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I have a friend, who recently broke up with her boyfriend of 1 year and 2 months, because he doesn't want to meet her parents. She informs me that she is not interested in introducing him as a husband or anything of that sort but just

wants her parents to know who she is dating. But this guy is soo adamant about not meeting her parents. He states that "the time is not right, "

Even though she has stated time and time again that she is not interested in introducing him as a husband or anything of that sort, she still wants him to meet her parents but this dude doesn't seem interested.   

I am of the strong opinion that meeting one's parents/family should not be that of a big deal as people make it out to be.


What will you do if your boy friend/girl friend that you've been with doesn't want to meet your parents ?  Feel free to share your input/experiences!!

No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=199599.msg3131483#msg3131483 date=1227552384]No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.[/quote]Priceless!!!

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=199599.msg3131483#msg3131483 date=1227552384]No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.[/quote]You are right, its really no big deal . . .

but isnt that what love is all about? Making your partner happy?

If the guy loves her, thats not enof reason to leave her. And its not that big a deal either, if he goes to meet her parents

it is a huge deal breaker for me.

Meeting my Dad says that I am really into this dude and I want you to give me your feedback on him.

If I had been dating someone for over a year and they had not met my parents yet then they can assume that I am not interested in the long term with them and if they have not brought it up then I can assume they are interested in anything long term with me.

It does not mean that I am introducing him as a husband but what is the purpose of dating if not for marriage.

i dont do parents https://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/17.gif. even my friends parents sef. . . meeting parents is a big deal becos it puts pressure on u whether u plan to get married or not, every parent has a picture of the kind of person they want their children to be with even as friends.

Hmmm,used to be a big deal to me but aint no more. Infact,he aint meeting my friends anytime soon.

every parent has a picture of the kind of person they want their children to be with even as friends.

true talk !!!

meeting the parents is not a bad idea,
me thinks its even better to know the parenst and the kinda home she comes from.
more so it helps make the relationship stronger,
unless the guy no get plans to dey seriouswith u ooo.

nana:
Hmmm,used to be a big deal to me but aint no more. Infact,he aint meeting my friends anytime soon.

Meeting one's parents shouldnt be a big deal.

In fact, one time I went to dinner with a "friend" at this fancy restaurant, someone that I was interested in and

mistakely bumped into my mom and some of her friends,  what does one do in this case ? deny ur mom? or introduce

the "friend," I was left with no choice but to introduce the "friend" and since then, marriage or no marriage, friends or

just phuck buddies meeting one's parents is no big deal to me at all, in fact, it means nothing other than the fact that

I have to be respectful for that time period.

No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.

@ sista-jay doesn't it bother you that you haven't met his side of the family.

obvious help me tell sistajay say she obviously dey blind.
if he loves u, for three yrs and u have not met his pips,
u are not recognised.
am sorry to say.
mostly if he is a naija guy.

@ Obvious

We both live abroad, he's family live back home in Naija!


@ Somto2

If only you knew! we're very, very happy together, I don't need the seal of approval from his family . My family love him that's all that matters to me.

its good you meet the family of whoever u are dating

doesnt mean it must end in marriage, but it shows

some level of responsibility and decency

any relationship that 6 months old and any of the partner

is not willling to meet your family, then u can just call it off

cos he/she is not serious and have some hidden agenda in the affair.

[color=#9900ff]Hmmm i guess it depends on the family. Some families put pressure, others don't.
It's important to me but only if its serious. [/color]

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=199599.msg3131483#msg3131483 date=1227552384]No big deal! I've been going out with my man for over three years, I have yet to meet he's family. He has met all my families.[/quote]sista-jay, i hope u're not going out with AKUDAAYA. May God help you o.

sistawoman:
it is a huge deal breaker for me.

Meeting my Dad says that I am really into this dude and I want you to give me your feedback on him.

If I had been dating someone for over a year and they had not met my parents yet then they can assume that I am not interested in the long term with them and if they have not brought it up then I can assume they are interested in anything long term with me.

It does not mean that I am introducing him as a husband but what is the purpose of dating if not for marriage.

How many them be self? Small small o my sister.

Kini big deal about meeting family, does it stop the guy from dumping her whenever he so wishes?

As long as no solid engagement/marriage plans have been made, then just carry on. Afterall, no be family you de date.

no biggie about it jor,

n itz no reason for break-up

Moyola:
no biggie about it jor,

n itz no reason for break-up

abi o

come meet my own jare

nairaland peeps, we are talking about 2 adults here, who ve been 2gether 4 more than a year, . U go gal, i support u 100%,he is not ready y is he so scared to meet ur family, even after u told that it was a no strings attached meeting, i think he has sm skeleton in his cupboard, But don't hold any grudge against him sha, cos God just gave u a sign there.

smooooooth:
abi o

come meet my own jare

yu r nut cwious