Hello friends. My very good friend is having a serious issue in her home. Though, many water has passed under d bridged. I will just skip some level of abstraction nd go to d main issue.
My friend is 8 months pregnant now, 5 months into her pregnancy, she had a misunderstanding with her husband, so out of anger or payback, she cheated on her husband, she slept with another guy with her pregnancy. When she told me I was mad at her, I told her to tell her husband to clear her mind, but she said she couldn't so I just allowed it slide. When I asked her how many times she had sex with the guy, she said once. Few weeks after sleeping with the other guy, she with her husband settled the misunderstanding. Last two months, her husband started behaving very funny, he wouldn't talk to her, he wouldn't touch her, he wouldn't eat her food or try to get close to her, he totally kept his distance. When she told me about her husbands sudden change in attitude, my first reaction was that maybe he has found out about the cheat his wife committed, but I told her to b strong that everytin will b ok. Early this month, my friend and her husband started talking to each other a little. Yesterday, she told me she was confused, I asked her why, then she told me that her husband told her he cheated on her about the same time she cheated on him, and that's why he was behaving very funny cos he wasn't happy about the act he committed. After she told me everything yesterday, I suggested to her if she can open up to her husband, she said she can't. So, the issue now is, I know I can convince her to open up to her husband, but pls guys is telling her husband about her own cheat a good move?

Pls, b4 u condemn, remember nobody is perfect.

Hmm. I read somewhere that the truth will set you free. Most times, it is the person that tells it that is set free. The person being told might end up enslaved to confusion, mistrust, distrust and anger.

I suggest she clears her conscience with her God and leave it at that. For her to confess to her husband that, while being five months heavy with his child as his wife, she had sex with another man might be too hard to swallow.

Na so I see am.

yea, nobody is perfect but your friend and his wife are a perfect match. What I can't seem to understand is why would a pregnant woman (5months pregnant) decide to sleep with another man? and I really also wonder the type of man that will sleep with another man's pregnant wife?? really it's bad and it might affect the Baby. That man that slept with another man's pregnant wife needs to be dealt with. Ask our grandmothers they will tell you. But really, the person to blame here is the husband for distancing himself from his wife. A pregnant woman needs more love from her husband both emotional, psychological, sexual e.tc but since husband have confessed, wife should also confess her sins and I pray God help the unborn baby.

You sir! Are too close for comfort...


You were her confidant before marriage..fne.
After marriage? Still her confidant. ? Dude! WTF is wrong with you. She'll never get upclose and personal with her hubby with you in the picture.
The only confidant a wife needs is her hubby!
You are cheating her hubby and her, by robbing hubby of confidant position. Get out of their F.ing business and let them sort their issues. Their marriage isn't your responsibility. Its theirs. You'l be doing yourself a whole world of good..... Let your friend know, the only confidant she needs is her hubby!!

Hmm. why must people cheat JUST BECAUSE they have a misunderstanding? What does the cheating achieve in the end? Does it solve the misunderstanding at the end of day? Cheating will always bring problems to those who cheat, male or female. The woman cheated for God knows what. her husband cheated even when they had already settled. There are other underlying issues that they need to sort out. I doubt if the marriage would ever be the same if the woman opens up. Men are known not to ever take cheating likely as women do. The husband felt very o.k opening up because men always believe women will forgive easily which is not always the case. But will you say the same for her husband? I understand why she doesnt wanna open up. If her husband is the understanding type, he would take it that both have wronged each other therefore let bygones be bygones so that they can move on and work on their marriage. But if he doesnt have that kind of mentality, sorry.

Somethings you take to God and your grave.

To imagine a certain guy slept with a 5-month preggy lady is disgusting

Even in a marriage, couples must have their secrets.
It's best she kept quiet about it. Whatever comes along the way will be dealt with. For the meantime, she should keep the non-existent fear at bay.
If she can't be cool without spilling the beans, she doesn't need advice to tell her husband then.
Some things are better left unsaid.

I think since the man opened up she should open up also. It is a marriage and its best they start being honest with eachother. she would be really burdened about this for a long time. let her just let it out and let it go. BUt this is just my opinion.

Look at my sinature for my blog. I am more about general life problems, inspiration and many more. thanks guys

Oga no go take am cool if he hear even if you tell am when you catch am on top another woman . Wears my bulletproof

brosss:
You sir! Are too close for comfort...


You were her confidant before marriage..fne.
After marriage? Still her confidant. ? Dude! WTF is wrong with you. She'll never get upclose and personal with her hubby with you in the picture.
The only confidant a wife needs is her hubby!
You are cheating her hubby and her, by robbing hubby of confidant position. Get out of their F.ing business and let them sort their issues. Their marriage isn't your responsibility. Its theirs. You'l be doing yourself a whole world of good..... Let your friend know, the only confidant she needs is her hubby!!

Ok sir, Tanx for pointing out.

You go fear story

stinggy:
To imagine a certain guy slept with a 5-month preggy lady is disgusting

Guy, very disgusting. If I was d guy, I will feel as if am pounding d baby on d head, when sexin her.

tpia6:
You go fear story

Me sef I weak ooo, 5 month pregnant woman cheating on her husband as payback??

Is that not an abomination?

If you are bold enough to cheat, you should be strong enough to shut the F up! . I just hope you aren't the dude she cheated with though .

beeevan:
If you are bold enough to cheat, you should be strong enough to shut the F up! . I just hope you aren't the dude she cheated with though .

