The 4 possible outcome of every Relationship (the “relationship pathway”).
The need for intimacy is one that has been associated with every living creature ranging from animals to human race. Pups bound with their dam through suckling and even cuddling. It’s even extreme in rabbits in that they will reject any kit that has been touched by another “person”. How about humans? Babies suckle for longer times are assumed to be more bonded to their mothers than those that don’t. Life itself is a never ending cycle: people are born, they grow old and die and the cycle continues.
Now back to the matter…
There is one peculiar feeling lovers have in common; real lovers I mean: the tingles. The feeling that makes you both think nothing else matters but you, when you can barely look elsewhere when you are together, how you can’t keep your hands off each other and if anyone at that time were to tell you both that this feeling won’t last, you wouldn’t believe him. To you both, at that time, you are both living a Cinderella story with the ever happily after endings.
The sweet romance goes on until suddenly someone stops doing “something”, love becomes a tradition and the relationship goes “official” and eventually goes boring. It is at that point that the girl wonders what happened to his prince charming and the guy wonders if he didn’t make a mistake about her. This is the stage of the relationship I regard as “hitting the rocks”. To emphasize that, I agree totally with the man that said “love is not meant to be easy but worth it”. And since it is a decision, the parties involved must be ready and willing.
So these are my four deductions:
So now that the “love ship” has hit the rocks, both parties begin to listen to the third party ( friends, toasters, admirers etc).
1. The girl starts listening to what the toasters are saying. She “suddenly” starts realizing that the boy friend is not doing enough of the complimenting and buying of gifts as anymore, he even “nags” about everything and instead of talking things out with him, she gives the third party a chance and boom! She realizes after the “party” is over that all the dancers have left and the music has long stopped only to realize again the guy had come just for the “cookie box” and since the meal has been served he had to leave. She now feels terrible, the damage is done and things fall apart.
2. The guy lets the show of attention and care the girl friend is showing and her resilience in making sure things work out to get to his head and he interprets it as desperation on her end and sees reason to survey the “open market”. He wrongly applies the 80/20 rule and replaces a diamond with gravel. The cost of running the trash suddenly overwhelms him and suddenly he realizes that he had given up glory for penury but at time, it’s too late to fix it.
3. Both love it each other but taking responsibility seems to be the problem. They are both aware that something is wrong but no one wants to talk about it. Rather they walk around engaging in artificial conversations that don’t get to the heart. Slowing the “vultures” smell dead meat and external calls/texts keep coming in and yet they are “just friends” and when the other starts complaining or demanding for explanations, the quarrels set in and they feel the best thing to do is to end it.
4.Both are passionate lovers who are proud of what they have found. They see each other as a gift they need to guard with all they have got. They take nothing for granted; especially themselves. They are the category that defined every relationship with the opposite sex to avoid the temptation of “going back to Egypt”.
Discussions are open, to them it’s okay to read each other’s messages and even take their calls, use each other’s pictures as DPs, hold hands while strolling in the park, and so on. For this category, disagreements/quarrels are probable and when they happen, they are willing to talk it out. This is the category I regard as been friends first and lovers second. They belong to the category that happily ever after lies within their reach.
The four illustrations might not have being exhaustive but it’s basically reflects what is obtainable in our society. In any relationship, the value of communication can never be overemphasized. It is when both parties talk about the things bothering them that solutions can be coined out. No one should assume that the other person should understand when nothing has been said. Romance is a beautiful thing. It is good to find someone who you won’t be scared of committing to entirely there by defiling the trend of trust issues and infidelity. Most promising relationships ended because avoidable mistakes were not sorted out, because discussions were not open, and most times when the beans has been spilled, regret sets in but its all lost already. Love is basically a combination and trust and commitment and if these two things are present in any relationship then the people involved will always stay happy no matter the situation.
If you are in relationship and you dream tomorrow together, now is the time to make the necessarily adjustments to keep your love alive. It is a give and take affair so no one should be only on the receiving end. We read a lot of love stories with happy ending. We can make our relationships memorable too if you we care enough. Keep your love alive.

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Sometimes I wonder if my parents read articles on relationship to have had an excellent marriage. Too much of anything is bad.

For this generation things really change



Even old ppl do genuine love pass the young

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Welrez:
Sometimes I wonder if my parents read articles on relationship to have had an excellent marriage. Too much of anything is bad.

