You’ve broken up with him for whatever reason and now you find yourself texting him to say, ‘hi.’ Why? Why can’t you leave him alone and accept the relationship is finished?

This may give you some insight into why you are not letting go of him:

1. Insecurity - No one wants to feel alone, and when you have broken up with someone at 2 in the morning when you can’t sleep, you tend to forget why things were so bad for you both.In your darkest hours, you will remember the fun times and good times. You will believe that if you two got back together, you could make it work.

You analyze what went wrong, and tell yourself that if he was by your side again, you would do things differently.But they won’t be different. You have broken up for a reason. When you are feeling insecure, call your BFF, go and see a professional, or find a new social group to belong to.

When I first separated from my husband, I got out my address book (this was before the iPhone age), and booked up every free night I could. I joined the gym and lost 10 pounds. I treated myself when I wanted to and told myself how wonderful having freedom was. It worked. Years on and I wonder why we even got married in the first place!

2. Challenge - It’s a game to you. You wonder if you can get him to come back to you at a moment’s notice. You know how to push his buttons and you know what turns him on.

It’s not for the right reasons and it’s not a game. Playing with someone else’s feelings is not the thing to do. Men don’t always play games like women tend to – don’t ask me why – they just seem to like life a little less complicated.

So if you want a challenge, join a sporting or recreational club, and challenge yourself to be a better person than before you met him.

3. You Believe You Made a Mistake – If you said goodbye to him, it was no mistake. There was a reason you gave up on you two.

However, when you are alone and everyone else has someone to go out with, you wonder if you made a mistake when you split from him. You look at old photos and find reasons to believe things could have worked out.

Well, they didn’t. And don’t think you made a mistake, because you didn’t do that either. The only mistake you would make now, would be if you went back to him.

dy kip going bck because they realise wat dy lost••n hw much hu dy lft dia ex for aint worth d while, and again ex's hv lng lastn memories on thm especially if dy had a good time together!!! and again tryn to forget someone u loved, is like tryn to remember someone u nva knew

Welcome to Change flight 120 948. Tighten ur seat belts. This journey will be a long one. Your pilots will be a bunch of rebranded criminals who believe we are all fools.


Be patient because this ride will be at least 4yrs.

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Insecurities, fear of moving on to the next guy... Starting all over again nd hving it blow up in ur face again. Nd sometimes we keep fooling ourselves thinking things will b different....when u keep thinking of all the good tht used to be nd turning a blind eye to the bad. in Denial only to get hurt again.

mhizpeaarl:
dy kip going bck because they realise wat dy lost••n hw much hu dy lft dia ex for aint worth d while, and again ex's hv lng lastn memories on thm especially if dy had a good time together!!! and again tryn to forget someone u loved, is like tryn to remember someone u nva knew

That'§ true.....especially if you both had a very good time together then.....After all they do say that: "the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know".

katzz2nd:
Insecurities, fear of moving on to the next guy... Starting all over again nd hving it blow up in ur face again. Nd sometimes we keep fooling ourselves thinking things will b different....when u keep thinking of all the good tht used to be nd turning a blind eye to the bad. in Denial only to get hurt again.

you really sound like a pro....is like you've had this experience before or even witnessed one way back in those days.....I don't mean to hurt you with what have said....We are only rubbing minds together okay...

liveyourlife:
Welcome to Change flight 120 948. Your pilots will be a bunch of rebranded criminals who believe we are all fools.

Na Only God be sure pilot wey me I know.....but pls you are digressing from the thread....Come back home my paddy

thexzy:
you really sound like a pro....is like you've had this experience before or even witnessed one way back in those days.....I don't mean to hurt you with what have said....We are only rubbing minds together okay...

well theres some truth to what u saying hey nd no need to feel bad im at a much better place.

Faranopussy:
yeah dear

life

Ok oo

katzz2nd:
well theres some truth to what u saying hey nd no need to feel bad im at a much better place.

that'§ so 9ice to know

thexzy:
That'§ true.....especially if you both had a very good time together then.....After all they do say that: "the devil you know is better than the Angel you don't know".

xactly