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The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by skillsbaba(m): 8:19am On Feb 10, 2015
Read her story as she narrated it herself;

"Over the past 3 years, I have lost many friends, and several of my own family members have completely cut off communication with me. I now know that these are “adults” who just cannot handle the fact that I have the right to make choices, and that these choices ultimately hardly even affect them.
In the spring of 2012, I found out that I was pregnant. I had a good idea who the donator was, but money wasn’t really an issue, and I knew that I would be a good mother-like figure for the child by myself. I have always believed in the right for all women to have a choice in terminating their pregnancy, but when I confirmed the diagnosis about a month into into it, I decided that I WAS ready to have this child.
My journey has taken me to many different places fighting for women’s rights and carrying the banner of the Feminist Movement, even to the point of eschewing a career. One of the more prominent themes that I saw in these places was that men generally would look down on us, refuse to help us, or hardly even lend an ear so that we could air our grievances. This didn’t surprise me, the patriarchy has been well entrenched since the dawn of time, but here I was, here I am, ready to change it.

One of the more alarming incidents happened while I was on my way to San Francisco to participate in an Occupy Wall Street rally. I sat down in my seat on the plane, which happened to be extra full for that day, and a particularly well dressed man happened to be sitting in the seat beside me, in the aisle. After takeoff, he asked me what I was going to San Francisco for, while I generally wouldn’t talk to a man sitting next to me on an airplane, I told him I was going to the OWS rally.
The man literally scoffed when I spoke those words and leaned in and quietly said to me “B****** like you need to learn their place”. Stunned, I screamed “ASSAULT!” while other passengers looked at us, the woman across the aisle from him immediately told him to get away from me, but not 5 seconds passed before a flight attendant had rushed over to intervene….

As I explained to the flight attendant what had happened and I demanded to move seats, I was told that there were only 2 other open seats available, both back in Economy.

*Trigger warning* – Extreme patriarchy

By this time, a male flight attendant was on the scene and I told him to have the man moved. The woman-hater just laughed as the flight attendant continued to press me on if he made any physical contact with me. For a moment, I contemplated bending the truth in order to get the woman-hater away from me. His words had violated both my feelings, and my trust, perhaps as much of a violation as actual physical touch. In the end, I confirmed that no physical contact was made, to which both flight attendants told me they couldn’t make him move.
I was flabbergasted, and then betrayed as they recommended that I move to one of the empty seats. This left me in tears. I knew the only way to get away was to move seats so I did so tearfully and having felt as though I had been verbally and emotionally raped.
By the time we landed, my outlook had changed, I could no longer depend on men to be an ally of the cause.
As spring turned into summer and my belly started to grow, my mind ran wild with the thoughts of teaching my daughter from a young age tolerance and feminist ideals. Choosing the right all-girls daycare, then elementary school, all so that she could grow up and thrive in an environment where women are told that they can do anything that they want to do. No man will be around to hurt her progress, no boys there to demean her or call her names.

I had already started buying gender neutral clothing since I did not want outside influences affecting what gender she would ultimately become. My research on nannies one day came to an abrupt end when my cell phone alarm went off – time for my 5 month appointment. These early appointments had gone well enough, my baby was progressing in a healthy manner.
Today, my doctor, who I will call “Sandy” did an ultrasound and everything appeared to be fine. “Would you like to know the gender?” Sandy asked. I thought to myself “That machine is an ultrasound, not a crystal ball, you couldn’t tell me the gender of my baby even if you wanted to”

“Sure” was my response.

“It’s a boy”…..
……
“What?” I managed to sputter. Sandy then showed me on the ultrasound how exactly my body had betrayed me even worse than the misogynistic suit jockey on the airplane so many months before. I was in shock, I started crying, weeping at the thought of what I was about to curse the world with.
On my way home, my driver asked if I was ok and if I needed anything. “JUST STOP RIGHT HERE” I yelled. Deciding to walk the 4 blocks back home. My home became my prison and my fetus became my warden the next 48 hours. Crying, sobbing, uncontrollable weeping, mental anguish the likes of which may only be experienced by those who have had their lives destroyed by war, I was a refugee, and my home was my refugee camp, an unfamiliar place that was just….sheltering me.
By the third day, I started regaining some of my mental strength and knew what I had to do. I couldn’t bring another monster into the world. We already have enough enemies as it is. It didn’t matter that I would be raising a son, he would still come into contact with boys, men, perhaps even the suit jockey who would inevitably twist his carefully constructed upbringing with their kindness. He would think “These men aren’t so bad, why would mom say that they are holding me down?”
Not all men are bad, my driver showed genuine concern for my well-being that day and I may have taken my anger out on him. That may have been uncalled for. But I knew what I had to do.

