dubylhover:


hian...nawa oo...?pls dnt b annoyed,have yu watched d movie self?

baralatie:

Let us reverse this process.let us put you in the good movie.

"A lady ties up in a chair,,your feet are strapped legs apart to this legs of the chair.you hands are tied as well not behind but above you head so head is the only thing moving.
And she tells you,"if you follows MY rules you will be rewarded and if you Disobey you will punished.
Let me stop there for the sake of sanity,up turn you sir .
Will you accept!

dubylhover:


hehehe..1st of all,she has told mv thats hw she enjoys sex,that i am free to accept,but if i want to date her,thats hw it wud b..me not liking the idea wud simply tell her God bless yu nd take care but i am not interested..nd its finished
(WETIN MAKE YOU RUN YOU NO LIKE PHOCK)










.....do yu knw what i like abt christian grey,he told her he doesnt make love,he fvcks,he showed her his room of dose bondage stuff,he even gave her a document to sign to agree that she fully knws what shes getting into
(THAT is why I said an understanding of how abusers/ oppressors operate in real life is required.A woman named eve was Deceived..)


..so hw is d guy at fault(so why should we bother about abusive relationships and heartbreaks)

dubylhover:


pipo shud b wise sha

baralatie:

What is a hostile/abusive relationship and what are its characteristics!

innervoice:


Seriously?

bukatyne:


I guess I messed the definition of ravish. Does ravish here mean bondage sex



Missing the link here



What does it mean?

freecocoa:
Wanting to be dominated in the bedroom is not the same as being in an abusive relationship. The character(Anastascia) in the book gave consent to whatever was done to her, I don't understand how that analogy fits into abuse.

Btw, believe it or not, not every woman wants to be the 'submissive' I for 1 will like to be the dominant, no be only men fit lead.

coogar:


from my experience, every woman fantasises to be ravished the way a lion mauls a buffalo. the only problem is - they want the choice of who would ravish them as theirs. so if any man who doesn't fit into that fantasy tries it, it's rape & he would go to prison deservedly. if it's a man that fits the picture then it's sweet love making.

coogar:


from my experience, every woman fantasises to be ravished the way a lion mauls a buffalo. the only problem is - they want the choice of who would ravish them as theirs. so if any man who doesn't fit into that fantasy tries it, it's rape & he would go to prison deservedly. if it's a man that fits the picture then it's sweet love making.

Stillfire:


I just remembered my mills and boon, harlequin, historical romance, etc days...tehehehe
The other problem and reality is that men are not mind-readers, and have the tendency to be abusive with such fantasies. They don't just get it. There's a mood for that kind of se.x, and most men antennae can't even perceive such mood. What a bore!

TV01:

You too?...I used to relentlessly devour M&B...all my early game was learned there...


TV

dubylhover:
plssssssss....... christian grey to me wasnt abusive...if yu remember,he told anna what he wanted nd how he enjoyed sex..she even had to sign a consent form,so she knew what she was getting into...its not as if d guy was sweet at 1st dn started changing later on...

freecocoa:
Wanting to be dominated in the bedroom is not the same as being in an abusive relationship. The character(Anastascia) in the book gave consent to whatever was done to her, I don't understand how that analogy fits into abuse.

Btw, believe it or not, not every woman wants to be the 'submissive' I for 1 will like to be the dominant, no be only men fit lead.

1bkaye:

Goodnight lmao

cococandy:
tenk you

tintingz:
What she went into is abusive just that the man she did it with is good looking and rich.

coogar:



i know i will find you here.....

coogar:


1bkaye, why are you laughing?




i know i will find you here.....

freecocoa:
How is it abuse? She was given a detailed explanation of what was to be, a contract was even to be signed so how is it abuse?

1bkaye:

Lol your lion and buffalo comparison kind of killed me but I'm ok now

cococandy:
why
What are you implying?

coogar:


what do you think?

baralatie:

there is a joke we share in the romance section.it goes like " if you want to propose to a lady and get a positive answer.take her into a canoe and paddle to.. the middle of the ocean(just the two of you),then pop the question......will you marry me.
guess the answer!

baralatie:

there is a joke we share in the romance section.it goes like " if you want to propose to a lady and get a positive answer.take her into a canoe and paddle to.. the middle of the ocean(just the two of you),then pop the question......will you marry me.
guess the answer!

freecocoa:
Duh! Like she can't swim her way out, should you decide to throw her overboard for saying No, you no get talk abeg.

baralatie:

really!what is the probability that 9 out of 10 ladies will say no in the middle of the ocean.(and how many can swim from the middle of ocean to the nearest island)the ladies would rather go for the yes and hope for the best.


and it is exactly what played out.simple deceit that works,leading her to hope it was for the best,unfortunately she walked down the path of bondage,domination,pain and the rest was history.

if she had known the end result of that exercise before hand.she would never step at all in that room( no amount of fine boy and money will convince or confuse her).

freecocoa:
How is it abuse? She was given a detailed explanation of what was to be, a contract was even to be signed so how is it abuse?

coogar:


she would say yes in the boat & dish you a dirty slap the moment you get to the shore. saying yes to a proposal is not legally binding. millions of women say yes & then change their mind later.

freecocoa:
You are funny o, your analogy doesn't even make any sense despite my going with it, which sane man will even propose to a girl hoping to kill her if she says no to even start with?

Anastacia knew what was involved, there was no deceit, like grey was the only wealthy man to ever ask her out? Do you know how many passes a beautiful woman gets everyday? She went with Grey because the attraction was mutual and she even healed his tortured soul in the end.

Domination in the bedroom is not abuse, don't get it twisted.

freecocoa:
You are funny o, your analogy doesn't even make any sense despite my going with it, which sane man will even propose to a girl hoping to kill her if she says no to even start with?

Anastacia knew what was involved, there was no deceit, like grey was the only wealthy man to ever ask her out? Do you know how many passes a beautiful woman gets everyday? She went with Grey because the attraction was mutual and she even healed his tortured soul in the end.

Domination in the bedroom is not abuse, don't get it twisted.