I live abroad and every end of the month I send my mum 30k as allowance but it seems its not enough from the way she talk sometimes

Please I do like to know from others that live in abroad an average allowance they send to there parents for upkeep on monthly basis

Note: we are about three (3) of us living oversee

500 tassan naira per month .

You should know that there are variables to consider.

You can't base your decision to increase you mums allowance by knowing the average money people here send.

She is your mum. find a way to care for her without comparing with others.

In efemenaxy british accent *Fenk you*

mrsmith11:
I live abroad and every end of the month I send my mum 30k as allowance but it seems its not enough from the way she talk sometimes

Please I do like to know from others that live in abroad an average allowance they send to there parents for upkeep on monthly basis

Note: we are about three (3) of us living oversee

If all your siblings send 30K a piece,that is 90K
I believe that should be enough for her monthly expenses,many people survive on less with more responsibilities.
Are your other siblings not helping out or the 30k is the total she gets monthly
No pension or other income sources?


Do a little homework before increasing the amount
Sometimes parents will take on other responsibilities and start giving money to relatives and other kids and then increase the burden on the ones sending money.make sure that's not what's happening here.
Some parents have been known to give out money and bags of rice and beans to so called men of God in the name of sowing seed forgetting that the seed is coming from your pocket.

Chillisauce:
500 tassan naira per month .

You should know that there are variables to consider.

You can't base your decision to increase you mums allowance by knowing the average money people here send.

She is your mum. find a way to care for her without comparing with others.

In efemenaxy british accent *Fenk you*

ChilliPepperSauce, abeg leave me jare!

babyosisi:


If all your siblings send 30K a piece,that is 90K
I believe that should be enough for her monthly expenses,many people survive on less with more responsibilities.
Are your other siblings not helping out or the 30k is the total she gets monthly
No pension or other income sources?


Do a little homework before increasing the amount
Sometimes parents will take on other responsibilities and starts giving money to relatives and other kids and then increase the burden on the ones sending money.make sure that's not what's happening here.
Some parents have been known to give out money and bags of rice and beans to so called men of God in the name of sowing seed forgetting that the seed is coming from your pocket.

Ok , welcome to my world.

The minute u travel out of the it is assumed dat u are now rich and can carry the responsibility of the whole family on ur shoulders.

It's so annoying but my new moto is " too blessed to be stressed "

True

babyosisi:


If all your siblings send 30K a piece,that is 90K
I believe that should be enough for her monthly expenses,many people survive on less with more responsibilities.
Are your other siblings not helping out or the 30k is the total she gets monthly
No pension or other income sources?


Do a little homework before increasing the amount
Sometimes parents will take on other responsibilities and starts giving money to relatives and other kids and then increase the burden on the ones sending money.make sure that's not what's happening here.
Some parents have been known to give out money and bags of rice and beans to so called men of God in the name of sowing seed forgetting that the seed is coming from your pocket.

babyosisi:


If all your siblings send 30K a piece,that is 90K
I believe that should be enough for her monthly expenses,many people survive on less with more responsibilities.
Are your other siblings not helping out or the 30k is the total she gets monthly
No pension or other income sources?


Do a little homework before increasing the amount
Sometimes parents will take on other responsibilities and starts giving money to relatives and other kids and then increase the burden on the ones sending money.make sure that's not what's happening here.
Some parents have been known to give out money and bags of rice and beans to so called men of God in the name of sowing seed forgetting that the seed is coming from your pocket.

Now that, is enough to make anyone blow their top. Imagine the effrontery.

How old is she? Does she work? Does she live in the village or in a city? Does she live alone or with relatives? Answer these questions and you'll have enough information to make a right decision.

EfemenaXY:


Now that, is enough to make anyone blow their top. Imagine the effrontery.