A few days later, I went in for the procedure, as it was fairly later in my pregnancy, I was aware there were certain risks, but it went off without a hitch. My body’s betrayal was no more, I was free, and for the first time since the airplane incident, I felt strong. I had done something positive, something that would actually make a difference, something good, even though as I would find out, many others wouldn’t see it that way.

Today, I have a beautiful 1 year old female who will hopefully grow up to be just as strong and driven as her mother. I have endured a lot regarding my first pregnancy, but I don’t care. Sometimes, even allies will turn on you, but I don’t care.
I stand by my decision to abort my baby because it was a male.
I don’t hate men, I hate the patriarchy, what men, and even some women, turn into, I wasn’t going to let that happen with my offspring. The chances were greater that it would with a male, it was unacceptable.

If the curse returns, I would do the exact same thing all over again.

source: http://www.breakingnews234.com/2015/02/the-feminist-who-aborted-her-baby.html
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Nobody: 8:31am On Feb 10, 2015
Feminism...
I really hate ladies with this useless Ideologies

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Nobody: 8:39am On Feb 10, 2015
FAKE STORYangry

OP THAT IS CLEARLY UR WEBSITE.AND U ARE OBVIOUSLY LOOKING FOR TRAFFIC.I WON'T BE SUPRISED IF U SAT DOWN URSELFTO WRITE THIS BULLSHXT.

FEMINSM IS A MOVEMENT FOR THE EQUALITY OF BOTH SEXES ECONOMICALLY,POLITICALLY,AND SOCIALLY.NOT THE HATRED OF MEN tongue


NEXT TIME WRITE A BETTER STORYwink


P.S:ANY WOMAN WHO HATES MEN IS A MISANDRIST,NOT A FEMINISTangry

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by skillsbaba(m): 8:45am On Feb 10, 2015
dhammyg:
FAKE STORYangry

OP THAT IS CLEARLY UR WEBSITE.AND U ARE OBVIOUSLY LOOKING FOR TRAFFIC.I WON'T BE SUPRISED IF U SAT DOWN URSELFTO WRITE THIS BULLSHXT.

FEMINSM IS A MOVEMENT FOR THE EQUALITY OF BOTH SEXES ECONOMICALLY,POLITICALLY,AND SOCIALLY.NOT THE HATRED OF MEN tongue


NEXT TIME WRITE A BETTER STORYwink


P.S:ANY WOMAN WHO HATES MEN IS A MISANDRIST,NOT A FEMINISTangry

Copy the topic and paste on Google, come back and tell me what you found out

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Meel: 8:57am On Feb 10, 2015
Abeg who impregnate her? Even if na ivf, no b guy sperm born her and her pikin.
Her thinking is like that of bokoharam, fighting with what you are against.

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by channelz: 8:59am On Feb 10, 2015
dhammyg:
FAKE STORYangry

OP THAT IS CLEARLY UR WEBSITE.AND U ARE OBVIOUSLY LOOKING FOR TRAFFIC.I WON'T BE SUPRISED IF U SAT DOWN URSELFTO WRITE THIS BULLSHXT.

FEMINSM IS A MOVEMENT FOR THE EQUALITY OF BOTH SEXES ECONOMICALLY,POLITICALLY,AND SOCIALLY.NOT THE HATRED OF MEN tongue


NEXT TIME WRITE A BETTER STORYwink


P.S:ANY WOMAN WHO HATES MEN IS A MISANDRIST,NOT A FEMINISTangry
You have a point there. But one can be a breeding ground for the other. Or is it like differentiating a pick pocket from a thief and also from an armed robber? Just asking

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by giantstrides(m): 9:15am On Feb 10, 2015
This looks like a fabricated tale to me, but if it is true, I pity her daughter she just might end up destroying her daughters mentality....btw since she hated men so much why was she willing to get pregnant through the sp€rm?
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by breakingnews234: 9:19am On Feb 10, 2015
channelz:
You have a point there. But one can be a breeding ground for the other. Or is it like differentiating a pick pocket from a thief and also from an armed robber? Just asking

