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Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 10:53am On Nov 11, 2014 |
There is this guy who is two years older than me so I assumed he was a matured guy but dam I was so wrong. I met him this year because we were in the same class. The guy was shy when we spoke. Long story short he came to me and confessed that he had feelings for me like two months ago and would like us to be together ... I told him I admire his bravery for telling me how he feels but I wasn't looking to start any relationship because its almost the end of the year but I wouldn't mind being friends (Dont give me that look ... yes I friendzoned him) He would ask to come over and chill but I always had an excuse...I didnt want awkward moments. Two weeks back I asked him to come fix something on the pc so he did and we chilled after he was done. Very good conversation...nothing awkward. Next day around 8pm I get a message from him saying I miss you, please can I spend the night ... I lost it, I wanted to go all crazy on his ass but I just calmly asked him to explain. Without any remorse he just said that we would get snacks, watch a movie and he would sleep over! I was so angry and insulted! what made him think he could just ask me something like that and I would agree? Did I look easy to him? I know you will attack me for this but usually if a guy likes me and I have no feelings I ignore him completely so by asking if we could be friends I adjusted my usual method and this is what I get If a woman invites you to her room that is not an invitation for anything else. He didnt apologize when i told him how it made me feel, he just said but you knew how i felt from the beginning! I have been ignoring him for two weeks now. Is it ok for him to have asked me to spend the night? ... besides having poor game I guess he had nothing to loose Am I over reacting? Why would a guy do this? (except for the obvious) ... what gave him the green light? Ps: I dont really dress provocatively...I swear. When he came over I was wearing a long boobtube maxi dress... nothing suggestive about that 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Wolenice(m): 10:58am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Women are very complex and complicated creatures......poor him 8 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:01am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Wolenice: Why poor him? How does a guy just ask a girl for sex when he isnt even dating her... you can lure a woman into sex but to blatantly ask for it 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:08am On Nov 11, 2014 |
I toUght we were in the 21st century Yea clearly you over reacted 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:11am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids:you didint mention sex oo you only said he asked to come over Do you know if he meant that in and innocent way 7 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:15am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Its obvious dat he want ur body. You guys are not dating,and he want to sleep over... 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:21am On Nov 11, 2014 |
samflexxy: He asked to spend the night...sleep over... in my head that equates to him asking for sex ... and back in the day when people werent so bold to say can I come over for a F**k ...that's how guys would ask |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:22am On Nov 11, 2014 |
mizzkeji44: Thank you...all the men here are making me feel crazy but thats what I thought too. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:25am On Nov 11, 2014 |
samflexxy: Ok so theres nothing about what he said that is insulting? I took it as him thinking im cheap... what fool asks a woman that. By being nice and friendly to him does it imply im open to sex? |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:25am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Pls how Old are U, OP Just tell Us U r missing him, and we will tell U what to do.. U ave been ignoring him for 2 weeks, so what else do u want? U r now coming here to Complain.. Are U this stūpid Or U r just naturally Stūpid 19 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Mprex(f): 11:28am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Lol. Op you should have asked him to come over. Boil hot water, add a generous amount of cameroon pepper and wait by the gate for him with a bucket-full of it. on a serious note, maybe the guy didnt mean anything, maybe he actually meant something. If i were in your shoes, i wouldnt come down hard on him. I will politely give him a tangible excuse and that settles it. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Emodeee: 11:29am On Nov 11, 2014 |
u sound b.f u lyk d guy in question, jez dat u've vowed nt to cheat on ur b.f. i av a feeling dat u av feeling remorseful 4 declining is request. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Emodeee: 11:30am On Nov 11, 2014 |
