Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to
think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper
that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the
more I thought about it, the more I learned to
appreciate what marriage could be.
Marriage gets a bad rap because most people
are really bad at it. It’s not marriage’s fault. It’s
the couples’ fault for being neither mature
enough nor smart enough to manage.
I used to believe people couldn’t possibly
promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years
when neither their partners nor they will be the
same people they are now. But that’s the point.
We know that the future is filled with
uncertainty.
Regardless, we still want that promise because it
gives us courage to give ourselves to another
without reservations.
You may not be able to keep that promise, but
you can keep the promise to do your best to be
an amazing life partner. That’s all anyone can
really ask for. If you’re thinking about tying the
knot then be sure that your future life partner
to-be can honestly answer these questions to
your liking:
1. WHY DO YOU LOVE ME?
People seem to feel this is a question that
doesn’t especially need answering. Most will say
we love others simply because we love them —
a horrible answer. All people need to know
exactly why it is that they love the people they
love.
Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it’s
okay. You love the person you love for what
that person does for you and how he or
she makes you feel.
We may all have slightly different answers as to
why we love someone, but if we aren’t able to
exactly define the parameters of our love, then
we’re likely to struggle later on once the initial
intensity dies down. If your partner can’t
answer why he or she loves you now, then
imagine the inevitable uncertainty down the
road.
2. WHY DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE
REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ME?
“Because I love you” is not a good answer. Life
is a journey — one that is best not traveled
entirely alone. However, not everyone has the
same destination in mind. Wanting to take
different pit stops along the route is one thing.
Wanting different things out of life is another
entirely.
Your partner should be able to tell you what life
experiences he or she hopes to share with you.
It’s these little goals you set for yourselves that
make your life special.
3. WILL YOU DO YOUR BEST TO KEEP
THE ROMANCE ALIVE?
Keeping the romance alive is not an easy task.
Yes, it’s all mental, but keeping interest for such
a long time is difficult. It takes a lot of work and
creativity. It takes the other person regularly
trying to please and impress you, which in itself
becomes increasingly difficult with each new
year.
Romantic love cannot survive on its own; both
of you are going to have to maintain it
constantly. Is your partner willing to keep the
romance as one of his or her main priorities?
4. WILL YOU GROW WITH ME, AND NOT
AWAY FROM ME?
We may not know exactly where our lives will
take us and what we will learn — who we will
become — along the way, but we can make a
conscious effort to grow closer together and not
apart.
Most people grow apart over the years because
they feel like they’ve accomplished everything in
their relationships that needs accomplishing.
This is one main reason marriages end up being
so horrible — people think that there is no
greater peak to climb than the one their
relationship is already resting on. Marriage
shouldn’t be the end, it should be the beginning.
5. WILL YOU STICK THROUGH THE
ROUGH TIMES?
The good times are a piece of cake. The difficult
times, however, will destroy your relationship if
you allow them to. There comes a point in every
relationship when you have to make a decision.
It’s a decision that, if made, is only made once.
You will reach a point where you will either
decide you are going to be there for this person
for the rest of his or her life, or not.
If you decide you’re going to stick with this
person then you can’t allow any tragedy or
outside force to shake that decision. This is one
of the most important decisions we make in our
lives — or, as it often turns out, fail to make
decisively. Has your lover made the decision?
Have you?
6. ARE YOU WILLING TO LOSE SOME
BATTLES IN ORDER TO KEEP
THE PEACE?
The key to a successful marriage is taming your
ego. No matter how competitive we are,
sometimes you just need to pick your battles.
Sometimes the arguments and the stress just
aren’t worth it.
What you need to understand is that 99 percent
of arguments aren’t arguments over fact, but
rather over opinion. An opinion is neither right
nor wrong. Sometimes you just have to let
things be.
7. CAN YOU PROMISE TO PUT US
AHEAD OF EVERYTHING ELSE?
Life has a lot to offer. And if you’re anything
like me, you have a very large appetite. We
want everything life has to offer, and then
some. The problem is we don’t have enough
time to have it all; our lives are too short. We
can only pick a few things we