I agree with the commenter, this is not feminism but a clear case of Misandry. She wasn't fighting for the right of women, she was busy hating on men.
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by dinachi(m): 9:26am On Feb 10, 2015
dhammyg:
FAKE STORYangry
OP THAT IS CLEARLY UR WEBSITE.AND U ARE OBVIOUSLY LOOKING FOR TRAFFIC.I WON'T BE SUPRISED IF U SAT DOWN URSELFTO WRITE THIS BULLSHXT.
FEMINSM IS A MOVEMENT FOR THE EQUALITY OF BOTH SEXES ECONOMICALLY,POLITICALLY,AND SOCIALLY.NOT THE HATRED OF MEN tongue
NEXT TIME WRITE A BETTER STORYwink
P.S:ANY WOMAN WHO HATES MEN IS A MISANDRIST,NOT A FEMINISTangry
Shut your stinking puccy! You will deny everything evil that feminists beasts do just because you love them. An evil beast KILLS an innocent child just because he is male and you are here spewing gibberish. How I wish your father throway the thing for ground instead of producing you to come here and shame your parents. Go back to your cave,you belong with wild animals grin grin grin

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Nobody: 9:31am On Feb 10, 2015
This is real bad. That is killing in itself. Some people are taking this thing too far. May God deliver all.

God bless President GEJ. Politics should not be a do or die game. That we don't support one candidate should not make us enemy.
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by VirginFinder: 9:44am On Feb 10, 2015
Sad!

*singing*
I'm proud to be a man
Cos I was born a man
And I deserve the right
To live life
Like every other man
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by channelz: 9:51am On Feb 10, 2015
breakingnews234:


I agree with the commenter, this is not feminism but a clear case of Misandry. She wasn't fighting for the right of women, she was busy hating on men.
Okay. I thought her case to be that of an extremist; ie fanatical/extreme feminism just as it obtains in religion.
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Nobody: 10:52am On Feb 10, 2015
breakingnews234:


I agree with the commenter, this is not feminism but a clear case of Misandry. She wasn't fighting for the right of women, she was busy hating on men.
GOOD U UNDERSTAND.IF THIS STORY IS TRUE,THEN AM SURE THAT THIS WOMAN SIMPLY HATES MEN(for reasons best known to her)AND IS SIMPLY HIDING UNDER THE GUISE OF FEMINISM.AM ALSO SURE SHE NEEDS SOME THERAPY SESSIONS.HER WAY OF THINKING IS OBVIOUSLY FUCCKED UPlipsrsealed

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Nobody: 10:55am On Feb 10, 2015
channelz:
Okay. I thought her case to be that of an extremist; ie fanatical/extreme feminism just as it obtains in religion.

EXACTLY IN EVERY RELIGION\MOVEMENT U HAVE THE FANATICS E.G THE TERRORISTS IN ISLAM.THE LADY IS OBVIOUSLY A FANATIClipsrsealed
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Pennyways: 10:58am On Feb 10, 2015
its alright, I hope someday the adorable daughter will grow up and think differently from her feminist mother, perhaps fall in love with different choices of men, bring some home, and then the feminist mother who hate men will run mad, then she will realized that what we hate always come around.
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Vado(m): 11:15am On Feb 10, 2015
Lubbish angry
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by Pennyways: 11:27am On Feb 10, 2015
Vado:
Lubbish angry
ahoi
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by asadike(f): 11:48am On Feb 10, 2015
Na wah for dis olodo woman, she for kukuma born am give me. Me wey like baby boys like say tomorrow no dey.

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Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by jahbiz: 11:49am On Feb 10, 2015
Meel:
Abeg who impregnate her? Even if na ivf, no b guy sperm born her and her pikin.
Her thinking is like that of bokoharam, fighting with what you are against.
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by macof(m): 12:47pm On Feb 10, 2015
To be honest I don't like the idea of feminism, the name alone gives it away as a sexist movement.
Most feminist are sexists or have sexist tendencies

Women should be respected as human beings deserving of the rights of a Man but shouldn't be given undue advantage over a man either
Jst look at the crazy woman terminating a pregnancy and depriving a baby boy of life

If all feminists were like this then Masculism is even better

On average Men are more capable than women in sectors were men rule due to interest and mentality but when a woman is capable she shouldn't be shoved aside

It's absolutely stuupid for a person to tell me to give a woman what she doesn't deserve or what she's not capable of in the guise of equal rights
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by IceDune: 7:40pm On Feb 10, 2015
asadike:
Na wah for dis olodo woman, she for kukuma born am give me. Me wey like baby boys like say tomorrow no dey.

I can give you your very own.. Text me cheesy
Re: The Feminist Who Aborted Her Baby Because He Is A Boy (her Reasons) by asadike(f): 7:51pm On Feb 10, 2015
IceDune:


I can give you your very own.. Text me cheesy
no thks

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