So you want to be a gentleman but don’t know where to
start. Being a gentleman isn’t a personality quirk. It’s not
something you turn on and off like a switch. It’s a
lifestyle. Although it’s a reputation that’s hit the
endangered species list, like my Ghostbusters sweatshirt,
I’m hopeful it will make a comeback.
Being a gentleman revolves around one word: respect.
It’s respect for yourself, those you care about, and those
you want to care about.
Here are 12 timeless tips on how to be a gentleman
that will enhance your life, both personally and
professionally:
1. Define Your Personal Style
When I hear “gentleman” I think suit, tie, polished shoes…
and stuffy. Seriously, I just fell asleep thinking about it.
Luckily, the definition has evolved and isn’t attached to a
certain look anymore – it’s all about attitude and how you
carry yourself. Choose a personal style that reflects your
personality and lifestyle. Don’t buy clothes you think you
should , otherwise you may as well wear a sandwich board
that says I have no idea who I am!
2. Keep Your Hygiene in Check
Put effort into your appearance. Keep yourself clean,
showered, and groomed. Women do enjoy scruffy, but
controlled scruffy – you don’t want your date asking where
you hid your cardboard sign and paper cup.
In other words: don’t smell. And perhaps reserve the
gnarly Davy Jones beard for the NHL playoffs.
3. Be a Grown-up
It’s now commonplace for potential employers to check out
your social media profiles. You’ll also be hard-pressed to
find a woman who won’t do the same before dating you.
Even if the pictures are from years ago and you’ve since
cleaned up your act, they’re not going to see “now” you.
They’re going to see “then” you, a.k.a. K-Fed hat and beer
bong.
While you’re at it, set up a grown-up e-mail address. The
sounds-dirty-but-isn’t e-mail account you’ve had since high
school is the farthest thing from gentlemanly. Ever.
4. Keep Language PG-13
As someone who’s an unintentional potty mouth, I was
alarmed to find out how many people are offended by
swearing. I now do my best to keep the f-bombs at a
minimum.
It’s obviously a huge no-no in professional settings, but
trust me, when you constantly swear in your personal life, it
becomes increasingly difficult to reel in the habit at work.
Consider this a top priority if you want to be a gentleman.
Not only will expanding your vocabulary make you a better
communicator, you’ll impress others across the board with
your intelligence and professionalism.
5. Connect With People
Say hello as you’re walking past a stranger. Let someone
go in front of you in the grocery line. Make eye contact.
Be approachable. It’s one of the best ways to open
yourself up to new people, experiences, and professional
connections.
To be a gentleman while you’re out, always remember it’s all
about them . Be a good listener. Ask questions. Take note
of what’s important to them, and they’ll take note of you.
6. Find Your Purpose
Beyond a nice home and financial security, what do you
want? What are you passionate about? What mark do you
want to make? Define what you live for. Not only will you
feel more fulfilled, it’ll lead to so much depth and
substance your head will spin. Everything will feel that
much brighter.
Don’t take my word for it: be a gentleman and find out
for yourself.
7. Be Clear About What You Want
Not making a decision is a decision in itself, and it’s not a
good one! If you want the respect of others, know what
you want and what you don’t, and be clear about it.
Knowing how to say no is one of the most well-respected
things you can do for yourself.
You don’t want to be a wishy-washy person who constantly
flakes on those you care about because you over-commit,
and you certainly don’t want to be the guy with no opinion
or backbone.
8. Hold the Door Open
Holding the door open for people is a gentleman’s calling
card. It’s one of the most subtle yet powerful ways to
show your consideration for others.
Game. Set. Match.
9. Keep Your Promises
A big part of being a gentleman is respecting others’ time
and meaning what you say. If you say you’re going to meet
someone at a specific time, don’t be late. When you tell
someone you’re going to help them with something, help them.
When you promise you’ll have a project done by a certain
date, meet your deadline.
Not only will this build trust with those you care about, it
will also help build self-trust, a crucial-yet-underrated form
of trust when you’re a gentleman.
10. Return the Favor
It’s all about the little things, both at work and at home.
If a co-worker helped you setup a killer presentation, help
them with their annual report. If your girlfriend picked up
groceries, carry them in for her. Always make sure you’re
helping enhance the lives of those you care about.
11. Pick Up After Yourself
Keeping a tidy office, home, and car will leave a good
impression on anyone you meet. It shows you take yourself
seriously, and take pride in what you’ve worked hard for.
Fast forward ten years to when you’re living with your
future wifey: if you build the habit now, you’ll be one of
the few who aren’t nagged about leaving their socks on the
floor! Win/win.
12. Be You
Nobody’s looking to hire or date a Ken doll. Our
professional and personal lives are now fused together
thanks to technology, so drop all that compartmentalizing
and be authentic 24/7. Let your guard down and stop
trying to look so glossy. Not to sound all hippy, but just
be.
What’s ironic about the art of being yourself is what makes
you unique is usually what makes you self-conscious. The
flaws you find irritating are appealing and endearing to
everyone else – they’re what set you apart and make you
memorable. Would you rather be memorable or a cardboard
cutout? That’s what I thought.
Being at ease with who you are is the sign of a true
gentleman. Gentlemen don’t lie or mislead – they’re as
comfortable with themselves as they want you to be. Being
a gentleman never goes out of style – put these tips into
practice and you’ll be well on your way to gentleman status

I already have all those characteristics

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From your points, I guess I am a gentleman.

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How to be a Gentle man

1. Give people money
2. Give them more money
3. If they spend it anyhow, Give them more money
4. Give them money, when they dont ask
5. Give them money daily
6. Buy Them Gifts
7. Buy Them more Gifts
8. Buy them expensive Gifts.
9. If they complain you aint giving them money, then do the needful by giving it them
10. More money
11 Yet more money
12. In the End, you'll be a perfect Gentleman to them. Cheers

@OP, nice write-up