Let her take one for the team.

Mehhhhhhhhhhn!
These are a bunch of MARITAL NOVICES with SINGLE BIZZZZZZZY-BUDDIES as so-called friends!

OP! You need to stop pressuring this woman to do the UNTHINKABLE. . . . and LEARN TO FACE YOUR OWN LIFE!
Na the stooooopid pregnant "wife" I blame o. WHY SHE DEY TALK TO YOU?

There is a VERY, VERRRRRRRRRRRRY, VERRRRRRRRRRRRY, VERRRRRRRRRRRRY good reason why IMPORTANT DISCIPLINES SUCH AS PHILOSOPHY, PSYCHOLOGY, STATISTICS, SOCIOLOGY, WORLD History and WORLD Literature remain AS MANDATORY ELECTIVES in ANY undergraduate level of study IN ANY PART OF THE CIVILIZED WORLD!!!

CHRISTIAN/ISLAMIC RELIGIOUS STUDIES DO NOT EXIST AS ESSENTIAL SUBJECTS OF STUDY IN ANY PART OF THE CIVILIZED WORLD. . . . . .EXCEPT IN AREAS OF THEOLOGY! Because, they are mainly IRRATIONAL, BRAIN-WASSSSHING SUBJECTS AND EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGICAL MANIPULATIVE TOOLS FOR CON-ARTISTS AND HYPNOTISTS!

With liberal arts, you have great opportunities to get the MOST BASIC EDUCATION ABOUT HUMAN NATURE, AND CAN ALWAYS PREDICT THE CONSEQUENCES OF ANY ACTION/REACTION IN ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!

OP. . . .!

If you all claim to be educated. . . .You would have at least read "TESS OF THE D'Urbervilles"!

IF YOU NEVER HEARD OF IT. . . . Go and read it!
The simple lesson is that. . . .women easily forgive and at least TRY TO MOVE ON.
MEN? NEVER!!!!! Even when they THEMSELVES commit the most HEINOUS CRIMES OF HUMANITY!!!!

You need to tell that woman to face her marriage and STOP TELLING HER HOW TO HANDLE HER LIFE, HUSBAND AND MARRIAGE!

You are a potential WEASEL IN ANY FAMILY!!!!

You need to learn to mind your business and STOP MEDDLING for a hobby or profession!

Thanks!

They r both good for each other. Husband cheats,wife cheats. Nothing spoil.
I wonder why there should be marriage in the first place. No woman can live by one diiick forever and no man can live by one pusssy forever. Everyone wants something new so why should a cheating woman be condemned and the cheating man spared.
It is better to stay out of marriage and be free to fuzk whoever you want.

beeevan:
If you are bold enough to cheat, you should be strong enough to shut the F up! . I just hope you aren't the dude she cheated with though .

Bros, haba. Though, she told me she paid d guy off, so d guy actually might av done it because of money.

stan4b:

Bros, haba. Though, she told me she paid d guy off, so d guy actually might av done it because of money.

Shuu!!Paying for sex to get back at her husband? That's beyond dumb mehn....If you are going to cheat, why not at least enjoy it and face the consequences. Her matter dey heaven..

beeevan:




Shuu!!Paying for sex to get back at her husband? That's beyond dumb mehn....If you are going to cheat, why not at least enjoy it and face the consequences. Her matter dey heaven..

Na too much money, money miss road.

Though, she told me she paid d guy off, so d guy actually might av done it because of money.

you go fear story se.

Tabh:
They r both good for each other. Husband cheats,wife cheats. Nothing spoil.
I wonder why there should be marriage in the first place. No woman can live by one diiick forever and no man can live by one pusssy forever. Everyone wants something new so why should a cheating woman be condemned and the cheating man spared.
It is better to stay out of marriage and be free to fuzk whoever you want.

True talk, many might argue sha.

stan4b:

Bros, haba. Though, she told me she paid d guy off, so d guy actually might av done it because of money.

Bullshit..
She paid a guy t sleep with her??
For Naija here
Did she book him in advance

I personally don't believe a pregnant woman will so easily get someone t lay with her or even have the 'mind' t go sought f such IF there hasn't bin a prior relationship BTW she and the fellow.

Your friend is lying her ass off cos d story isn't as clear as she makes it sound.


Abt her telling, that's btwn she,her conscience n God.
Peace..

You better stay out of their marriage.

dBard:



Bullshit..
She paid a guy t sleep with her??
For Naija here
Did she book him in advance

I personally don't believe a pregnant woman will so easily get someone t lay with her or even have the 'mind' t go sought f such IF there hasn't bin a prior relationship BTW she and the fellow.

Your friend is lying her ass off cos d story isn't as clear as she makes it sound.


Abt her telling, that's btwn she,her conscience n God.
Peace..

Bros, I know d story sounds somehow, but its d plain truth. Though, she nd her husband are rich.

carefreewannabe:
You better stay out of their marriage.

Yea, I tink u r right. I really need to stay out of their marriage.

stinggy:
To imagine a certain guy slept with a 5-month preggy lady is disgusting

what's disgusting about it. Ya mates wey dey sleep with 60 something year old women nko

SAMBARRY:
what's disgusting about it. Ya mates wey dey sleep with 60 something year old women nko

Dat one is different o. This woman has sometin growing inside her.

stan4b:

Yea, I tink u r right. I really need to stay out of their marriage.

I really think that you will do yourself and them a favor by doing so.