I wonder why some ladies find it difficult to restrain themselves from raising up certain issues when they go out on a date with a guy. I still think discussions on the first date, should revolve round light issues, such as the other person's taste in music, fashion, entertainment...their favourite programme on TV/Radio, career, schooling, etc. It should not be used to raise some unnecessary, annoying and embarassing issues. Please, ladies I use Amadioha name beg una, stop telling or asking a guy the following things when you go out on a date with him for the first time!!! Your assumed 'cleverness' might make the young man to see you in a negative light; especially, a young man who is intelligent, hardworking and ambitious with lots of dreams!

1) Don't start telling him your problems right away. Some girls are very fond of this! The first date they have with a guy means pouring out all their problems, even those ones that sound very annoying. I once had a date with a girl some few years back, who instantly told me at our rendezvous that her mum was sick in the hospital and they would need about 80k to treat her! A girl I just met the previous day? I didn't even know her surename!!! She requested that I help her with the money...I saw lies all written in her eyes. That same day, I deleted her number! Please, give yourself some respect when you go on a date! First impression matters. You gain the respect of a man when you respect yourself first. He has invited you for a date because he admires you, want both of you to spend quality time together and get to know each other better. It shouldn't be an opportunity to bore him with all the problems you have been passing through since you were born! How your school fees were not paid and need to be paid...how your mother's business crumbled and need to be revived...how your father lost his job and need to be helped...how your sister, Nkechi was duped and need to start up again! I mean, these are pure craps!!! If you continue this way, am sorry to tell you, you might just end up with a rogue for a husband!!!

2) It is not bad to know where a guy works or the nature of business he does on a first date, but when you start trying to know how much he receives or the amount he has in his accouts, it means you have crossed the line of sanity!!! Who are you to him? A new or prospective employer? You wan employ the young man? Why you dey ask am how much deh dey pay am? If you do this, one sure thing should be on my mind. That is: You are more concerned about my finance and how much you would be getting from me than my character and person!

3) Asking him that lame question: 'Why do you like me?'!!! Common!!! What do you expect him to say? That he likes you because of your big butt or bo.obs? Or your straight legs? Or your accent? On a first date? You don't expect him to quickly work his brain like an HP Pavillion and compile all the reasons he likes you just like that! Within seconds? Any guy that answers that question on a first date has answerd a lame question and be rest assured that the guy would come up with a lame answer too!

4) Don't tell him the numerous admirers you have and how they have been pestering you in order not to look 'too available'! Please, save that for the dogs! He wouldn't want to hear that! It is the gospel truth. If you admire him too and want to start up something with him, let him know you are available! The minds of some men change quickly like the flash of lightening! He might see you as a possible 'wasted venture'. Being available doesn't, in any way, make you cheap and vice versa.

5) Don't tell him how Michael Majid look so cute in a movie that you would wish to date him or how Davido got swag that you are attracted to him!!! What are you trying to do? To make him jealous? Why nau? How old are you? Only under aged girls do that. Any girl that says that on a date is either a kid or just pretending to be one!

I hope the ladies will reason to understand.

Na today? They dey talk am since the days of Adam & Eve and nuttin has happened.

Yeah I agree with You.

Welcome to the world of dating Nigerian women, it's unfortunate to say that a fair number of them have the intelligence of a mouse - can't blame them though, poverty in the land messes up with people's mentality.

This is one reason I stay away from a certain kind, nothing to do with pride but self-respect. . . just one conversation and I'm able to discern what kind of a woman she is.