@ Topic

your first reason for break up sounds logical but the other reasons are as a result of your inferiority complex, what ever you choose to do, handle it maturedly, I for one don't think sending a text message is the best way of doing it, be the man that you are, sit down and talk it over with her reasonably make her understand, afterwards you are free to stay away.

@ poster

Wats up with u dude Don't u have faith



I'll tell u ur real reason for breaking up with her!,

It because u are/were SCARED!!!

Scared of losing her somehow, someway.

I've been in similar situations dude & believe u me, I know how u feel.

I only hope that u are sure of what u r doin by letting dat girl go.

I don't think breakups have to be mutual. Obviously it's a lot nicer if they are, but if it's over for one person, it's over.

I do think that OP should man-up and break up in person and explain why, especially after 3 years. It's not ok to do it by text. You do that with hook ups, not with someone you actually dated. That's just a really uncool and disrespectful thing to do.

it's easier if it's mutual but it doesn't have to be. Most of the time they're not

95% of everyone here is making me feel i am really guilty of something i know am not,

well, . . . . . . . . what else can i say


thanks though!

@poster,
beyond the question you posted, I am sad to note that you are unfair to the lady. You are selfish too.

That there should be mutuality of agreement in seperation does not mean you should call off the affair because you entertain inferiority complex in your mind. The lady will definitely find it hard to understand you.

My question to you is that: did you comunicate the above reasons to her before you broke her heart? Or you are still compiling the reasons for your change of heart?

@ Postal, more often than not, breakups are not mutual.
But considering the number of years you two have been together,
it would be more gentle-manly of you to sit hear down and talk face-to-face
about it.

But, Wait a Minute, Y on earth would you want to end a relationship with a lady simply because of her weight gain? What made you so sure that the agbani-darego you're chasing after now wldn't turn orobo in the next 1 year or two?

Just send your lady to the Gym and stop this child's play!

in my opinion,

i feel u havent done wrong leaving her, but u would have not mentioned marriage to someone u never had in mind for. . . . .

@poster

My brother never pick that call if you don't want to be hypnotized.

I have one that i am planning the way and manner to off-load right now.

Not that i don't love her but the issue is that she puts me under undue pressure all in the name of we must get married.

She does not allow other guys because of what she claimed she really wanted and this kind of make me feel uncomfortable because i don't like things look too obvious.

I am so positive that the crazy love between us will sooner or later die a natural death.

I tell you when you start becoming inconsistent, she will leave.

If you will get married to someone, it will happen naturally, it can't be forced

Enjoy yourself as life is sweet for those who know how to live it

Cheers

when it comes to break ups, the sooner the better always.
but be sure you are breaking for the right reasons.

Its better to be mutual so that you can look at each others face instead of watching your backs

with the rate at which she bluffs the men out there all just for me Tony, i feel afraid, if i may really meet up as a husband, especially now i just got a good job and about to settle down as a simple and responsible bachelor, i know she will definitely want to wait for me, but then age and maturity aint on her side any more

Look at what Ladies face just becos u r now comfortable with a new job u now believe it time to break up and please define RESPONSIBLE
Guy, Dont lie to urself u've seen sum1 else.
meaning u r now comparing ur babe with the person.
Guilt shouldnt become u i just feel sorry for her.
How i wish she was cheating on u atleast it will make it easier for her.

@OP how would you love being dumped by text. that was calous and she probably doesnt deserve you. you said you are in your 20's. one of the lessons you learn as you get older is learning to be nice to people because you will always need some people far more than you know. life has a very cruel way of humbling people like you.

if you have the opportunity be nice and respectful to her. dont forget apart from your not being ready she was a freind and probably a good one at that.

this is one more reason i hate women giving their precious body away to people like you. you have conquered next one please

Mutual break-up is kinda better- for each party to be happy thereafter.


u guys shd talk it thru and see reasons u can't be 2geda anymore!