Hi pals, please help me analyze this issue if marriage is a contract or should be seen as one?
A girlfriend of mine explained to me that she is doubting whether to accept her boyfriend of 5yrs+ marriage proposal. Reason is because he gave her the following rules:
1) You must not wear trouser when we marry
2) You must exit from all social media (nairaland included)
3) You must dress decent at all times and not keep long nails etc.
The rules were much sha....she then ended by saying that the boyfriend told her if she agrees to all this, they will go ahead and wed.

Please what do you think? Abi marriage na contract? Or is the guy simply a traditionalist abi na Chauvinist? Comments pls..

@ops, The guy did nothing wrong as long as am concern! So if ur friend wants to marry the guy I don't see anything bad in it.

blesseenE:
Hi pals, please help me analyze this issue if marriage is a contract or should be seen as one?
A girlfriend of mine explained to me that she is doubting whether to accept her boyfriend of 5yrs+ marriage proposal. Reason is because he gave her the following rules:
1) You must not wear trouser when we marry
2) You must exit from all social media (nairaland included)
3) You must dress decent at all times and not keep long nails etc.
The rules were much sha....she then ended by saying that the boyfriend told her if she agrees to all this, they will go ahead and wed.

Please what do you think? Abi marriage na contract? Or is the guy simply a traditionalist abi na Chauvinist? Comments pls..

marriage is a contract if ordained my God wen two pepz com to an agreement to be wt each oda as one#my on view sha o #dnt mention nd insult me abg

To your question: mariage, legally, is a contract btw two persons and can be terminated when it breaks down irretrievably, but spiritually, it is beyond contract, a life union... ordained in heaven.
Well, that guy in qstn is a control freak. It may not even end at the mentioned dos and don'ts. Men need to knw that their ladies have their own life to live appart frm being married to 'em.

Am learning @yahx, but really i was pissed off when the babe told me the rules... I was like after 5yrs+?, in this age?, are this rules feasible?. Some desperate babes might say yes though..lol

blesseenE:
Am learning @yahx, but really i was pissed off when the babe told me the rules... I was like after 5yrs+?, in this age?, are this rules feasible?. Some desperate babes might say yes though..lol

b4 u venture in marraige make sure yu both understand each oda

And if their is going to b an agreement betwenn you both b4 opening the vail

If they shld b any rule I tink it shld b agreed by both parties b4 d wedding so that there won't b any rules dat will affect one party in order to sertisfy the oda

blesseenE:
Am learning @yahx, but really i was pissed off when the babe told me the rules... I was like after 5yrs+?, in this age?, are this rules feasible?. Some desperate babes might say yes though..lol

b4 u venture in marraige make sure yu both understand each oda

And if their is going to b an agreement betwenn you both b4 opening the vail

If they shld b any rule I tink it shld b agreed by both parties b4 d wedding
so that there won't b any rule dat will affect one party in order to sertisfy the oda

Marriage na agreement, Agreement na contract. Now, can two walk together except they agree?

Marriage is not a contract, the success of marriage is understanding. Also compromise goes a long way too. BTW what kind of decrees are these the guy should have presented his argument in a nicer way like explaining the reasons behind it. It should have been a discussion not a decree.

The lady in question should reason well before accepting, she should have a discussion with him on why he wants her out of social media e.t.c sometimes that could be an avenue to reach out to friends and boost your business. They should talk, the lady should decide, dish out her dos and don'ts as well, they have a discussion about it, make sure they are both in good understanding then they are good to go. It should be a nice discussion - having in mind one might compromise in some cases and or situations. Good luck to them

Sounds like prison to me. And if she continues with him..it's a crime.

He's being chauvinistic. WTH? I'd never agree to such terms & conditions. Marriage shouldn't be about trying to change a person. Either you like & accept everything about them before getting married, or someone needs to pound the pavement 4real.

Al join

blesseenE:
Hi pals, please help me analyze this issue if marriage is a contract or should be seen as one?
A girlfriend of mine explained to me that she is doubting whether to accept her boyfriend of 5yrs+ marriage proposal. Reason is because he gave her the following rules:
1) You must not wear trouser when we marry
2) You must exit from all social media (nairaland included)
3) You must dress decent at all times and not keep long nails etc.
The rules were much sha....she then ended by saying that the boyfriend told her if she agrees to all this, they will go ahead and wed.