u sound as if u lyk d guy in question, jez dat u've vowed nt to cheat on ur b.f. i av a feeling dat u r feeling remorseful 4 declining his request. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:38am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Bimfo: And what exactly makes me stupid? Its funny how even an innocent thread attracts ignorant comments No offence But if you must know I've got a bit of time on my hands and Im re-evaluating whether I was justified in reacting like I did... should you care to know 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:44am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Mprex: you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days. You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time. So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too. I think im just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl... what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:46am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Emodeee: I actually dont like him... I pity him thats why im friends with him cause i dont wanna hurt his feelings. If i did like him my reponse would have been more playful |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 11:49am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids:I get you 'but' No he might actually be innocent have slept in a room with a female friend for almost a month and nothing happened Learn to trust people don't judge a book by its cover 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by agohmamuda(m): 11:49am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Looking at this from the angle of the gods. This is my take: O.p didn't like the approach he used to ask for sex; Simple. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by luckybaddest(m): 11:53am On Nov 11, 2014 |
Ooooh my God!!!!! how on earth is this one take concern me |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Tymax(m): 11:56am On Nov 11, 2014 |
He certainly wouldn't have made those moves if he didn't get the green light. Kinkybraids, I believe you owe him an apology. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by joshbouy(m): 11:59am On Nov 11, 2014 |
him coming over doesn't necessarily mean he's indirectly trying to ask you to have sex with him. you clearly over reacted. Am not on anyone's side here. But he might have had a different motive when he told you that But then you Thought otherwise. I have female friends that I call to inform them that I wanna sleep over, then they ask cunningly Why? I just reply that Am bored. And when I get to sleep over, Nothing happens. But it's not applicable to all guys though, cause some guys can be funny. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by adepiero: 12:15pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids:from your write up, he didn't ask you for sex! he only asked to sleep over. he might feel you are shy, and playing hard to get so he decided to take the bull by the horn. or he might just wanna share your bed with no intention of sex or with the hope of getting lucky and scoring in the process 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by lilmax(m): 12:35pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids:next time tell him to lure you |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Agybabe(f): 12:38pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Dear op, I really do understand your reaction to his request of spending the night over at your place. He got such worthy reply because you felt nothing for him, whereas he thought you did. The Do not feel bad for what you did. He looked at you to be a free thing. Such insolence. Next time he would think twice. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 12:40pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids:Dont mind dem. Be bold and take your stand. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by uchennamani(m): 12:45pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Rubbish. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Oahray: 1:08pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Hmmm... Why do girls like to ask favours from guys interested in them but in whom they aren't interested? The guy is very childish, but you gave him reasons to act that way. A guy asks you out and the best reason you could give for saying no is that it's the end of the year? Alright, the guy waded through the watery excuse and kept trying to spend time with you. You kept refusing. I almost applauded you at this point. Then you needed to fix your pc, and didn't want to spend money. What better work donkey around than the guy dying for you? So you called him over to the same room he had always wanted to come to. Of course he came over, and you even chilled with him (hoping it's payment enough). Tell us, what sign have you given him to know that you aren't interested in chilling with him in your room at night? You gave him the green light. He obviously thinks you are indecisive and need extra push to go back on your words. I agree. He just didn't know when and how hard to push. 11 Likes |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by kennynelcon(m): 1:09pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Brothers let's mind our business, it's better to see a movie alone than end up as a boy friend(friend Zone) not Boyfriend . 1 Like |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Emodeee: 1:17pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Kinkybraids: r u a virgin? if u r nt, let him enjoy d benefit of friends wid benefits. btw dn't u knw dat aving pity 4 a guy smtimes means luv? if u dn't, ask ur female folks. |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by Nobody: 1:19pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Guys nawa for some of you ooo... Make a mistake of inviting them to yourself and regret afterwards... Is either they are stealing from you or belittling you to a LovePeddler. Op except you like a guy and want a relationship with him then you can invite him to your house but someone you don't like, pls just keep him at arm's length. (Outside your gate till he gets tired of visiting) |
Re: Why Do Men Think Its Okay...its Not! by thorpido(m): 1:29pm On Nov 11, 2014 |
Op,you are right with your reaction.The boy is a learner. However,you are wrong with your title.Please put 'some' in it or change it to 'why does this guy think.....' |
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