Wendy80:
5min madness ke? Anyway no marriage is perfect, but shouting to resolve issues is a big no no for me.
Hubby prefers talking thru(i call it round table meeting)to trash out issues.
Works like magic.

I really dn't think are have such time shouting on my wife n't dat I marry yet oh,.I pray not to jarm a wicked type of lady

There is nothing like a "perfect marriage"

IVORY2009:


you're right, the quite one's can be more dangerious than a bipper, you can never predict, when he will get offended, " the day he slap you, she will say police is my friend"...lol

Hahahaha!.True

DailyNews:
Marriage; 2 diff people from way diff upbringing and maybe culture and age coming together to live under one roof forever till death do them part, risky journey...hmmm

That is while courtship is necessary, for like 2yrs before going into marriage, all the same, anyone of them can still pretend, and show his/her real colour in marriage.

Well there can never be perfection marriage. Two different people of different character. Misunderstanding is bound to happen.

RoyalRoy:
@Op @Atob.... The title has been changed.

Chillisauce has a right to her opinion and it must be respected.

Bear in mind its a forum.... Not everyone will share your opinion.

Maintain the decorum please.


MODs

Thanks.
I apologize.

IVORY2009:


That is while courtship is necessary, for like 2yrs before going into marriage, all the same, anyone of them can still pretend, and show his/her real colour in marriage.

thank goodness u wrote what was on my mind. The problem is that ladies in their quest to impress their man to marry them, do pretend a lot andd act all cool and angelic, hence ingoring their man's bad characters and habits just to land the ring first...and after getting the ring and the Mrs, they grow tail and start showing who they are.

Marriage is just an art of luck! If I had the power, I will end marriage and let ppl live their individual lives cos humans are becoming more and more selfish and self-centered by the day

@OP it's time for you to get your own house. Stop observing them.

sonnie10:
@OP it's time for you to get your own house. Stop observing them.

Working on that option desperately.
I have too sef.

No madness in me @OP...am a good husband material. ladies grab ur yards now.... 12yards left, in case u don't know.

ATOB:
We always hear of how most especially women claim there marriage is the best and all but in reality it isnt.
Its not like there are no "ballons" kinda marriage where things are usually rosy but its a lie when they tell you there hasnt been times when husband displayed some 5 minutes madness.

Yes o... Sometimes its more than 5 minutes to days but trust me there isnt ONE perfect marriage.

This morning... Okay actually I stay with my aunt and they have this scooby dooby kinda marriage where everyone is playing, dancing and all but sometimes when they get into their rooms I just feel like do they mourn someone everyday in that room.

Fastforward to this morning... May I say this man is the perfect gentle man who doesnt shout, beat or argue with his wife. A sweet man I must agree. Thank God im not gay... So this morning I was sleeping and I started hearing shouts for the 1st time ever since ive been with them and probably since they married as confirmed by their neighbours by their bemused countenance.

He was so upset, angry, was throwing things and shouting at the wife saying: "Be very careful"... "I will not tolerate that from you" etc.

My question is; "Has your husband displayed this kinda madness eventhough you have that perfect marriage?"... "Was his action justified eventhough we still dont know what happened as they failed to disclose. Very funny people?".

More importantly to the men; "Is it necessary sometimes for a man to show this kinda madness to keep the woman in check?". You know sometimes their excesses can be over the top.

Lets have your thoughts.

No marriage is perfect. Your story says it all! Everybody get their kolo season.

It sometimes helps, as long as it doesn't lead to beatings. Some spouses push you to the point you want to vent. It takes Gods grace to check yourself. I.M.H.O

Tallesty1:
Is that what you call madness?

Maybe you need to see and hear my neighbours.

so na mad ppl u dey live with

No marriage is perfect.

No matter how gentle a man is, there is always a limit

A woman needs to have a healthy fear of a man...if not she should be dealt with APPROPRIATELY.

Notice that I used the word appropriately....so some women wont say I'm legalizing wife battering...

There are other effective means of passing the message accross that will earn you her fear & respect...

kpolli:
No matter how gentle a man is, there is always a limit

Being gentle only makes things worse...cos if you give someone an inch they will take a mile...its better you nip any disrespect in the bud b4 it spirals outta you being able to control your emotional reaction...

drlawizle:
A woman needs to have a healthy fear of a man...if not she should be dealt with APPROPRIATELY.

