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Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 8:49am On Jun 15, 2015 |
cococandy:Abeg leave me o. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by tartarus(m): 9:07am On Jun 15, 2015 |
Nonsense. when did your brothers name become "brother?" |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by abdrazak: 9:55am On Jun 15, 2015 |
missbehave247:Really got your point. I will take a bold step. Nope. I'm not claiming my father's house. I am planning on settling down where I am working NB: Not of the same city oooooo. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by abdrazak: 9:57am On Jun 15, 2015 |
3ace:Got that. I owe you alot. Thanks. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by abdrazak: 9:58am On Jun 15, 2015 |
Cutehector:She is clocking 24. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Cutehector(m): 10:13am On Jun 15, 2015 |
abdrazak:and she wants her to call her younger bro in law wit brotha... She must be joking! |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Eesha: 10:17am On Jun 15, 2015 |
Abdulrazak, I come from a culture similar to yours and as far as I am concerned, It makes no sense BUT she has to do as your mum says. I call ALL my siblings-in-law bro... or sis... Ironically, I am older than ALL of them. It doesn't remove one strand of hair from my body but breeds peace, IMO Speak with your girl. I'm sure she's of your language too, she should understand. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by SAMBARRY: 10:20am On Jun 15, 2015 |
cococandy:you too you hiss shebi you see what I was talking about with the fake insincere respect yorubas encourage the mama sef resembles all those wicked yoruba mother inlaws wey them dey show for African magic yoruba 2 Likes |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by SAMBARRY: 10:26am On Jun 15, 2015 |
I've seen some women calling their husbands siblings who they're obviously older than aunty kemi brother Isaac and at their back gossip about them and say all manners of things they can't say in their presence or in the presence of their mother inlaw e.g omo oshi yen to pe ara e ni issaac omo yen stupid gan mo kan ponle ni kan ma somilenu if thats not hypocrisy.tell me what it is Eesha: 1 Like |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by babygirlfl: 10:37am On Jun 15, 2015 |
op, how do you come up with these hilarious posts? In less than one month you have asked us if you should invite her to your sisters introduction. Then you asked about how you can protect her from her boss before telling us that she broke up with you and asked if you can accept her back. Now the problem is calling your brother "brother". 1 Like |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by bukatyne(f): 10:43am On Jun 15, 2015 |
babygirlfl: This is called 'a fun-filled relationship' |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by babygirlfl: 10:45am On Jun 15, 2015 |
bukatyne: Never a dull moment with op |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Eesha: 11:05am On Jun 15, 2015 |
As you rightly said "some women". Hypocrisy is not limited to one culture. I'm not a fan of the practice but its what I was born into. So if you have a MIL that is still faithful to the old culture, then the DIL needs to do same. If she doesn't, His mother might end up not liking her or faulting her every action. Especially if the MIL is a sucker for respect. She sees the suffix as a form of respect. It is hypocrisy but can you tell the woman that?? SAMBARRY: |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Blade21: 11:24am On Jun 15, 2015 |
Brother ko some mothers ehen make I just keep quiet, so u want her to call someone she's older dan by 4yrs brother ehen nothing wey person nor go seee for nairaland |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Vincad: 11:38am On Jun 15, 2015 |
funlord:This got me rofl [quote author=funlord post=34782644] 1 Like |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by samyan12: 11:42am On Jun 15, 2015 |
abdrazak: Really you should be careful of the kind of advice u take from here, so u dont cause problems when there is none.if your fiancee is a well brought up yoruba girl, ur mum doesnt have to tell her this for her to know the accepted way of addressing inlaws. getting advice from pple who do not understand the culture, and then implementing it , anoda poster even said ur mum is wicked, and u didnt refute that. tell ur girlfriend what your mum has said, and her reply will help you to know if she is the one for you.if she refuses, then u'll know this potential wife will be stubborn when u are eventually married, and u'll have issues correcting her when you differ on issues. all this disregard for our ways is what is eroding the family structure , i have elder wives in the family who call me Aunty, and I do not for once think that means i'm older than them.I still respect them, cos I understand its just a cultural thing. thats how u pple get wives who slap and insult ur siblings and parents, cos you want to be modernised. 1 Like |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by funlord(m): 12:02pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by cococandy(f): 1:07pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
freecocoa:wetin I do? |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Richy4(m): 1:41pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
Your girl is 24 and your younger brother is 20. And your mom wants her to address him as " brother" Where in the world does that kinda thing happen? The culture seems as if they are doing girls a favor by allowing/ marrying them into your community. Even if you are from a royal family, is this thing really necessary? Even queen of England will not ask Kate to call Harry Brother. Haba!!! 2 Likes |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
kilokeys: I wonder o. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by SAMBARRY: 5:25pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
Is she my mil. Which one consain me for the matter. I fit call her by her 1st name sef. I follow them friend her pikin . See question o Eesha: |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Nobody: 5:26pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
abdrazak: You obviously support your family's decision. Good luck to your fiancee |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 5:38pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:Sholly, does this happen everywhere with the Yoruba tribe? I need to know. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 5:39pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
cococandy:Nothing. You are cute. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by cococandy(f): 5:40pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
freecocoa:thanks. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by cococandy(f): 5:43pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
freecocoa:I don't think it does. I've read some posters say their families don't care about such things. I guess it depends on how traditional each family is. If I wasn't married and I met a man whose family require that I call even junior ones (younger than me) aunty or uncle, I'd probably give all of them the middle finger and tell him to find someone else. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 5:43pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
cococandy:Anytime. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 5:47pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
cococandy:I'm telling you o, because my soul mate could be yoruba and I can't even imagine what I'll tell anyone who demands I address them by special titles, the culture is really insulting, seems they only demand this from women. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Nobody: 7:39pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
freecocoa: I'm not the right person to ask but I am sure the mindset or lack thereof has a lot to do with age, educational background, exposure and social status. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by freecocoa(f): 7:48pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:Oh! My bad, being yoruba I just assumed... The fact that many people on here(even the ones in diaspora)seem to agree with the culture, makes me wonder. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by Nobody: 8:09pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
freecocoa: Are you saying Nigerians in diaspora usually know better? I don't think I ever want to agree with that statement. A lot of people do not use their brains when it comes to cultural beliefs. Anyway, most cultural ways aren't really born out of logic. Based on my personal experience, older Nigerians in diaspora are more adamant on adhering to those cultural beliefs than Nigerians in Nigeria. I thinks it's because they fear they would lose their identity or the fear of someone accusing them of self-hate. BTW, you were right to assume. |
Re: She Always Call My Younger brother By Name by oluwadanie1(m): 8:27pm On Jun 15, 2015 |
I am some months close to 18years of age. I recently went to stay with a married relative and right from the beginning, the wife calls me 'brother Daniel'. I think this is necessary because 'Respect is Reciprocal'. So try talking to her about it. Trust me, it could increase the respect your siblings have for her as i really respect the woman alot. |
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