consider important and do our best to flourish
in those areas.
The beauty of marriage is that it can be used as
a base to build the rest of your life on. Your
partner should be just that: your partner. Your
relationship is the most important thing in your
life because it’s what makes the rest of your life
possible.
8. WILL YOU BE A GREAT PARENT?
Again, how could anyone know he or she will be
a great parent? Easy. You just decide you’re
going to be. That’s it. No tricks. No gimmicks.
Just a decision and then action.
Some things don’t need too much thinking
involved. You’re going to be great because you
decided you will be. Will your lover do the same
and be a great role model for your children?
9. WILL YOU BE SURE TO REMIND ME
HOW MUCH YOU LOVE ME REGULARLY?
People not only want, but need to hear it. We
need to be reminded you love us because we
know that love doesn’t always last forever. We
want to hear the words and then have that
reassurement reinforced with actions showing
how much you love us.
It really is enough just to love us, but
understand you need to love us the way we
need to be loved — just like we need to love you
the way you need to be loved in order for you to
be happy.
10. CAN YOU PROMISE TO DO ALL YOU
CAN TO KEEP THAT SPARK ALIVE?
Sparks don’t spark on their own. Think about
how a lighter works. You have a spark that
lights the fuel, which creates a flame. But how
does that spark, spark? You have to create a
force that will result in the energy creating a
spark.
Just the same, you can’t expect sparks to keep
flying if you’re not trying. If you want to have a
happy and healthy marriage, then you need to
find someone willing to devote the necessary
energy.
11. WILL YOU SUPPORT ME IF I CAN’T
SUPPORT MYSELF?
Not just financially, but mentally. Maybe even
physically if necessary. No one knows what life
holds. The unexpected happens, often leaving us
weak, hurt or even permanently damaged. Will
your partner carry you when you can’t walk?
Will your partner support you when you’re
weak at the knees? Will your partner carry the
family you’ve created until you regain your
strength? Is your partner capable of mustering
the strength to fight battles for the both of you?
12. WILL YOU PROMISE TO CONTINUE
TO PURSUE YOUR PERSONAL GOALS
AND DREAMS?
Marriage is not entirely the end of the person
you were and the start of a new you. Sure, being
in a serious relationship does require a person
to change in many ways.
Yet, there’s a part of us we can never, under any
circumstance, let go of. The dreams, wants and
hopes we have — our personal goals — must
stay alive.
When we lose them, we lose ourselves and
inevitably lose the person we love. Marriage
isn’t just an “us.” It’s also a you and him/her.
You have to juggle being the person you have
always been with being a part of a larger whole.
It’s not easy. But it is necessary.
13. WILL YOU NOT ALLOW YOURSELF
TO LET GO?
Will your partner take care of him or herself by
eating healthy and exercising? Will your
partner get regular checkups and take vitamins?
This may sound silly, but I’ve seen what letting
yourself go can do to a marriage.
Moreover, I’ve seen how not maintaining your
health can make the lives of those closest to you
incredibly difficult.
Yes, your family should take care of you when
you need to be taken care of — but it’s your
responsibility first and foremost to take care of
yourself. No people should become a burden to
those they love.
14. IF I’M THE FIRST TO GO, WILL YOU
BE THERE WITH ME UNTIL THE END?
Will your partner hold your hand when you’re
too weak to hold it back? Will your partner kiss
your forehead and tell you he or she loves you,
that you made life worth living? That, because
of you, life made sense? Will your partner be
there for your last breath, when you find
yourself pressed betwixt fear and content?
No one should leave this world alone. It’s said
that we leave it the way we come into it, but
even when we come into it, there’s someone
there to hold us. I understand most people
don’t like to think about death, but seeing as it’s
an inevitability, it’s better to plan ahead.
15. CAN YOU PROMISE ME THAT IF MY
TIME IS CUT SHORT, YOU’LL CONTINUE
TO LIVE ON FOR THE BOTH OF US?
You love this person. You want him or her to be
happy regardless of whether he or she is with
you or without you. If death collects you ahead
of schedule, you’ll want to know during those
last few seconds that the person you love will
continue to live life to the fullest.
That your partner will continue to do great
things, continue to be happy, and — if you have
children — continue to love your children and
guide them through life.
The death of a loved one can ruin you. It can
break you in ways that make full-recovery
impossible. Can your partner promise you to
find the strength and courage to press forward?
I don’t know about you, but the last thing I’d
want for the man I love is for my departure
to be his downfall. If my being in his life or
leaving his life will in anyway destroy him, then
I clearly made a mistake by allowing myself into
his life.