Please what do you think? Abi marriage na contract? Or is the guy simply a traditionalist abi na Chauvinist? Comments pls..

can't you get it?!
He is breaking up with her. He knows she won't agree

blesseenE:
Hi pals, please help me analyze this issue if marriage is a contract or should be seen as one?
A girlfriend of mine explained to me that she is doubting whether to accept her boyfriend of 5yrs+ marriage proposal. Reason is because he gave her the following rules:
1) You must not wear trouser when we marry
2) You must exit from all social media (nairaland included)
3) You must dress decent at all times and not keep long nails etc.
The rules were much sha....she then ended by saying that the boyfriend told her if she agrees to all this, they will go ahead and wed.

Please what do you think? Abi marriage na contract? Or is the guy simply a traditionalist abi na Chauvinist? Comments pls..

Tell her to kick that guy to the curbs!! She has an insecure low self-esteem kid on her hands!!

As per your question, yes marriage is a sort of contract especially with the advent of prenup and what-not.

yahx:
b4 u venture in marraige make sure yu both understand each oda

And if their is going to b an agreement betwenn you both b4 opening the vail

If they shld b any rule I tink it shld b agreed by both parties b4 d wedding
so that there won't b any rule dat will affect one party in order to sertisfy the oda

yea. I believe it should be more of trust, love and understanding not rules

Mimienudles:
Marriage na agreement, Agreement na contract. Now, can two walk together except they agree?

i believe that is why there is no fun in many marriages...when u keep trying not to break a rule..

Badgers14:
Marriage is not a contract, the success of marriage is understanding. Also compromise goes a long way too. BTW what kind of decrees are these the guy should have presented his argument in a nicer way like explaining the reasons behind it. It should have been a discussion not a decree.

The lady in question should reason well before accepting, she should have a discussion with him on why he wants her out of social media e.t.c sometimes that could be an avenue to reach out to friends and boost your business. They should talk, the lady should decide, dish out her dos and don'ts as well, they have a discussion about it, make sure they are both in good understanding then they are good to go. It should be a nice discussion - having in mind one might compromise in some cases and or situations. Good luck to them

i agree

justmag:
Sounds like prison to me. And if she continues with him..it's a crime.

me too

PunkyOh:
He's being chauvinistic. WTH? I'd never agree to such terms & conditions. Marriage shouldn't be about trying to change a person. Either you like & accept everything about them before getting married, or someone needs to pound the pavement 4real.

yea, think so too. With all these rules, what did the guy like about d babe then?

Enegod:
can't you get it?!
He is breaking up with her. He knows she won't agree

Chei...like serious? Guys na the new trend?

blesseenE:

yea. I believe it should be more of trust, love and understanding not rules

it even better that he gave her d rules b4 even thinking of marriage so dat not wen dey ar married he wil ask her to stop som tins she hav been doing

It is now upto her if she can cope wt it or not
For the guy to giv dos rules as u call it
He must have sighted som ish in her mode of dress nd watsoever
And also remember alll those cloth you wear as. A lady that you ar going to. Wear as a married lady
U need to b more decent. So that you wil bring up more decent kids
In case of socially media I dnt have much take on that but he know why he is giving out that law mayb she is. A media frick like me

sinizia:


Tell her to kick that guy to the curbs!! She has an insecure low self-esteem kid on her hands!!

As per your question, yes marriage is a sort of contract especially with the advent of prenup and what-not.

hmm..na wa o

yahx:
it even better that he gave her d rules b4 even thinking of marriage so dat not wen dey ar married he wil ask her to stop som tins she hav been doing

It is now upto her if she can cope wt it or not
For the guy to giv dos rules as u call it
He must have sighted som ish in her mode of dress nd watsoever
And also remember alll those cloth you wear as. A lady that you ar going to. Wear as a married lady
U need to b more decent. So that you wil bring up more decent kids
In case of socially media I dnt have much take on that but he know why he is giving out that law mayb she is. A media frick like me

if ur made told u to quit using social media will u do it? Maybe it is his own way of being jealous

Pals pls is there anyone in there any one living under this conditions here? Or u know someone who is? Is it possible to be happy?

@seun, moderator, supermod FP please. Need more views on this. Tanx

blesseenE:

if ur made told u to quit using social media will u do it? Maybe it is his own way of being jealous

she definately hav to reduce it sshe has more responsibility then
Except if she is a house wife that she wil even hav time fr dat
But who will she b chatting with? Yu knw she still hav dos male frns hu wil stil b asking her out

If the guy is rich, she can say yes.

Khabuqi:
If the guy is rich, she can say yes.

lol..money answereth all things