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| Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by butanep(m): 8:12am On Nov 08, 2014 |
I am still kind of confused why most people see marriage as the next step immediately after their first degree... This guy graduated from school and got a job that is paying a little bit after some months and has been working for one year now. This guy has so much passion for education and he sees marriage as a disturbance to his academic pursuit. He will be 29 by december. His parents are bothering him to get marriage but he just want to acquire a higher degree and other professional certification before setting down. He felt the burden will be too much if he decide to shoulder both responsibility... He his confused because his parents are on his neck to get married and also his girlfriend is not finding his decision friendly... What advise will you offer, if you are in a position to advised this person? Get married first or pursue his academics first or face the burden of handling both... |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by Dopeyomi(m): 8:16am On Nov 08, 2014 |
Its of two phase.. 1)He Ƈan acquire more degree; this wσυℓ∂ help him earn more money to cater for his family when he eventually get married.. In his view he sees marriage as a distraction to his academic pursuits.. And that's true because he wunt be αвℓє to concentrate on both academic and family issues.. 2)If he gets married now; this might be a stepping stone for him to greater heights because he has gotten a companion who he Ƈan discuss issues with both academically and in the family line.. His wife Ƈan also render advice to him as well.. And if the higher degree he is pursuing is related to the course the wife studied it wσυℓ∂ be much easier for him coz they will tend to rub minds together about the degree and the likes... #last bullet; he should go for his thoughts.. |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by Nobody: 8:17am On Nov 08, 2014 |
Nonsense...... |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by Nobody: 8:30am On Nov 08, 2014 |
Why all these pressure to marry marry marry? Is marriage running away? Things like these are based on individual decisions and no one is to allow others to pressurize them into making decisions they are not prepared for. One step at a time. If he feels he cant cope with the challenges of marriage alongside with pursuit of higher degree, let him tackle higher degree first especially if the higher degree would afford him a good job. Its all about choice. All these girls and their marry by force attitude sef. 1 Like |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by topearos(m): 8:38am On Nov 08, 2014 |
It depends on his/her choice |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by naijaboiy: 8:39am On Nov 08, 2014 |
Sometimes some people crave for higher degree but the funding is not there to support it...and so they manage what they have and move on with life. This guy's case is different,,it seems he has the funding but other factors won't let him achieve his goals. In my opinion,,he should talk to his parents about this...cos this is his future. if his girlfriend truly wants the best for them,,she'll be patient and wait. But on the other hand,,some people still pursue their degree even after marriage but this comes with the distraction of marrage problems and other burdens. It's just a two way thing,,no one is actually better. |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by antontech(m): 8:52am On Nov 08, 2014 |
If the finance is there, pls go ahead and pursue higher education. You may even meet the right person there but don't alllow the higher degree to affect your choice of man.
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| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by butanep(m): 8:52am On Nov 08, 2014 |
Dopeyomi:This is really inspiring... a good one to consider... |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by merieam16(f): 8:56am On Nov 08, 2014 |
It depends,if a lady I will advice marriage while for a guy I tink marriage should come secondary,pursue ur dreamz biko so u can earn well nd b fulfill'd |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by Dopeyomi(m): 9:01am On Nov 08, 2014 |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by Nobody: 9:01am On Nov 08, 2014 |
He should focus on his education because this is what he wants at this stage of his life and there is nothing wrong with it. 1 Like |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by EfemenaXY: 9:17am On Nov 08, 2014 |
butanep: At 29, he should know precisely what he wants without any confusion - not over something as straightforward as this. He's got a job, but earns peanuts from it. He's got aspirations to further his studies. He is young. So what's the problem? Marriage should take a back seat for now. If he barely ecks a living, how will he cope with a wife and kids? Weddings are costly. Children are even more expensive, and deserve the absolute best from their parents. @op: if the young man in question is your friend, advice him to pursue his studies. Let him acquire that Post graduate degree of his dreams. Then work hard towards getting that better paying job to improve his quality of living. Let the young man utilize his freedom to the utmost. Let him explore. Travel. See the world. Try new things. Hustle to his heart's content before settling down. Poverty isn't easy. If he marries now, he'll most likely have to smother his dreams as he'll have more important priorities - and if care isn't taken, he could, a couple of years down the line, look back and resent his wife for him not being able to fulfill his dreams when he could have. No one should ever feel pressurized into getting married. 2 Likes |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by butanep(m): 9:32am On Nov 08, 2014 |
EfemenaXY:waooo... This is someone that is matured and thinking... thanks bro... |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by EfemenaXY: 9:35am On Nov 08, 2014 |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by bukatyne(f): 11:05am On Nov 08, 2014 |
butanep: THE fact that he sees marriage as a disturbance means he is not ready to get married and will be martial suicide to suggest so He should free his girlfriend and pursue his education but he should note that higher educational qualifications might not immediately translate to higher earnings and better life. I am not of the school of thought that one must achieve 'all's before getting married |
| Re: Getting Married Or Pursuing A Higher Degree. Which Should Come First? by butanep(m): 11:25am On Nov 08, 2014 |
bukatyne:I see... you ve a point... |
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