Hahahahaha
Thankfully my parents take care of themselves by the rent off their properties and the small pension they get when it is paid and what we do is supplement from time to time.
But nne my mom especially,is a sucker for these so called men of God
She is forever doling out money and buying rice and gallons of groundnut oil to give away ,most behind my father's back
Every time they are coming to pray and conduct deliverance and when they leave they leave with envelopes full of cash and rice
Christmas time or whenever I visit,I don't know if she calls them to come and greet me,na so dem go dey appear to pray and bless me and I am expected to "pay them" / sow into their ministry afterwards .

babyosisi:


Hahahahaha
Thankfully my parents take care of themselves by the rent off their properties and the small pension they get when it is paid and what we do is supplement from time to time.
But nne my mom especially,is a sucker for these so called men of God
She is forever doling out money and buying rice and gallons of groundnut oil to give away ,most behind my father's back
Every time they are coming to pray and conduct deliverance and when they leave they leave with envelopes full of cash and rice
Christmas time or whenever I visit,I don't know if she calls them to come and greet men,na so dem go dey appear to pray and bless me and I am expected to "pay them" / sow into their ministry afterwards .

I totally get where you're coming from. Nearly the same thing here too.

Biko, I can't stand those "pastors".

EfemenaXY:


I totally get where you're coming from. Nearly the same thing here too.

Biko, I can't stand those "pastors".

There are some that will pray and I won't even say amen,many of them are fake and you can feel it
I attended a function and my spirit didn't jive with the MOG,When he said let us stand up and pray,I refused to stand
I stayed put on my chair

babyosisi:


There are some that will pray and I won't even say amen
I attended a function and my spirit didn't jive with the MOG
When he said let us stand up and pray,I refused to stand

Hahaha!

That was risky o! You refusing to stand. Where did this happen? Naija? If in Naija, then don't be surprised when they say it's not your fault you refused to stand up and pray / close your eyes because the spirit possessing you strong well-well.

Then you'll need to drink gallons of Olive oil, undergo midnight prayers, burn red candles, bathe in the stream, and so on. Make I nor talk jor.

EfemenaXY:


Hahaha!

That was risky o! You refusing to stand. Where did this happen? Naija? If in Naija, then don't be surprised when they say it's not your fault you refused to stand up and pray / close your eyes because the spirit possessing you strong well-well.

Then you'll need to drink gallons of Olive oil, undergo midnight prayers, burn red candles, bathe in the stream, and so on. Make I nor talk jor.

No here in the USA
Even the MOG I love and respect,I don't do whatever you ask
It has to feel right in my own spirit
Can't allow a fellow human being con and sweet talk me out of my sweat
We all have the same spirit of God
If God is telling you to tell me to sow a seed,God will also tell me
I can hear him too
I don't give out my money anyhow
I have children I am responsible for

babyosisi:


No here in the USA
Even the MOG I love and respect,I don't do whatever you ask
It has to feel right in my own spirit
Can't allow a fellow human being con and sweet talk me out of my sweat
We all have the same spirit of God
If God is telling you to tell me to sow a seed,God will also tell me
I can hear him too

Can't stand them and all that racket they make. Anything for a quite life.

Anyway, to each their own sha...

EfemenaXY:


Can't stand them and all that racket they make. Anything for a quite life.

Anyway, to each their own sha...

I will rather look around and give the $100 in my pocket to a poor family in the church and give $5 in the offering plate of a rich pastor
My money is better used in that manner.
I got off all that guilt trip of digging deep ,years ago
I prefer giving to individuals and specific causes than enriching a rich MOG even further
My spirit will not allow me to be that foolish

babyosisi:


I will rather look around and give the $100 in my pocket to a poor family in the church and give $5 in the offering plate of a rich pastor
My money is better used in that manner.
I got off all that guilt trip of digging deep ,years ago
I prefer giving to individuals and specific causes than enriching a rich MOG even further
My spirit will not allow me to be that foolish

Lol @ digging deep! Osisi...if you don't "dig deep", how you gonna pay your tithes?

But yes, I agree with what you say w.r.t giving to the needy. It's more fulfilling giving to a recipient who isn't / wasn't expecting anything from you. The surprise, pleasure, and gratitude from them is always genuine and I daresay, self-fulfilling, in my experience.

EfemenaXY:


Lol @ digging deep! Osisi...if you don't "dig deep", how you gonna pay your tithes?

That is another topic altogether
I am yet to be convinced that tithe is required of me
I am not under such law

EfemenaXY:



But yes, I agree with what you say w.r.t giving to the needy. It's more fulfilling giving to a recipient who isn't / wasn't expecting anything from you. The surprise, pleasure, and gratitude from them is always genuine and I daresay, self-fulfilling, in my experience.