My brother, one thing I can say about marriages then is that both the man and woman held their values in high esteem, no one was willing to risk a divorce so both practically grew in love. But now, our young men and woman claim "things have changed".

ShaddyTerese:
The 4 possible outcome of every Relationship (the “relationship pathway”).
The need for intimacy is one that has been associated with every living creature ranging from animals to human race. Pups bound with their dam through suckling and even cuddling. It’s even extreme in rabbits in that they will reject any kit that has been touched by another “person”. How about humans? Babies suckle for longer times are assumed to be more bonded to their mothers than those that don’t. Life itself is a never ending cycle: people are born, they grow old and die and the cycle continues.
Now back to the matter…
There is one peculiar feeling lovers have in common; real lovers I mean: the tingles. The feeling that makes you both think nothing else matters but you, when you can barely look elsewhere when you are together, how you can’t keep your hands off each other and if anyone at that time were to tell you both that this feeling won’t last, you wouldn’t believe him. To you both, at that time, you are both living a Cinderella story with the ever happily after endings.
The sweet romance goes on until suddenly someone stops doing “something”, love becomes a tradition and the relationship goes “official” and eventually goes boring. It is at that point that the girl wonders what happened to his prince charming and the guy wonders if he didn’t make a mistake about her. This is the stage of the relationship I regard as “hitting the rocks”. To emphasize that, I agree totally with the man that said “love is not meant to be easy but worth it”. And since it is a decision, the parties involved must be ready and willing.
So these are my four deductions:
So now that the “love ship” has hit the rocks, both parties begin to listen to the third party ( friends, toasters, admirers etc).
1. The girl starts listening to what the toasters are saying. She “suddenly” starts realizing that the boy friend is not doing enough of the complimenting and buying of gifts as anymore, he even “nags” about everything and instead of talking things out with him, she gives the third party a chance and boom! She realizes after the “party” is over that all the dancers have left and the music has long stopped only to realize again the guy had come just for the “cookie box” and since the meal has been served he had to leave. She now feels terrible, the damage is done and things fall apart.
2. The guy lets the show of attention and care the girl friend is showing and her resilience in making sure things work out to get to his head and he interprets it as desperation on her end and sees reason to survey the “open market”. He wrongly applies the 80/20 rule and replaces a diamond with gravel. The cost of running the trash suddenly overwhelms him and suddenly he realizes that he had given up glory for penury but at time, it’s too late to fix it.
3. Both love it each other but taking responsibility seems to be the problem. They are both aware that something is wrong but no one wants to talk about it. Rather they walk around engaging in artificial conversations that don’t get to the heart. Slowing the “vultures” smell dead meat and external calls/texts keep coming in and yet they are “just friends” and when the other starts complaining or demanding for explanations, the quarrels set in and they feel the best thing to do is to end it.
4.Both are passionate lovers who are proud of what they have found. They see each other as a gift they need to guard with all they have got. They take nothing for granted; especially themselves. They are the category that defined every relationship with the opposite sex to avoid the temptation of “going back to Egypt”.
Discussions are open, to them it’s okay to read each other’s messages and even take their calls, use each other’s pictures as DPs, hold hands while strolling in the park, and so on. For this category, disagreements/quarrels are probable and when they happen, they are willing to talk it out. This is the category I regard as been friends first and lovers second. They belong to the category that happily ever after lies within their reach.
The four illustrations might not have being exhaustive but it’s basically reflects what is obtainable in our society. In any relationship, the value of communication can never be overemphasized. It is when both parties talk about the things bothering them that solutions can be coined out. No one should assume that the other person should understand when nothing has been said. Romance is a beautiful thing. It is good to find someone who you won’t be scared of committing to entirely there by defiling the trend of trust issues and infidelity. Most promising relationships ended because avoidable mistakes were not sorted out, because discussions were not open, and most times when the beans has been spilled, regret sets in but its all lost already. Love is basically a combination and trust and commitment and if these two things are present in any relationship then the people involved will always stay happy no matter the situation.
If you are in relationship and you dream tomorrow together, now is the time to make the necessarily adjustments to keep your love alive. It is a give and take affair so no one should be only on the receiving end. We read a lot of love stories with happy ending. We can make our relationships memorable too if you we care enough. Keep your love alive.

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