My husband and I have been married for 4 years now and we have a child. We had a very quiet wedding ceremony; I mean we only went to the registry. He was (and is still) based in the US while back then I was in Nigeria. He came to Nigeria briefly and we did a very mini introduction (just my parents and his siblings as he has lost both his parents) and went to the registry so as to make my application process for a visa to join him much easier.
I have since joined him in the US and we are very happy together, both blessed with good jobs and doing really well together in our marriage.
Now friends and family have started asking me when we are going to do our engagement and wedding ceremony. They have insisted that whatever the case may be, culture demands that my husband’s family pay their engagement rights.
In my opinion, I don’t think all these noise making and extra money spree is necessary since we are legally married and what matters is for us to be happy which we are.
Also I love my quiet ‘jeje’ life that I am living and my husband love’s his too. I am very scared that all this ceremony will open our home to ‘back biters’ and maybe even spiritual attacks.

Please my people, what do you think?

you are the one who has the choice to make. Grow some steel and tell your "family and friends" you choose to stand by your decision not to waste money on such frivolities.

follow your heart

dont mind them oooooo. as if they are ready to assist you financially. i sure say na my pple e go be, i.e yorubas.

abi now!