That is eh
Let me give this testimony not to puff myself up but to buttress your point
Last Saturday I was at a fellowship meeting
There is a woman evangelist I love so much,she is a widow too but dresses very well and has a fairly good truck
we are just acquaintances and she is a very prayerful woman
I just felt in my spirit to bless her
I sat and wrote a check of just $100 and handed to her just when I was about to leave
She broke out in tears almost
Told me she borrowed $10 that day to gas her car and get to the function and had no penny anywhere to her name
She raised up the check to heaven and began to bless me
I was so humbled
Then she held my hands and began to bless me the more
Just $100
Then she told me God told her I would bless her
I told her I sat down and just felt to do this so it must have been God


Now what could be more rewarding that knowing you helped someone who truly needed it
Why then will people buy Suvs and give to an MOG who already has 4 when there are many people there who need it more

babyosisi:


That is eh
Let me give this testimony not to puff myself up but to buttress your point
Last Saturday I was at a fellowship meeting
There is a woman evangelist I love so much,she is a widow too,we are just acquaintances but she is a very prayerful woman
I just felt in my spirit to bless her
I sat and wrote a check of just $100 and handed to her just when I was about to leave
She broke out in tears almost
Told me she borrowed $10 that day to gas her car and get to the function and had no penny anywhere to her name
She raised up the check to heaven and began to bless me
I was so humbled
Just $100
Then she told me God told her I would bless her
I told her I sat down and just felt to do this so it must have been God


Now what could be more rewarding that knowing you helped someone who truly needed it
Who then will people buy Suvs and give to an MOG who already has 4 when there are people there who need it more

Nice one, Osisi - bless you.

This reminds me of a similar experience I had. Not in church though. Was on my way home from work. While approaching the train station, a lady begging came up to me. Didn't have much spare cash on me (I've never had the need to do so, not with my cards), so I gave her all I had in my purse. She was grateful though, but I don't know. Something about this lady touched me. So I went to the nearest ATM and made a withdrawl. Went back to look for her and gave her.

Omo, see tears in this lady's eyes. I felt teary too. Maybe I was just emotional that day, but I think perhaps the way most people rushing to get home and "bonning" for her was what touched me. Ah, see how she just dey thank me. It was embarassing. Young, oyinbo lady for that matter. (Domestic abuse?)

babyosisi:


That is eh
Let me give this testimony not to puff myself up but to buttress your point
Last Saturday I was at a fellowship meeting
There is a woman evangelist I love so much,she is a widow too but dresses very well and has a fairly good truck
we are just acquaintances and she is a very prayerful woman
I just felt in my spirit to bless her
I sat and wrote a check of just $100 and handed to her just when I was about to leave
She broke out in tears almost
Told me she borrowed $10 that day to gas her car and get to the function and had no penny anywhere to her name
She raised up the check to heaven and began to bless me
I was so humbled
Then she held my hands and began to bless me the more
Just $100
Then she told me God told her I would bless her
I told her I sat down and just felt to do this so it must have been God


Now what could be more rewarding that knowing you helped someone who truly needed it
Why then will people buy Suvs and give to an MOG who already has 4 when there are many people there who need it more

Now this is what people ought to do more of. Sincere giving as led by the Spirit of God and not with a thought of receiving 'recognition' from a big MOG who doesnt even need or appreciate your effort. I would rather sow my seed in a poor missionary work who is only asking for a bicycle to get to his/her hinterland converts easily that donate cash to a pastor who wants to buy another jet to add to his fleet.

EfemenaXY:


Nice one, Osisi - bless you.

This reminds me of a similar experience I had. Not in church though. Was on my way home from work. While approaching the train station, a lady begging came up to me. Didn't have much spare cash on me (I've never had the need to do so, not with my cards), so I gave her all I had in my purse. She was grateful though, but I don't know. Something about this lady touched me. So I went to the nearest ATM and made a withdrawl. Went back to look for her and gave her.

Omo, see tears in this lady's eyes. I felt teary too. Maybe I was just emotional that day, but I think perhaps the way most people rushing to get home and "bonning" for her was what[b] touched me[/b]. Ah, see how she just dey thank me. It was embarassing. Young, oyinbo lady for that matter. (Domestic abuse?)

