What are the dangers?Does it really matter?Is it such a big deal?its really scary as he already has two kids with a woman he never got married to.

How old are the kids?

Nothing bad

gudluckgreat:
How old are the kids?

The youngest is over three years,does their age matter?

flairlady:
What are the dangers?Does it really matter?Is it such a big deal?its really scary as he already has two kids with a woman he never got married to.

is the woman living with him ? Are the 2 kids living with the man or the woman? The woman that bore those 2 kids ,has she married another man? These are some of the questions u need to consider first.

It depends on individuals.

flairlady:
What are the dangers?Does it really matter?Is it such a big deal?its really scary as he already has two kids with a woman he never got married to.

There's a reason she didn't marry him even tho she had two kids for him, mayb u shud consider dat bfor takin such a big step

If the woman was dead with no children that's a different ball game but she's alive with children my dear you have a lot of unseen battles to fight. Yorubas say baba olomololomo meaning no matter how terrible the wife or mother of a child is.no matter what caused their disagreement it doesn't change the fact that the father is still the father of the children and you will soon be an option its just a matter of time


you want to join another person with series of baggages.continue.when the children grow up and they want to reconcile their parents that's when you will know that you're no longer needed by then you'll understand why guys run away from unmarried women with kids

flairlady:
What are the dangers?Does it really matter?Is it such a big deal?its really scary as he already has two kids with a woman he never got married to.

It depends on you, if suitors have ceased coming and you feel it's time to get married, y not. Forget all the bullshit people below me will start posting, reality you know what you are capable of.

If your heart really yearns for it then do it.

But please don't maltreat the innocent kids just cause they are not yours.

Except you are happy being nice to the kids, you best save them the misery.

I am more interested in why he didn't marry the mother of the two kids. The woman had two not one child for him yet he didn't deem it fit to marry her but now wishes to marry someone fresh.

The truth about this will go a long way in determining if you are going to be contending with her if you marry him.

Kimoni:
I am more interested in why he didn't marry the mother of the two kids. The woman had two not one child for him yet he didn't deem it fit to marry her but now wishes to marry someone fresh.

The truth about this will go a long way in determining if you are going to be contending with her if you marry him.

the op is not been totally honest about the whole situation . She is hidding many details that will enable ppl advice her correctly.

onatisi:
is the woman living with him ? Are the 2 kids living with the man or the woman? The woman that bore those 2 kids ,has she married another man? These are some of the questions u need to consider first.

No,the woman is not living with him,he has custody of the kids,he said he doesnt know if she is married or not.

Kimoni:
I am more interested in why he didn't marry the mother of the two kids. The woman had two not one child for him yet he didn't deem it fit to marry her but now wishes to marry someone fresh.

The truth about this will go a long way in determining if you are going to be contending with her if you marry him.

I only know his own part of the story,and it had to do mainly with loyalty.

CountDracula:

There's a reason she didn't marry him even tho she had two kids for him, mayb u shud consider dat bfor takin such a big step

Yea,possible,just that i have not noticed anything off about him,and he was the one that called it off.

flairlady:
No,the woman is not living with him,he has custody of the kids,he said he doesnt know if she is married or not.

run run run for ur life. That man is lying. He doesn't know if the woman that has 2 kids for him is married or not and u believe that?? He will just use u taya and after 6months tell u that he is sorry. Ask the man if he knows where the woman is , don't be surprised that the man is legally married and maybe the woman is away or maybe they have a small misunderstanding which will be resolved sooner or later. Better pull ur ears and run for ur future and life .

flairlady:
Yea,possible,just that i have not noticed anything off about him,and he was the one that called it off.

Did he tell u why he called it off? U impregnate someone TWICE and u suddenly decide they're nt good wife material?

If you have gotten to that age where men will hardly say hi, then go for him.

2sa2:
If you have gotten to that age where men will hardly say hi, then go for him.

lol,still in my mid-twenties

CountDracula:

Did he tell u why he called it off? U impregnate someone TWICE and u suddenly decide they're nt good wife material?

