mrsharpguy:
We started dating from 100level in one of d fed universities. D same class , same course and we graduated and served d same yr. She s not from a rich home, nida am I. But I was privileged to go for my MSc tru family support. We have agreed to get married next yr. By den I should v been tru wit m studies and God's will get a good job.
The main p. She texted m early dis month dat she wants to go back to scul ( not for her masters o), to study phamarcy from underg tru DE dis yr. Wit d hope dat I will support her IF I get a job. Knowing dat her parents are not dat financially OK. One of her sis still in d univ, d younger bro s abt to sit for his wassce. I told her to hold on, dat I can't commit msef to such. Not DAT I have any job waiting for me. Moreover, my pple are luking up to m. Those dat contributed to m edu are waiting to start reaping d fruits f deir labour. My younger ones are hoping dat I start doing d "needful". Again, we are tinking f marriage next yr. Where will d money to do ALL dese come from? I told her dat I won't commit msef unless we have a guaranteed source f income.
Now, she tinks dat m not in support of her progress in life. Telling m to watch and see, dat she will go ahead and make t. I said fyn! Wish u well. But can't do wat m not sure of where d source f finance will come from.
Pls nairalanders, did I do anything wrong? Or wat is t DAT I should v done. Mature advice pls.

ronald4lif:
I'm tempted to ask why she's insisting on studying another undergraduate course when she's already graduated?

You did the right thing. Move on with your life and forget about her completely. What nonsense.

mrsharpguy:


We studied Biochemistry. But, she tinks she can't make t wit d course. I've told her dat hardwork, perseverance and prayers can make u to succeed regardless f ur field f study. Still....

Tallesty1:
I can bet my tongue that she's got a side guy. A rich side guy.

dicefrost:
Op you may actually be against her progress. Please do not discourage her from chasing her dreams. Just let her know that you would not be able to finance her education at this time. If she still wants to go, then let her! Just don't allow yourself to be used

mrsharpguy:
Tanx folks. Ur words are really encouraging. Maybe I should direct her to dis forum

mrsharpguy:

Pls, can u explain how I'm against her progress? I just told her d truth.

ronald4lif:


She may have sound reasons for that, maybe there's a propensity of a pharmacologist getting employed quicker than a biochemist. But whatever reason it is, is irrelevant. When there's no money there's no money. Except she has other ideas of seeing herself through the course.

Quiting the relationship when she's aware you're not earning is very selfish and insensitive of her. Good you wished her well, just move on.

quivah:

if indeed pharmacology has more job opportunites (which in fact is true) than Bch.. then her reason is not irrelevant.. however she should know no man owes her the responsibility of seeing her through a second degree.. anyone who wants to go for a second degree should have the means to see himself thru

to me, she's on her own
.. selfish and inconsiderate!

numericalguy:
OP,

I think you are to be blamed for this, you must have contributed heavily financially towards her Bsc education, so she sees it as a God given right for you to sponsor her further studies irrespective of your financial status. Its your type that would pay money for their girlfriend's Brazilian hair even when their families are wallowing in poverty.

The solution is for you to wean her of all these characters. How you go about it is your business.