Oooooooh. Scary questions.

Wow.Nice1 bro and touchn.

Hmmmm.. Na wa oooo

those questions are do'pe man

Questions for the serious minded I wish people take time to answer these questions and mean it. Divorce and all the childishness we see in relationship these days, would be only in wild dreams.

I hope those of us reading this, would start answering the questions sincerely! And draw your conclusion from the answers.

If it is good for the goose, it should be good for the gander also.

So answering yes to most of these or having incredible responses to them are what will determine a happy union? See, what will make your relationship stand the test of time are things you don't really ask in question form, they are things you see and experience with your partner. It is not ALL about what they are saying but how they act and behave that should answer your questions.

Lizzylobito:
Marriage really is a beautiful thing. I used to
think it was a bit pointless, just a piece of paper
that allows you an extra tax cut. However, the
more I thought about it, the more I learned to
appreciate what marriage could be.
Marriage gets a bad rap because most people
are really bad at it. It’s not marriage’s fault. It’s
the couples’ fault for being neither mature
enough nor smart enough to manage.
I used to believe people couldn’t possibly
promise to love someone else in 10, 20 years
when neither their partners nor they will be the
same people they are now. But that’s the point.
We know that the future is filled with
uncertainty.
Regardless, we still want that promise because it
gives us courage to give ourselves to another
without reservations.
You may not be able to keep that promise, but
you can keep the promise to do your best to be
an amazing life partner. That’s all anyone can
really ask for. If you’re thinking about tying the
knot then be sure that your future life partner
to-be can honestly answer these questions to
your liking:
1. WHY DO YOU LOVE ME?
People seem to feel this is a question that
doesn’t especially need answering. Most will say
we love others simply because we love them —
a horrible answer. All people need to know
exactly why it is that they love the people they
love.
Loving someone is a very selfish act, and it’s
okay. You love the person you love for what
that person does for you and how he or
she makes you feel.
We may all have slightly different answers as to
why we love someone, but if we aren’t able to
exactly define the parameters of our love, then
we’re likely to struggle later on once the initial
intensity dies down. If your partner can’t
answer why he or she loves you now, then
imagine the inevitable uncertainty down the
road.
2. WHY DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE
REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ME?
“Because I love you” is not a good answer. Life
is a journey — one that is best not traveled
entirely alone. However, not everyone has the
same destination in mind. Wanting to take
different pit stops along the route is one thing.
Wanting different things out of life is another
entirely.
Your partner should be able to tell you what life
experiences he or she hopes to share with you.
It’s these little goals you set for yourselves that
make your life special.
3. WILL YOU DO YOUR BEST TO KEEP
THE ROMANCE ALIVE?
Keeping the romance alive is not an easy task.
Yes, it’s all mental, but keeping interest for such
a long time is difficult. It takes a lot of work and
creativity. It takes the other person regularly
trying to please and impress you, which in itself
becomes increasingly difficult with each new
year.
Romantic love cannot survive on its own; both
of you are going to have to maintain it
constantly. Is your partner willing to keep the
romance as one of his or her main priorities?
4. WILL YOU GROW WITH ME, AND NOT
AWAY FROM ME?
We may not know exactly where our lives will
take us and what we will learn — who we will
become — along the way, but we can make a
conscious effort to grow closer together and not
apart.
Most people grow apart over the years because
they feel like they’ve accomplished everything in
their relationships that needs accomplishing.
This is one main reason marriages end up being
so horrible — people think that there is no
greater peak to climb than the one their
relationship is already resting on. Marriage
shouldn’t be the end, it should be the beginning.
5. WILL YOU STICK THROUGH THE
ROUGH TIMES?
The good times are a piece of cake. The difficult
times, however, will destroy your relationship if
you allow them to. There comes a point in every
relationship when you have to make a decision.
It’s a decision that, if made, is only made once.
You will reach a point where you will either
decide you are going to be there for this person
for the rest of his or her life, or not.
If you decide you’re going to stick with this
person then you can’t allow any tragedy or
outside force to shake that decision. This is one
of the most important decisions we make in our
lives — or, as it often turns out, fail to make
decisively. Has your lover made the decision?
Have you?
6. ARE YOU WILLING TO LOSE SOME
BATTLES IN ORDER TO KEEP
THE PEACE?
The key to a successful marriage is taming your
ego. No matter how competitive we are,
sometimes you just need to pick your battles.
Sometimes the arguments and the stress just
aren’t worth it.
What you need to understand is that 99 percent
of arguments aren’t arguments over fact, but
rather over opinion. An opinion is neither right
