Want to try dating that hot, young guy? ... Go for it!
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Everyone knows that older men love dating younger women (and many of my female coaching clients complain about this).
But in recent years, the tables turned and now
many women are dating younger men.
Naturally there are wonderful things about being
romanced by someone younger, as well as a
number of challenges. A lot depends on the age
difference between you and how much younger
you're talking about.

THE PROS:
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1. Youthful Enthusiasm: Sometimes as you age,
you feel like you've already "been there,
done that, got the T-shirt". When you repeat
those same experiences again with a
younger guy going through them for the first
time, you benefit from his enthusiasm. You
feel young again, which is one of the biggest
reasons for dating younger.
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2. Refreshing Perspective: As you move through
life, you develop belief systems based on
your experiences. Sometimes they limit your
point of view without you realizing it. When
you spend time with someone younger, you
gain access to his fresh perspective. He
opens your eyes to seeing things in a new
light in ways that inspire and energize you. A
youthful outlook is very refreshing!
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3. Bedroom Stamina: Men's sex drive tends to
decrease around the age that a woman's
peak. With a younger man, you can enjoy his
resilience, stronger libido and maybe find a
better bedroom match. My neighbor,
Linda, is dating a man 15 years her junior and
they've had some rather exciting trysts. Their
invigorating sexual bond has kept them
happily together for more than eight years
now.
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4. Not Stuck in His Ways: As you age, you get
into habits and sometimes ruts. Often people
get stuck in their ways regarding how they do
things and what they are willing to try. With a
younger man, his habits are not as firmly
entrenched which makes it easier to
negotiate your relationship.
Things like what time you eat meals or go to
sleep at night, where you vacation and the
type of activities you enjoy together. Many of
my dating coaching clients complain about
how men their own age are very rigid about
how they live their lives. They tend to say
"No" more often than "Yes" to trying
something new. Youth offers more flexibility,
giving you greater options to explore
together. Hays
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5. Adoration as He Looks Up to You:. Is there a
bigger ego boost then a younger man being
captivated by you? I doubt it. Feeling adored
by an attractive, hot, young guy is
tremendously exciting and good for the soul.
I'm sure even reading this now you can
imagine the fun you could have.
My 2nd neighbor, Jane, found that spending time with her younger lover helped her tap back into
her own youthful exuberance. She opened up
to activities with him that she hadn't done in
years like horseback riding, hiking and cross-
country skiing and reported how much fun it
was! In many ways, dating him was like
revisiting her own youth and she smiled a lot
more as a result.
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THE CONS:
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1. Generation Gap. If you are dating a man who
is five years younger, that's not such a big
deal. But when the age span stretches to 10,
15 or 20 years, significant differences
emerge. Just think about how he won't know
the music, TV or movies you grew up with.
He won't have the first-hand experience of
the times and history you lived through.
I'm talking about Bongo music,
the movie "Jaws" premiering, The Brady
Bunch, and the first time the Beatles were on
the Ed Sullivan Show. These iconic moments
in history and entertainment have great
meaning for some. Every age group has their
own memories. Not sharing the same frame
of reference isn't a problem for every couple
in love, but it is for some.
A lot depends on how much you draw upon
these experiences in the present and how
knowledgeable your date is of the past. I
know couples who had trouble relating to
each other outside the bedroom due to the
generation gap and it caused them to part
ways. Only you can decide how important it
is to have shared history.
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2. Not Your Financial Peer. Usually, older people
have had a longer career, which often means
they are better compensated than a younger
man would be. Just like men have been doing
for eons, you may need to help foot the bill
and take the lead at times when dating your
younger guy, since you have more financial
resources.
If you are looking for an equal and expect a
man to pay half for everything, dating down
might not the right choice for you.
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3. Becoming a Mother Figure. If you are a
particularly strong woman who likes being in
charge, avoid mothering him. My Friend Cindy
ran into this problem with her younger man,
James. He was the sweetest guy and so
willing to do whatever she wanted. Over time,
those traits drove her crazy. He never took
the lead, initiated anything or paid a bill.
If you want to date younger, be sure to avoid
guys who are "fix-it projects," although
truthfully, this is a dysfunctional pattern
women engage in with men of any age.
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4. Family and Friends. When there is a big age
gap, you can run into trouble with friends and
family, both yours and his. Not everyone
approves of the "May-December" romance .
Both of your families may not approve of your
relationship or see the benefits. In addition, it
can sometimes be difficult to socialize with
your friends or his. While the two of you
bridge the gap easily, others may not, causing
awkward social situations.
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5. Different Life Agendas. Not sharing the same
life agenda can drive the biggest wedge
between two people. You might have the
desire to settle in with your man and enjoy
the fruits of your hard work. On the other
hand, he'll avoid putting down roots if he's
just hitting his stride or career is taking off.
Another area of contention is having children.
You might be done with child rearing, but he
may still want to have his own family. This is
likely an unbridgeable gap and indicates
different life agendas. In these cases, one
person needs to compromise which might not
be acceptable to you. This can cause a rift
and end an otherwise suitable loving
relationship.
As a dating coach for women, lol, I've found that age
does not matter as much as compatibility. When
two people find the love they want, the difference in
years becomes meaningless. Or if you just want to
try dating a younger man, but aren't looking for the
long-term, what the heck—enjoy a fling!
One word of caution. I've had clients insist they only
want to date a man much younger. This narrows
your options dramatically and can prevent you from
finding a good match.
In addition, many of the couples I know with a big
age gap weren't initially looking to date younger. It
just happened. My dating advice is that preferences
are great, but don't let age get in the way of finding
the love you deserve.

Here comes another epistle

NairalandPolice1:
Here comes another epistle

An epistle we shall not be reading

NairalandPolice1:
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Dimples192:
Wow... hmmm interesting but you might be preaching to the wrong choir. When I'm in my 40's I'll start dating men 10/15yrs younger than me. Right nw I could do maximum 3/5 younger.

Dimples192:
Wow... hmmm interesting but you might be preaching to the wrong choir. When I'm in my 40's I'll start dating men 10/15yrs younger than me. Right nw I could do maximum 3/5 younger.

Dimples192:
Wow... hmmm interesting but you might be preaching to the wrong choir. When I'm in my 40's I'll start dating men 10/15yrs younger than me. Right nw I could do maximum 3/5 younger.

I am here for you... nice profile pic

Nonsense" I just wasted my data opening this tread

Somebody somewhere has never dated a lady younger than him...I wouldn't know who the person is but I heard he loves it

Nice piece.

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