This might be long, kindly be patient and read, so u can understand.

I am a 28 year old guy, who's gotten to a stage in life where I believe marriage should be the next thing, but the problem is that I am in Love with my best friend's Ex!
I happen to know her(Jenny) while she was dating my best friend;Gentle ...I stayed with my friend(Gentle) due to accommodation problems during my 9 months training on my present job! She normally comes home and we joke around, no strings attached. I left the town after my training, cuz I was posted to Abuja after which I heard that my friend n her broke up. I lost contact with her for about a year n 3 months until I saw a message on facebook from her; we had a lil convo n exchanged numbers!
Suffice it to say that I didn't know it will get this deep! We have gotten so used to each other and love each other, she comes to Abuja almost every 2 weeks to see me, and she is trust worthy, I once entrusted my savings to her and she assisted me rent a house and buy a land in my home state since she resides there and my car is also under her care. She always encourages me n prays for me, there was I time I was transferred to Borno State but through her prayers and mine I was transferred back to Abuja.
The last time I visited my state early this year we were together but I never allowed my bestfriend (Gentle) come to my house when she's around.

The problem is I want my best-friend(gentle) to be my best-man because he really cared for me during my training days. Also, I feel she's the one I want to spend my life with and I want to propose to her when I go to my state immediately after the elections when I get my 21days leave.

How do I get to confront my friend n tell him I am about to marry his ex and he should be my best-man?

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You 'feel' you want to spend the rest of you life with her. You ain't sure. If you're sure, you'd know how to tell your friend. Btw, you broke the bro code. Again, love is mysterious.

according to you his ex, follow your heart jare

falconey:
you just have to mehn, it has to do with your life and future.

Seat the nigga and explain everything to him I'm sure he will understand remember you called him "gentle" *winks*

That's his name gentle

Wow this is tough i must confess but the first step now is to let your friend know what is going on. He might not take it likely at first thinking you betrayed him but he will give in sooner or later.

Secondly, i hope this ex factor thing wont affect your relationship. You have to be sure she has no feelings for your friend anymore if not

Thirdly follow your heart. If both of you are in love then do whatever Pleases you. Since you not bothered she is your friends ex then i think there is no problem.

saaedlee:
This might be long, kindly be patient and read, so u can understand.

I am a 28 year old guy, who's gotten to a stage in life where I believe marriage should be the next thing, but the problem is that I am in Love with my best friend's Ex!
I happen to know her(Jenny) while she was dating my best friend;Gentle ...I stayed with my friend(Gentle) due to accommodation problems during my 9 months training on my present job! She normally comes home and we joke around, no strings attached. I left the town after my training, cuz I was posted to Abuja after which I heard that my friend n her broke up. I lost contact with her for about a year n 3 months until I saw a message on facebook from her; we had a lil convo n exchanged numbers!
Suffice it to say that I didn't know it will get this deep! We have gotten so used to each other and love each other, she comes to Abuja almost every 2 weeks to see me, and she is trust worthy, I once entrusted my savings to her and she assisted me rent a house and buy a land in my home state since she resides there and my car is also under her care. She always encourages me n prays for me, there was I time I was transferred to Borno State but through her prayers and mine I was transferred back to Abuja.
The last time I visited my state early this year we were together but I never allowed my bestfriend (Gentle) come to my house when she's around.

The problem is I want my best-friend(gentle) to be my best-man because he really cared for me during my training days. Also, I feel she's the one I want to spend my life with and I want to propose to her when I go to my state immediately after the elections when I get my 21days leave.

How do I get to confront my friend n tell him I am about to marry his ex and he should be my best-man?

Pardon typos

U confront him by inviting him over to ur house and then u tell him.





Going by what u said,she's a really good girl,a keeper. Whatever u do,keep ur girl!

Emhicee:
You 'feel' you want to spend the rest of you life with her. You ain't sure. If you're sure, you'd know how to tell your friend. Btw, you broke the bro code. Again, love is mysterious.

I broke no code, rember I said I lost contact with her for 1 year plus, besides she said they broke up immediately my posting came!

saaedlee:

That's his name gentle

in addedum, your discussion with gentle about it should be man-to-man make sure your GF(fiancee) isn't present incase gentle doesn't want to be gentle.

The heart of a king is in d hands of God..
Pray 2 God bout it and i'm sure by d time u'll be telling ur friend ur intention, he won't find any fault in it!

Invite me make ah cum drink origin wen d wedding set!

