It is true that just one moment of indiscretion can cause you a life time of pain and sorrow. This is exactly what I am facing right now, it's a very serious situation I am going through now. I am a happily married woman with two beautiful kids. I have been married now for the past six years and everything has been fine until two months ago when I ran into my ex boyfriend. Greg(Not real name) was my boyfriend in school but we had broken up when he graduated because when he left school he moved on and we never saw each other again, although I later heard from his friend that he had traveled abroad after service. I met my husband after I graduated and we got married a year later. Two months ago, I got a call from Greg that he was in Nigeria and really needed to see me. I asked him how he got my number he told me that he got it from facebook. I told him that I can’t see him because I am married and have moved on since he left me. He however, told me that he knew I was married and that he has been deported back to Nigeria and that things were a bit tight with him and he urgently needed my help. Against my better judgment, I had gone to see him that afternoon. When I met him, he was looking so emaciated and I honestly felt pity for him. He then went on to tell me how he got into trouble abroad and was sent to jail and subsequently deported after serving his jail term. He told me he needed to rent a place even if it’s just a self contain because he could no longer afford the hotel where he was putting up. I told him to look for a place and if it is not too expensive I can help him with the funds. I really felt pity for him then. That was how I helped him in renting a place. After renting the place, he once again invited me to come and see the place and at least know where he is living. I refused initially because I felt that would be too close for comfort being in the same apartment with him. We had always met in an eatery before now. He begged me and once again, I went against my better judgment. On getting there I found out it was a two room self contain and the place was really nice. He offered a drink and I requested for Malt. I don’t know how Greg did it because the malt drink was corked when he brought it but I later found out that he had drugged the drink and had forcefully had sex with me. I was mad when I woke up and couldn’t believe my eyes. I threatened to report him to the police but he told me that would mean the end of my marriage because my husband will ask me how I got into his apartment. Right now he is blackmailing me that I should give him the sum of Ten million naira because he has the sex tape and he will send it to my husband if I refuse to give him the money. I don’t have that kind of money and I have offered to give him Three million which is all I have in my account, but he has refused to take it. I cannot tell anybody about this and if my husband gets to know that will be the end of my marriage. I am so devastated, please advise me on what to do.

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I'm coming

I'm coming, let me sleep on it. id be back with my advise in the morning

well, while i will be going, the two posters above me are coming cos this one strong oh!

When a friend/ex you haven't seen in a while suddenly shows up, you have to be careful. Should've told hubby of your intentions to help the dude out from the very beginning.. now your whole motive of going there looks suspicious.

At this point just report the rapist your husband and the police. Explain your truth, pray and leave the rest to God.

Anyway, this story na Nollywood tinz

No wonder he insisted I changed my phone numbers after marriage, I really thought he was over possessive. It makes plenty sense now. I can't blame you for wanting to help a friend. I'll advice you tell your husband, what's the worst that can happen ? I know your husband would be mad at you but this phase in your lives will pass. Don't give that guy a dime cause it won't stop at that. You'll become his money bag and sex tool too.

If she knows wat is gud 4 her,she beta report d mata 2 her hubby n also d police. Let her pray abt it b4 telling her hubby. D hubby wil b angry buh I believe he wil stil accept her back,if she tels him b4 he hears it frm anoda source.

Dat guy is an ingrate. He should b reported 2 d police. He deserves 2 spend d rest of his life in naija cell

this too bad if not to worse!
My advice:
Get hard evidence to support your claims..conversations,SMS etc
Have you seen the compromising video or is it just his words?
Try the bluff approach to see his reaction?
If need be after getting hard evidences try a counter blackmail.
But the permanent solution to your predicament is to own up and open up to your spouse..is not gonna be funny but you unconsciously conscented to damage so do not complain of injury.