When we were kids, we all wanted to be a great spouse, a great big brother/sister, a great lover, etc. If so, how’s that working out for you? Hopefully, it’s going great and you are living the life of your dreams.

But for the rest of you who are not, here are 10 signs that you might be wasting your life… but you don’t want to admit it:

1). You find yourself complaining a lot.
I know people who are constantly overwhelmed with life. They complain about their job, their salary, their neighbors or the attitude of their girl.

If you do, then you are doing nothing but exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what you appreciate about your life and your girl, not what you don’t like.

2). You don’t feed your mind.
If you’re not continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant – just like a still pond that doesn’t move and soon starts stinking.

That’s what your mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new
things. Challenge your mind with a new skill such as bead making, piano lessons, corel draw designing, autocad designing, a new programming language. Challenge your mind with a new novel or a book on marriage, relationship, money, or leadership.

3). You have a lot of negative self-talk.
Closely monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches your thoughts.

The first day I went to write an interview for Housemanship in a certain Teaching Hospital in Nigeria, I saw a crowd of 672 doctors who came for a space of about 40 House Officers. I told myself that it was game over...and it was. At the end, I was not even shortlisted for the oral interview. I went home from the written interview.

You will always experience physically your most dominant thoughts. If you are always talking down yourself, you are wasting your life without knowing.

4). You feel uninspired always.
There has to be something that you enjoy doing, so you need to rediscover what excites you, and then do more of it. If you sit down all day, uninspired at everything, your life is obviously ebbing away.

Some have passion for writing, women rights activism, unionism, philantrophy, etc. Discover yours and start living.

5). You always think someone owes you a living.
It is a global problem. Most of us think someone is responsible for our success in life.

Its not unusual to find people who blame their parents for not being a little more wealthy, for not sending them to school, for not sending them to UK, for not opening a beauty salon for them, etc.

Wake up!

6). You don’t plan for your future.
If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up somewhere good. You can’t do that and expect to have a great life later. You have to make a step-by-step guide to get where you want to go.

My first girlfriend in the medical school dumped my sorry ass because I was fond of replying her questions with the words I don't know, may be, perhaps, etc. She concluded I was directionless. Dont get your sorry ass dumped too.

7). You spend too much time with people who don’t contribute to your growth.
I like to call them Energy Vampires. They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead, go find growth-oriented people to be around. You may find this my article very interesting too. [color=990000]A Time To Say Goodbye[/color]

8.). You’re addicted to your phone.
Sure, cell phones are fantastic. I literarily live inside my Samsung Galaxy Tab 4 10.1, but that's because I read a lot of my ebooks there, surf the news, and blog.

While that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone if you are doing things that do not increase your value. You can't watch porn all night and claim your life is not being wasted. You cant play all the android games in your cellphone from morning till night and claim your life is not being wasted. Even worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected if you stay all night playing games and watching porn instead of staying awake to hear your girl out.

9). You’re not taking care of your body.
Many people wish to be slim, fit and trim, but it is only a wish. They do things that contradict their wishes by over eating, excessive drinking of alcohol, etc.

Not only is sleep essential to your health, so is food and exercise.

I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss. It affects your mental attitude and overall well-being.

So take a look at your diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will greatly improve your life.

10). You don’t like to leave your comfort zone.
I know how easy it is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant, I always order the same thing.

Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but because I like the food I normally order.

But that’s not the kind of comfort zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about not taking a risk that will improve your life.

In summary:

Life should be exciting! So if you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to get you to a better place.

If any of these 10 points sounded like you, don’t despair. You can make changes. But if you toss these aside; as most people will likely do, then you're wasting your life but you won't admit it.

Grace to you.

When you spend minutes reading the epic story up there....you are definitely wasting your time. You see there is time for everything....That's all I can say

Ok

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To be sincere, I do not like to leave my comfort zone too.

It seriously holds me back.