ULSHERLAN:
Wow this is tough i must confess but the first step now is to let your friend know what is going on. He might not take it likely at first thinking you betrayed him but he will give in sooner or later.

Secondly, i hope this ex factor thing wont affect your relationship. You have to be sure she has no feelings for your friend anymore if not

Thirdly follow your heart. If both of you are in love then do whatever Pleases you. Since you not bothered she is your friends ex then i think there is no problem.

Thanks a lot, she doesn't have feelings for him at all, and she thinks I have told him already.

It's about how you explain the stuff to your friend. I'm sure he also wants the best for his ex if he is a genuine person. Perhaps, he was an avenue for you to meet your woman.

lagmostkuit:
The heart of a king is in d hands of God..
Pray 2 God bout it and i'm sure by d time u'll be telling ur friend ur intention, he won't find any fault in it!

Invite me make ah cum drink origin wen d wedding set!

I hv already bought a ring n insha-Allah it will come to pass. "Orijin" will surely be enough for everyone including you

saaedlee:

I broke no code, rember I said I lost contact with her for 1 year plus, besides she said they broke up immediately my posting came!

did you see my last statement? btw, babe wey your guy don date before suppose be no go area according to the bro code. The more reason why i said love is mysterious. It transcends any code and shit. We good?

Emhicee:


did you see my last statement? btw, babe wey your guy don date before suppose be no go area according to the bro code. The more reason why i said love is mysterious. It transcends any code and shit. We good?

Yea we good! didn't see the last stmnt. I swear love is mysterious n I have never for one second doubted her loyalty to me, even when I am not around for months!

Bro,am suspecting that u are the Gentle of a guy,and a friend told u this which u wanna seek for our opinion probably how to deal with the ORUBEBE...........why not come plain and tell us u are the GENTLE.....we have JEGAs here who will suggest to u how u will go about dealing with#ranting we will not take it Orubebe#.........talk true ASAP,no time for delay.

saaedlee:

Thanks a lot, she doesn't have feelings for him at all, and she thinks I have told him already.

If that be the case then tell your friend about it and make him see reasons why you can't reverse your decision.

saaedlee:


Yea we good! didn't see the last stmnt. I swear love is mysterious n I have never for one second doubted her loyalty to me, even when I am not around for months!

goodluck or buhari with telling your friend and proposing to the lady.

ULSHERLAN:

If that be the case then tell your friend about it and make him see reasons why you can't reverse your decision.

What if he doesn't see reasons with me?

saaedlee:


What if he doesn't see reasons with me?

He doesn't have to.

You just needed to tell him.

The earlier the better so you will know if to shop for another best man

if u won die, go ahead

Odikwa very risky.......don't say I do not tell u...

Wuuworld:
Bro,am suspecting that u are the Gentle of a guy,and a friend told u this which u wanna seek for our opinion probably how to deal with the ORUBEBE...........why not come plain and tell us u are the GENTLE.....we have JEGAs here who will suggest to u how u will go about dealing with#ranting we will not take it Orubebe#.........talk true ASAP,no time for delay.

Funny, I have already bought the ring! Do u think I should blank him n go ahead shopping for a new best man

Nice one. I like love stories. They are no longer together and she was always going to marry someone else you guys got lucky and found each other so tell your friend, marry your gal and live happily ever after.

He's your best friend, you alone know how to break the news to him.
Tell him though, but don't let his actions/attitude stop you from finding true happiness.


Friends come and go.

andromida:
Nice one. I like love stories. They are no longer together and she was always going to marry someone else you guys got lucky and found each other so tell your friend, marry your gal and live happily ever after.

I wish it were that easy!

saaedlee:


Funny, I have already bought the ring! Do u think I should blank him n go ahead shopping for a new best man

Tell your friend I feel you owe him that you did say he has been a good friend to you if it is too hard for him he does not have to be your best man.

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Houseofglam7:
He's your best friend, you alone know how to break the news to him.
Tell him though, but don't let his actions/attitude stop you from finding true happiness.


Friends come and go.

Funny thing is I kept postponing telling him for a while now...and the date I intend to propose to her is getting closer

So of all the 35 million+ girls in Nigeria that you could fall in love with, you just conveniently chose that one

It's all your fault. Tell the guy, whatever comes of it is yours to bear.

saaedlee:

I broke no code, rember I said I lost contact with her for 1 year plus, besides she said they broke up immediately my posting came!

Since you broke no code why can't you tell him?

Why is your mind not free?