Wedon:


Please what's the big deal

When someone serves you a meal, you should say 'thank you' . . . Be it your wife at home, waiter in a restaurant or even your cook. It's common courtesy for God's sakes.

And yes, my husband thanks me. Not necessarily out of 'respect' but out of courtesy.

crackhaus:

Thanks for your unsolicited words of wisdom Mr/Mrs marriage counsellor, but you shouldn't be bothered about my life when you haven't solved all your own problems.

ahmedolawale:
If it is compulsory that am to thank her for the good meal every time that means she must also thank me for working so hard in order to provide money for the meals and her need also.

Billyonaire:
It is MANDATORY to tell your wife "Thank You", and if you forget to thank her, do apologize if she reminds you. The fact that you were not raised with that orientation does not mean it was right. You should learn the simple habits of courtesy, and make sure you pass that to your kids. My wife even makes me say thank you to the domestic staff when they present me anything and she also makes me add "Please" when asking anyone for anything. I accept these corrections and I have realized that life is more pleasant at home when I use more "Thank you" and "Please".

rabimlomo:


Keep on with it you hear. Your responses show the kind of person you are and I hope you change soon.

Stillfire:
By greeting, I guess you mean saying thank you?
So which culture tells you not to acknowledge someone when a favor is being done for you?
Name the culture here.
It's common courtesy to say thank you when someone serves you food.

Adufetohposh:
Bros calm down we are saying the same thing.

As a woman I love my man to compliment me, yes it feels good to know that my man appreciates my effort. But it's wrong to tell him to always thank me for doing my duty.


I should even pat him on d Back for eating and enjoying it, some men dnt even eat their woman's food. But that's a story for another day

Chinom:
Mandatory ? ! Hell no. Some women will look at you in a strange if you even say ' Thank you' after each meal. Some African women are even embarrassed to hear it from their husband. In all my years growing up at home, I've never heard my dad say thank you After meals. On the contrary, he will bark that the plates should be removed. However, my mom cooks the food, but does not serve it. The maid serves it.

I am sure most Igbo wives can relate to this. Many Igbo men still live like Okonkwo in " Things fall apart". Very few say thank you to their wives after serving them food. Many wives feel uncomfortable to even hear that 'thank you' that they don't really know how to respond.

I don't think many African men say thank you to their wives for cooking for them. It is not expected. You can always thank your wife in many other ways.

tonyx4x44:



typical african culture does not see the wife serving the husband as a favour, rather as a compulsory obligation.
probably expects the woman to be grateful self that her food was eaten well.

Chillisauce:
Go and learn basic courtesy.

You say thanks for any favor received, whether you paid for it or not.
Thank you to the fuel station attendant
thank you to that waitress
thank you to the car washer man etc.


Learn to say thank you.

braine:
Its actually ungrateful of you not to atleast thank her. You think its easy to cook? I'm sure you're not used to that too. You should thank her for every single thing she does for you, to show a sign of appreciation! Plus, she may be your wife but that doesn't make her your slave.

babyosisi:


No, my husband doesn't say a hearty thank you after eating,he says it occasionally and I appreciate when he does but I have never and will never demand a thank you from him for cooking or serving his meal.
It's not a big deal .
For your wife to attach so much importance to this,I see bigger issues here
I am also certain she is very demanding in other areas
This almost sounds insane,a woman demanding a thank you for cooking?
There is nothing I won't hear.
In case you are wondering,this is not normal o, have never heard this sort of thing ever in my life up till this moment and I have heard a lot of stories,this your situation is quite rare.
You must be walking on egg shells around the woman
What other rules and regulations has she given you?
If she can be this militant at home, I feel sorry for any subordinates she may have at the workplace

oloyede252:

you and your slave mentality
maybe he should name their child thank you.
So he can always be calling his wife MOMMY THANK YOU

kkboy:
In a typical African family setup there are roles for each person, the father, the mother and the children. These roles are ment to be appreciated by each party. But the idea of greeting tout wife after cooking and serving is allen to our culture and must be discouraged. Let's she will demand a thank you for sleeping with her and sooner then later add some monitory or other incentives to her expected role. We are ment to appreciate and not to great.(my opinion)

Ezenwa11:
@Op be careful, marriage issues are sensitive and you have to do the needful to keep your home at peace, as you know what works for my own home may not be applicable to your home.
I'm a married man like you, I live up to my expectations to the best of my ability and I expect nothing less than that from my wife too. Should we start thanking ourselves every dime time we perform our duty as expected? No. If yes, I wonder how many thank you each of us will be receiving daily. Whenever I pay my kids school fees, give my her money for shopping, give her money to buy food stuff, etc I should be expecting thank you, isn't it? They are my duties and I must do them without expecting thank you. I am supposed to take care of my family without expecting well done from anyone because I'm not doing anybody a favour. I don't know why people are complaining when there's virtually nothing to complain about. #mythought

iyaayi:
My husband says 'thank you' every time I serve him food, and also when I pack the plates after he's done eating.
Likewise, I say thank you and also pray for him every time he gives the housekeeping or other money, including our children school fees.
These appreciative acts definitely go a looong way in mutual respect and affection for one another.

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Thanks in advance.

Dera25:

Thanks a lot bt am not saying that it is not right bt making it mandatory is wht I dnt like. Remember in my passage I said I do greet sometimes just dt I dnt usually remember it