Loyalty issues

2sa2:
If you have gotten to that age where men will hardly say hi, then go for him.

marital problems with in law and other ppl wives is the worst and most dangerous problem in our african culture . That problem has sent many ppl to their early graves,while the victorious woman smiles at the folly of the defeated,many have rendered useless and run around the town amok, it is better not to enter it at all . If she has gotten to an age ,she is no longer attractive,let her stay single and live a normal life and be happy. Than to be chased all over day and night for the rest of her life .

flairlady:
No,the woman is not living with him,he has custody of the kids,he said he doesnt know if she is married or not.

liar!!! Y won't he know? Is he trying to say that he does nt see her atall? Even when his children ar with her? Sis, pls be very careful o, such men can be very dangerous...

flairlady:
lol,still in my mid-twenties

What?!? And you are considering settling for a man that impregnated a lady twice, did not deem her good enough for marriage and sent her packing? What makes you think your case will be different? Why are you even remotely considering him? Is he the best you can have? At your age? No 'worthy' suitor?

I honestly thought you are in your mid to late thirties.

To answer your question, there is nothing wrong with marrying a single father, but be very PREPARED for what comes with it. And yes, A WHOLE LOT come with it. . .

What do you mean by 'loyalty issues'?

Phema:


What?!? And you are considering settling for a man that impregnated a lady twice, did not deem her good enough for marriage and sent her packing? What makes you think your case will be different? Why are you even remotely considering him? Is he the best you can have? At your age? No 'worthy' suitor?

I honestly thought you are in your mid to late thirties.

To answer your question, there is nothing wrong with marrying a single father, but be very PREPARED for what comes with it. And yes, A WHOLE LOT come with it. . .

What do you mean by 'loyalty issues'?

the op is just pulling our legs .

onatisi:
the op is just pulling our legs .

I for fear ooo. . .

I first know say some ladies get fish brain, but i know say e never bad reach like dis.

flairlady:
lol,still in my mid-twenties

if you havnt gotten to the age of desperation, I don't advise you involve yourself with such a man. Don't you wonder why he refused to marry a woman that gave him two children?

Phema:


What?!? And you are considering settling for a man that impregnated a lady twice, did not deem her good enough for marriage and sent her packing? What makes you think your case will be different? Why are you even remotely considering him? Is he the best you can have? At your age? No 'worthy' suitor?

I honestly thought you are in your mid to late thirties.

To answer your question, there is nothing wrong with marrying a single father, but be very PREPARED for what comes with it. And yes, A WHOLE LOT come with it. . .

What do you mean by 'loyalty issues'?

I find myself loving this guy,the only obstacle i see now is the kids,so worried about it,that is why i brought it here to know what others think.
Loyalty issues had to do with her been secretive,lacking commitment,not showing care,and lots of other issues

Phema:


I for fear ooo. . .

I first know say some ladies get fish brain, but i know say e never bad reach like dis.

read through the story,nothing adds up. The op just created a topic of general interest.

Phema:


I for fear ooo. . .

I first know say some ladies get fish brain, but i know say e never bad reach like dis.

lol,seriously?Not pulling your legs.I am very serious.I find myself considering him because i am in love with him.But the nagging feelings that this aint right keeps coming.Thanks though.

onatisi:
read through the story,nothing adds up. The op just created a topic of general interest.

Gosh,i am seriously not making this up.

flairlady:
Gosh,i am seriously not making this up.

you are in ur mid twenties, yet u are contemplating marrying a man with 2 kids from a woman “the man says” he isnt married to and from a woman “the man says” he doesn't know where she is and from a woman “the man says” he doesn't know whether she has gotten married or not. Is this absolute stupidity of the highest order or just plain love ? Pls someone should enlighten me whether I am wrong.

flairlady:
lol,seriously?Not pulling your legs.I am very serious.I find myself considering him because i[b] am in love with him[/b].But the nagging feelings that this aint right keeps coming.Thanks though.

Love??

Abeg talk another thing