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Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by mamajohn(f): 1:58pm On Apr 10, 2015
One of my students looked so sad and sober in the class last Wednesday, I noticed her mood quickly because she happened to be one of those hilarious girls in the class, so chatty and always smiling. I asked her what was wrong but some funny guys in the class chorused that she has been like that since she came back to school after the presidential election. I teased her to know if her preferred presidential candidate didn't win but she said that wasn't the case. She later came to my office to ask if I can oblige her some minutes to advise her on what to do. I listened to her story. She said her mother got to know one of her secondary school teachers early this year when the teacher came to buy some goods from her mum's shop at Ado-Ekiti, she said she introduced the man to her mum as her secondary school English teacher and jokingly told the teacher to be patronizing her mum for all his provisions. She came back to school that same week and didn't go back home until the Thursday 26th of March for the presidential election. Her mum is actually a single mother of two children, herself and her younger sister who is in SSIII. she said her father married another woman when he was transferred to Abuja in his office in 2008 when she was just in JSS I and that he has been treating them with utmost disdain ever since then. She said that she noticed an unusual behavior in her mum on that evening of March 26, someone called her on phone and she went away from where she could hear her to pick the call, and that on closing by evening, her mum asked her to go home and prepare food while she went to an unknown destination, she said she began to reason about her mum's behavior, visavis picking calls secretly and going to an unnamed destination, she narrated the story to her younger sister who told her frankly that their mum has been seeing a particular man and that the man do come to their house when she was in school. Upon careful investigation she discovered that the man in question is her former English teacher whom she introduced to her mum at her shop. She is devastated and sad, she confronted her mum who didn't deny the affair, she said her mum told her in plain terms that she must continue with her life since her father walked away from them when he was transferred to Abuja, and that having waited in vain for more than 7 years, she has tried on her part so she should close her eyes on her and her new found lover irrespective of whether he is her former teacher or not.
My take on this is actually that the woman will definitely go on with her life but must it be with her daughter's former teacher? Kindly advise, Thank you all.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by wwwkaycom(m): 2:06pm On Apr 10, 2015
She cant stop her mum from loving but for the mum to decend so low as to date her daughters teacher is shameful, cant she find another man elsewhere? Well, let that girl have a sincere daughter-mother talk with her mum where she will bare her mind and plead with her mum to desist from seeing that man, she could involve her mother's relations if the woman prove adamant

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by solace2013: 2:08pm On Apr 10, 2015
shameless woman, who knows whether her husband abandoned her because of adultery sef
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by joa2013: 2:12pm On Apr 10, 2015
wwwkaycom:
She cant stop her mum from loving but for the mum to decend so low as to date her daughters teacher is shameful, cant she find another man elsewhere? Well, let that girl have a sincere daughter-mother talk with her mum where she will bare her mind and plead with her mum to desist from seeing that man, she could involve her mother's relations if the woman prove adamant
seconded!
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by GboyegaD(m): 2:14pm On Apr 10, 2015
This is tough to get yourself involved in. The mom is already in love with the teacher and she shod look beyond him been her teacher back in school as he is human and not just some piece of furniture.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by VintageCocktail(m): 2:17pm On Apr 10, 2015
Must be a giant leap for the girl ....from my respected teacher to mums lover to dad. She Will Come Around If She Loves Her Mum And Honestly Wants Her Mum's Happiness.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by madamshepopo(f): 2:29pm On Apr 10, 2015
There is nothing she can do about it, though the mother ought to have been discreet enough not to indulge in such things with the knowledge of her daughters, btw, isn't the teacher a married man?

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Apr 10, 2015
Abeg, her mom is free to date whoever she pleases! Is the problem here the lowly income & class of the teacher? I'm sure she won't look so dejected if the guy were to be the proprietor. It is well o.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by SAMBARRY: 6:25pm On Apr 10, 2015
So the daughter is the one to determine who her mother dates undecided




Mshewwww omo oshi lookin for excuses not to face her studies undecided

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by wwwkaycom(m): 7:05pm On Apr 10, 2015
The girl has feelings too, she felt demoralized by the fact that her mother is dating her teacher who she introduced to her
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Nobody: 7:07pm On Apr 10, 2015
Love can come from anywhere.

The girl is just the means to the mum,and the teacher meeting..

since the mum is happy,and in love,there's little she can do.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by kpolli(m): 12:02am On Apr 11, 2015
wwwkaycom:
She cant stop her mum from loving but for the mum to decend so low as to date her daughters teacher is shameful, cant she find another man elsewhere? Well, let that girl have a sincere daughter-mother talk with her mum where she will bare her mind and plead with her mum to desist from seeing that man, she could involve her mother's relations if the woman prove adamant

What do you mean by that? Isn't he human too?