But, I have learnt to push through. I am still learning.

Once seun's robot called "introvert" is here, this is definately a fp material! Op, nice job.

Wow!...learnt a lot!

I hate to stay in a comfort zone!

Nice write up

mentorandfriend:
You no de rest ni?

broz, don't compete with a robot. Or haven't you heard?

I so agree with 6 and 7 ....

Nice and interesting points, full of thought provoking words.


I'm actually guilty of 2...... My phone and the comfort zone but I'm vulnerable

Parents actually play a large part, they cqn either be the one that push you to succeed or be the architect of your failure. you just have to pray you realise which side they are on. I just wish they weren't our mirror to the world and we quickly understand we don't have to believe them from a young age.

starlingslimnet:
When you spend minutes reading the epic story up there....you are definitely wasting your time. You see there is time for everything....That's all I can say

Nigga/shigga you can't comprehend truth.

Truth
but this shouldnt be on the romance section tho

Number eight is a well known trait of misssclassy.

Hmmmm

Hmm hm

@ OP...#in patorankins voice...telliyidem

I think one of the biggest distractions of the present day youth is his phone.I remember back in school when I was writing my final exams,my mum was so elated when she heard that my phone was faulty.As in the phone stopped working, and that alone caused the woman to convulse into joy.She knew I was much more productive without my phone and truth be told, she wasn't wrong after all

misssclassy:


No it doesn't. Although I am addicted to my devices, I don't use it in watching porn or playing games.
It's basically for research, chatting with people, nairalanding and just gaining knowledge from all spheres of life.

All this doesn't equate to wasting one's life.

At least, I wasn't verbally attacked this time.
I never said you were wasting your life. I actually wanted to know why you were addicted to your devices. And now I know.

Its a good write up
But
This is life we are talking about one person can not tell us we wasting life if ppl do the things listed
Alot do go n look at rich kids or rich families .. Some tick all thise boxing
And their life us wayyy better than some of us here

I think only God can determine whose living a wasted life n not a man.
Op u urself , one can argue u are living a wasted life coming here to write all that .. Its a matter of opinion like .. Some ppl stay on the phone 24/7 n n they making serious money just because in ur opinion u dont like these things dont mean ones life is a waste ..

Lets see if ppl stop doing all what u listed will their bank account would tripple ..

My opinion .
Anywayz nice write up ..
Cc lalasticlala

misssclassy:


No it doesn't. Although I am addicted to my devices, I don't use it in watching porn or playing games.
It's basically for research, chatting with people, nairalanding and just gaining knowledge from all spheres of life.

All this doesn't equate to wasting one's life.

Thank u . Educated ppl will get it hehehehe
Cuz of one mans opinion on his life these empty vessels think his the truth n the light chai if only they really understand how life works. But instead of ppl to read it n break it down. Give proper opinion .. Dey scared to cht all up ppls a holes chai ..

There is time for everything... You can't be serious for 24hrs.

Time to be very serious with work.

Time to play games, watchfilms & chat with friends.

Time to read books,bibles, journals, newspapers.

Time to play with you girlfriend or boyfriend.

Time to be funny and even act naughty.

Time to just be isolated in order to meditate.

The most important thing is to learn how to manage our time judiciously...

LadyBoss1:
Its a good write up
But
This is life we are talking about one person can not tell us we wasting life if ppl do the things listed
Alot do go n look at rich kids or rich families .. Some tick all thise boxing
And their life us wayyy better than some of us here

I think only God can determine whose living a wasted life n not a man.
Op u urself , one can argue u are living a wasted life coming here to write all that .. Its a matter of opinion like ..Some ppl stay on the phone 24/7 n n they making serious money just because in ur opinion u dont like these things dont mean ones life is a waste ..

Lets see if ppl stop doing all what u listed will their bank account would tripple ..

My opinion .
Anywayz nice write up ..
Cc lalasticlala

Babe chill. Na so your blood hot reach ni?