would want to father kids with an unknown woman / egg donor? Abeg let's get realistic jor. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by laphta(m): 6:35am On Nov 06, 2014 |
MOD pls close down this thread. Absence of kids is nt a valid reason for reneging on your vows. You can adopt or artificially inseminate. Pls that is nt a valid question @ op. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by zeb04(f): 6:45am On Nov 06, 2014 |
Marry someone else simples. 2 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by cococandy(f): 4:31pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:maybe she doesn't want to get a divorce. So a sperm donor would suit them fine and save her the ordeal of being single all over again after twelve years of marriage and trying to find a new husband. You think it is geared to suit the man? You will be surprised at the number men who are not even comfortable with the idea of another man's seed fathering their child even when the fault/infertility is from them. |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by EfemenaXY: 4:41pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
cococandy: Coco, the latter part of your post is buttressing my point na... |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by cococandy(f): 6:46pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:ok |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 6:49pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
GboyegaD:Will you may to procreate or will you simply marry for companionship? |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by Nobody: 6:50pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
carefreewannabe: 1 Like |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by bebe2(f): 8:49pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
I have no time to dance around the bush. After 12yrs? No wont stay in the marriage. Simple!! 2 Likes |
Re: Should This Lady Sacrifice Her Marriage For Her To Have Children In Life by shizzleStar: 9:31pm On Nov 06, 2014 |
After 12 years of marriage? what took them so long? i empathise with the woman. Let them adopt |
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