Thank you for touching a life and making a difference! God bless you sis.

smartmom:


Thank you for touching a life and making a difference! God bless you sis.

Thanks dear, and amen to that.

smartmom:

Now this is what people ought to do more of. Sincere giving as led by the Spirit of God and not with a thought of receiving 'recognition' from a big MOG who doesnt even need or appreciate your effort. I would rather sow my seed in a poor missionary work who is only asking for a bicycle to get to his/her hinterland converts easily that donate cash to a pastor who wants to buy another jet to add to his fleet.

True that.

Or donate that sack of rice / beans / garri to the local orphanage. Or better still, give them SMA or nappies and new born toiletries to help with the little ones. Ah! Motherly instinct kicking in here.

EfemenaXY:


Thanks dear, and amen to that.



True that.

Or donate that sack of rice / beans / garri to the local orphanage. Or better still, give them SMA or nappies and new born toiletries to help with the little ones. Ah! Motherly instinct kicking in here.

Hmm the terrible things we see in nija eh? there is one ophanage near my house... all the schools troupe(right word?) during valentine etc and donate cartons of noodles, toiletries etc and the next week, the handlers cart the stuff away at night to be sold to the shop owners and proceeds pocketed! Appalling stories, my heart is firmly rooted in the really poor and needy 'unknown' village missionaries. their weekly offering is about 10 to 50 naira and they have to manually build their mud houses and farm for their food and feed their poor flock as well!

smartmom:


Hmm the terrible things we see in nija eh? there is one ophanage near my house... all the schools troupe(right word?) during valentine etc and donate cartons of noodles, toiletries etc and the next week, the handlers cart the stuff away at night to be sold to the shop owners and proceeds pocketed! Appalling stories, my heart is firmly rooted in the really poor and needy 'unknown' village missionaries. their weekly offering is about 10 to 50 naira and they have to manually build their mud houses and farm for their food and feed their poor flock as well!

Now that's just plain disgusting.

Aren't they answerable to anyone? Or they can just get away with anything they please?

EfemenaXY:


Now that's just plain disgusting.

Aren't they answerable to anyone? Or they can just get away with anything they please?

In this neck of the woods, nobody is answerable to anybody o! The orphanage is named after the owner and I assure you, it was opened to make money. Word is getting round sha and these days they have less patronage. And to think the really needy ones are without because they are not 'strategically' positioned.

Chillisauce:
500 tassan naira per month.

You should know that there are variables to consider.

You can't base your decision to increase you mums allowance by knowing the average money people here send.

She is your mum. find a way to care for her without comparing with others.

Where did you see 500 tassan naira to be sending every month?

If you have much, give. If not please talk to her about your personal financial situation. If you have siblings, discuss with them about joint efforts.
Carry everything and stress will deal with you...

@babyosisi
Efemenaxy
Smartmom

Couldn't agree more.

phabulous88:
How old is she? Does she work? Does she live in the village or in a city? Does she live alone or with relatives? Answer these questions and you'll have enough information to make a right decision.

before asking all these pointless question, you have to ask the poster if he can manage to send more than what he is currently sending. i mean, that is about 150€, while some people dont even save that much every month after paying rent, food and transport.

so the important question to ask this OP is: can you afford to send her more? and if he can then "why should you care how much strangers on NL send their parents?"

Would have commented but I read the op's post in sexuality section.

Can't reconcile the two scenarios so I'll pass.


Lord have mercy.

smartmom:


Hmm the terrible things we see in nija eh? there is one ophanage near my house... all the schools troupe(right word?) during valentine etc and donate cartons of noodles, toiletries etc and the next week, the handlers cart the stuff away at night to be sold to the shop owners and proceeds pocketed! Appalling stories, my heart is firmly rooted in the really poor and needy 'unknown' village missionaries. their weekly offering is about 10 to 50 naira and they have to manually build their mud houses and farm for their food and feed their poor flock as well!

And when calamity starts befalling them they will enter MFM to shout fire fire and the fire will be burning them instead
There are two sets of people in the Bible one must not joke with
The orphans and the widows
Do them wrong deliberately and you are bringing curses on yourself

tpiadotcom:
Would have commented but I read the op's post in sexuality section.

Can't reconcile the two scenarios so I'll pass.


Lord have mercy.