Notice that I used the word appropriately....so some women wont say I'm legalizing wife battering...

There are other effective means of passing the message accross that will earn you her fear & respect...

Sorry but you are an idi.ot. I have never been afraid of my husband.

perfect marriage never seen it cos the fights makes u stronger if it doesn't break you...
the fights keeps the marriage going....

2CatWoman:


Sorry but you are an idi.ot. I have never been afraid of my husband.

no mater what you shoudnt have said hes an idiot remember hes also som1's husband. your action sudgest you don't have respect for men and remember your husband is inclusive because hes a man.

2CatWoman:


Sorry but you are an idi.ot. I have never been afraid of my husband.

Your husband must be an unlucky man for having an illiterate like you to stick to for the rest of his life..

Go back to school cos you've not received a proper education

I mean what I'm saying oh.

tosynhovic:


no mater what you shoudnt have said hes an idiot remember hes also som1's husband. your action sudgest you don't have respect for men and remember your husband is inclusive because hes a man.

Are you minding her...i'm sure she has no respect for her husband at all...

@2catwoman or whatever, for a woman to just raise her voice and call anyone an idiot shows that she is very rude and crude (omo alata). It speaks a lot about who you are and I feel ashamed of you. Only God knows what hell your husband is going through.

drlawizle:


Your husband must be an unlucky man for having an illiterate like you to stick to for the rest of his life..

Go back to school cos you've not received a proper education

I mean what I'm saying oh.

. Lol

2CatWoman:


Sorry but you are an idi.ot. I have never been afraid of my husband.

I dont know why people cannot pass a message accross without being insolent.

It is too common on Nairaland. Someone you dont even know.

It speaks volume about who you are. You are probably not fit to train a child. My reason is this; "Will you be proud if your child is calling someone else an idi.ot?". This means he or she is not intelligent enough to pass accross a message apropriately.

Learn this and try to change.

IVORY2009:


you're right, the quite one's can be more dangerious than a bipper, you can never predict, when he will get offended, " the day he slap you, she will say police is my friend"...lol

Guys it's spelt 'quiet' not 'quite'.

This is a small case nahh, come and see my house, na war zone 24/7, i dy tell you am 30, but i watch and seperated my parents fight steady, as we grew up we got involved and blended into the fight, at times our house turns into a free for all fight, but we still grew up one of the most responsible, intelligent and dicsiplined male adults..

2CatWoman:


Sorry but you are an idi.ot. I have never been afraid of my husband.

hmmm I guess u just shown us d kind of house wife u r. Wat did he say to warrant d insult in a SOCIAL network? He is just airing his opinion. SMH

You never know when you are dealing with this specie called woman.They can make you act insane atimes.

It's not just husbands. What of wives? Women express their emotions far more angrily than men.
But angry bouts don't necessarily mean that anything is wrong with the marriage. If anything it shows the couple are still very much in love to care how they are treated. After the show comes the resolution phase and the celebration of making up which is sweet.
A greater threat to marriage is indifference. When you are past caring what the other person does.
When couples are too quiet, somebody may be pretending and pretext is unhealthy.
Sometimes women do that for years and by the time they blow their top everybody is shocked. But she's tired of playing the perfect wife.
Healthy confliCts and truthfulness help in bonding.
I've been married for a long time and we have our moments. In resolving, we developed our ground rules for fighting fair: don't do it before the children, don't raise voice even in the bedroom, walk out when you feel physical, don't use curse words but concentrate on the annoying issue, don't go to sleep in a different bedroom as that will prolong the make up time etc.
My marriage isn't perfect but it's beautiful

[quote author=ATOB I DNT GET WHT U MEAN.

People like to delusively believe they are intelligent and smart by not focusing on the ESSENCE of a thread or the potential positive energy a thread can give rather they start to make simple things complex thereby confusing others with their confusions.

U said u av bn wt them for a while and theirs have been cool. You dnt report it to NL then did u? Immediately u had d husband shout, you ran to NL. U are a vctm of joblessness and agent of d devil. Wel one of them read u post so start looking for a new place to hang. lazy oloofofo.

Women need such behaviour