nor wrong. Sometimes you just have to let
things be.
7. CAN YOU PROMISE TO PUT US
AHEAD OF EVERYTHING ELSE?
Life has a lot to offer. And if you’re anything
like me, you have a very large appetite. We
want everything life has to offer, and then
some. The problem is we don’t have enough
time to have it all; our lives are too short. We
can only pick a few things we
consider important and do our best to flourish
in those areas.
The beauty of marriage is that it can be used as
a base to build the rest of your life on. Your
partner should be just that: your partner. Your
relationship is the most important thing in your
life because it’s what makes the rest of your life
possible.
8. WILL YOU BE A GREAT PARENT?
Again, how could anyone know he or she will be
a great parent? Easy. You just decide you’re
going to be. That’s it. No tricks. No gimmicks.
Just a decision and then action.
Some things don’t need too much thinking
involved. You’re going to be great because you
decided you will be. Will your lover do the same
and be a great role model for your children?
9. WILL YOU BE SURE TO REMIND ME
HOW MUCH YOU LOVE ME REGULARLY?
People not only want, but need to hear it. We
need to be reminded you love us because we
know that love doesn’t always last forever. We
want to hear the words and then have that
reassurement reinforced with actions showing
how much you love us.
It really is enough just to love us, but
understand you need to love us the way we
need to be loved — just like we need to love you
the way you need to be loved in order for you to
be happy.
10. CAN YOU PROMISE TO DO ALL YOU
CAN TO KEEP THAT SPARK ALIVE?
Sparks don’t spark on their own. Think about
how a lighter works. You have a spark that
lights the fuel, which creates a flame. But how
does that spark, spark? You have to create a
force that will result in the energy creating a
spark.
Just the same, you can’t expect sparks to keep
flying if you’re not trying. If you want to have a
happy and healthy marriage, then you need to
find someone willing to devote the necessary
energy.
11. WILL YOU SUPPORT ME IF I CAN’T
SUPPORT MYSELF?
Not just financially, but mentally. Maybe even
physically if necessary. No one knows what life
holds. The unexpected happens, often leaving us
weak, hurt or even permanently damaged. Will
your partner carry you when you can’t walk?
Will your partner support you when you’re
weak at the knees? Will your partner carry the
family you’ve created until you regain your
strength? Is your partner capable of mustering
the strength to fight battles for the both of you?
12. WILL YOU PROMISE TO CONTINUE
TO PURSUE YOUR PERSONAL GOALS
AND DREAMS?
Marriage is not entirely the end of the person
you were and the start of a new you. Sure, being
in a serious relationship does require a person
to change in many ways.
Yet, there’s a part of us we can never, under any
circumstance, let go of. The dreams, wants and
hopes we have — our personal goals — must
stay alive.
When we lose them, we lose ourselves and
inevitably lose the person we love. Marriage
isn’t just an “us.” It’s also a you and him/her.
You have to juggle being the person you have
always been with being a part of a larger whole.
It’s not easy. But it is necessary.
13. WILL YOU NOT ALLOW YOURSELF
TO LET GO?
Will your partner take care of him or herself by
eating healthy and exercising? Will your
partner get regular checkups and take vitamins?
This may sound silly, but I’ve seen what letting
yourself go can do to a marriage.
Moreover, I’ve seen how not maintaining your
health can make the lives of those closest to you
incredibly difficult.
Yes, your family should take care of you when
you need to be taken care of — but it’s your
responsibility first and foremost to take care of
yourself. No people should become a burden to
those they love.
14. IF I’M THE FIRST TO GO, WILL YOU
BE THERE WITH ME UNTIL THE END?
Will your partner hold your hand when you’re
too weak to hold it back? Will your partner kiss
your forehead and tell you he or she loves you,
that you made life worth living? That, because
of you, life made sense? Will your partner be
there for your last breath, when you find
yourself pressed betwixt fear and content?
No one should leave this world alone. It’s said
that we leave it the way we come into it, but
even when we come into it, there’s someone
there to hold us. I understand most people
don’t like to think about death, but seeing as it’s
an inevitability, it’s better to plan ahead.
15. CAN YOU PROMISE ME THAT IF MY
TIME IS CUT SHORT, YOU’LL CONTINUE
TO LIVE ON FOR THE BOTH OF US?
You love this person. You want him or her to be
happy regardless of whether he or she is with
you or without you. If death collects you ahead
of schedule, you’ll want to know during those
last few seconds that the person you love will
continue to live life to the fullest.
That your partner will continue to do great
things, continue to be happy, and — if you have
children — continue to love your children and
guide them through life.
The death of a loved one can ruin you. It can
break you in ways that make full-recovery
impossible. Can your partner promise you to
find the strength and courage to press forward?
I don’t know about you, but the last thing I’d
want for the man I love is for my departure
to be his downfall. If my being in his life or
leaving his life will in anyway destroy him, then
I clearly made a mistake by allowing myself into
his life.

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