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Dheartless: 12:58am On Apr 11, 2015
kpolli:


What do you mean by that? Isn't he human too?
good question bro.
that kind of reasoning is really disturbing


maybe if the teacher is now a senator.... it wouldn't have been considered so low for the woman to date or marry him.

as long as the man is not a joker.., I see nothing wrong,
so all the mom got to do is be careful and observant.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by amokeme(f): 3:14am On Apr 11, 2015
Honestly, i don't see anything wrong with the mother's choice.. What i don't get here is the daughter's problem undecided

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by adekoonlay(m): 7:15am On Apr 11, 2015
Whats the daughters problem, may be shes got feelings for her teacher too, cos I dont see anything wrong.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Nobody: 8:34am On Apr 11, 2015
nothing dey joor..

unless she had relations with the teacher or she has a personal hatred for the teacher
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Filmewell(f): 9:11am On Apr 11, 2015
children thinks their parents lives begins and end with them. i domt see anything wrong with the mum dating her former teacher. unless the man is a married man. but if not she should let her mum be.

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by nonjebose(m): 9:23am On Apr 11, 2015
The girl definitely will have a sense of reproach for being instrumental to the replacement of her dad. She may even be uncomfortable with the thought of a heart break for the mum. She needs assurances from the mum

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Penssuwa(m): 9:50am On Apr 11, 2015
I believe the girl didnt tell you the whole gist. Maybe she had something with the teacher in the past. If the girl is not averse to her mom seeing a man but her teacher, it means that the teacher was/is more than a teacher to her that made her feel so bitter.
For Pete's sake the mom has her life to live and one can find love anywhere.
(I dnt support adultery... I hope shez divorced)

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by innervoice(m): 10:13am On Apr 11, 2015
wwwkaycom:
She cant stop her mum from loving but for the mum to decend so low as to date her daughters teacher is shameful, cant she find another man elsewhere? Well, let that girl have a sincere daughter-mother talk with her mum where she will bare her mind and plead with her mum to desist from seeing that man, she could involve her mother's relations if the woman prove adamant

What is shameful about it?
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by Richy4(m): 11:32am On Apr 11, 2015
The mum is really free to date and move on.

But Op I will suggest you access the girl to know if she is matured. If she was, then advice her to go with a mature friend probably you just to ask the teacher what he really want with her mom.

If it was genuine, she should give her concent because I believe she will like her mom to be happy. But if not he should know she got her mom's back any time..

I think the girl should let the teacher know how she feel about all this. But it shouldn't be a threat as long as it was love and sometimes one can't help those four letter words.
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by wwwkaycom(m): 2:01pm On Apr 11, 2015
I believe the mother has her life to live but I'm still of the opinion that she should also respect the feelings of her daughter, the girl may be thinking that her parent would still reconcile, or she may know about the sexual escapades of the teacher in question in the past, she may see the teacher as someone who is trying to further polarise her family or another fun seeking playboy, yes the mother has to go on with her life but let her reconcile with her hubby or look for another man, cheers!
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by 1960chic(f): 10:04pm On Apr 11, 2015
Well, there's no problem with the mom moving on with her life but I think her daughter's fear is that she doesn't think the teacher is mature enough remember she has known him before. But all she needs is reassurance from her mother that she can take care of herself irrespective of him being a teacher or not. The daughter is only scared she might get hurt.

And again, the secret phone calls, visiting in her absence and all that is petty. She needs to act more mature with the relationship.

Why are they hiding it from her?
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by DukeNija(m): 2:46am On Apr 12, 2015
When I saw this thread I swear what came to my mind was Ekiti state. I served there so I know what's up. Lol
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by cococandy(f): 6:55am On Apr 12, 2015
amokeme:
Honestly, i don't see anything wrong with the mother's choice.. What i don't get here is the daughter's problem undecided
maybe she had a crush on the guy.

grin

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Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by amokeme(f): 4:47pm On Apr 12, 2015
cococandy:
maybe she had a crush on the guy.

grin
that's the only explanation o...
Re: Her Former Teacher is Dating Her Mother: What Can She Do? by miss20(f): 6:29pm On Apr 12, 2015
[quote author=solace2013 post=32558627]shameless woman, who knows whether her husband abandoned her because of adultery sef.


Hmmm,na wa for you sha o.didn't u read d post? May God help you to bridle your tongue

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