scribble:



its your favorite argument

are you happily married or married at all?

cococandy:
First of all,If everyone needs to be married to be happy, why is no one deliberating on the unhappiness of single guys?
Baffles me. Maybe they don't need women to be happy too. Only women need men to be happy?
I'm saying this because even you stressed on single women.

Well before you get me wrong, I never alluded that anybody can be an island. So yes people do get lonely and yearn for love.

If they can be fulfilled with being in love with someone ,do we still say they are unhappy because they haven't entered into a marriage contract?

From what I've seen in my short life, I think I can still maintain that marriage is not the key to happiness. I know why I'm stressing on this. Because people tend to believe what they read on the Internet and expect that once they get married, their sorrows will varnish. How, I don't know. I think this their sole belief that marriage is the key to utopia is the leading cause of disappointment after the wedding ceremonies.

The magic is not happening and then they begin to react negatively because somehow they did not develop the understanding before going into the union that it won't be magic wand that solves all their emotional problems. Plus all the responsibility that comes with it.

For me I think it's who you're in love with (if you are) that helps determine if you're emotionally satisfied or not. That's what our babe here does not know. So she assumed Linda is unfulfilled because no papers were signed.

chineloSA:


Dear I focused on women because they are mostly the ones going around denouncing that '' THEY DONT NEED MEN'' When they should be saying I do need a man, its just that I made wrong choices in life and missed good man or I have not met the man I can comfortably say I love etc.

Its very rare to hear a man say '' I DON'T NEED A WOMAN/WIFE". Majority rather keep quiet when they see they have also made mistakes in life, than giving fake responses.

Secondly, you are now going into the nitty gritties of what happens in marriage, that is not the point we are discussing here. We all know that life on its own is not a packet of candy. Even though its like that, people don't stop getting married because marriage has challenges. It didnt stop you from getting married as well. This is not about the complexities of marriage.

The point was " IF WOMAN ABOVE 30 AND UNMARRIED ARE REALLY HAPPY". That includes dear LINDA IKEJI.
We all wanna experience that unknown which may be good or bad. Our experiences in marriage are all going to be different. Even some woman who had bad experiences in marriage, wish to re-marry and relive the marriage in a different way

Back to the point, A WOMAN IN HER 30's WILL NEVER ADMIT THAT THEY ARE UNHAPPY AND THEY WISH TO EXPERIENCE MARRIAGE. especially when they have never been married. They will keep on giving fake responses and pretending that they are happy being unmarried. Meanwhile they want to experience marriage.

Don't be deceived by the cool exterior that LINDA IKEJI potrays. When she is all alone, alot floods her thoughts and what she could have done right etc. She is no angel. She might have fooled men, and got fooled herself and regretted etc. Majority of woman in their 30's have rejected good man in their youths and later regretted. I don't believe she never met a good man in her 35 years that she has lived.

I still say you will never understand what those ladies go through because you got married before 30yrs. But honestly they yearn the happiness that is increased by having a man on your side.

You are full of wisdom.

Emmayur:


Every human has a need, a desire to own something that might have eluded them. I have see poor people who are married and have wonderful children wishing they were rich, rich people wishing they had children, people with children wishing some other person's child was theirs, men with influence and money wishing they were healthy. The fact that they all crave these things doesn't mean they are not successful or they have not never succeeded. A desire is not the same thing as a need, desires could be categorized as wants at best but not as needs. Linda Ikeji could get a child if she wants by way of getting a sperm donor and other options available to her need is children and her want is a man. We cannot assume that she needs to be married, she might just need a man's company not ring.

edwife:



Really?

i don't remember having any convo with you and like I said before why is this information important to you and what will it do for you?

scribble:


just in case my lil niece comes on Nairaland and meets some disgruntled elements that think its ok to be a woman and not aspire to marriage since you will end up being unhappy anyway

Stop telling such lies abeg

chineloSA:


I have to disagree with you on this one.

We are all love beings. We want to be loved and also reciprocate love, regardless of who you are, ( disabled, gay, lesbian, teenager, mentally unstable etc. ALL HUMAN BEINGS ARE LOVE BEINGS.

Woman always PUBLICLY say " I dont need a man ", " I am happy" blah blah blah. In their private spaces they yern to be loved and also reciprocate love.
Woman always say all those things when they see that things are not going their way. No man is proposing and the can't keep no man down. They are also the first ones to attack people who ask about their single status.
Some of them you find that they made wrong choices in life e.g. kids before marriage, dumped good guys for bad guys, HIV or STI status etc. When they see that they cannot reverse those choices then they start forming " I DONT NEED A MAN TO MAKE ME HAPPY " nonsense

I will only believe all these bla bla bla " I am happy" " I dont need a man" stories when those woman have never dated, are not dating and will never date. So long as they continue to date its a lie.

Unless you have been raped, victim of abuse, even so, they yearn for a good partner who is an opposite of what they went through.

Ironically the same woman later on in life they chase after other peoples husbands and also young boys. Who is fooling who?

Well, thank your God you didn't reach 30 without a ring on your finger. Frankly you can never understand what an over 30yr old woman who is not married feels like. In their private spaces when they are having self conversation, its not easy ooo. THEY WILL NEVER ADMIT TO YOU.

I am not saying Linda is unhappy, but she needs a man to add to her happiness. She may have the money, but she cant talk to her money, cuddle her money, have s.x with her money, be mad at her money, cook for her money, shout at her money etc. She needs a man for that, not even sisters or kids can never fill that role.

That being said, I am not saying single people are not happy, but they need somebody to add onto their happiness
WE ALL WANT TO BE SOMEONES CENTRE OF UNIVERSE.

so coogar is somehow right.

chineloSA:


Dear I focused on women because they are mostly the ones going around denouncing that '' THEY DONT NEED MEN'' When they should be saying I do need a man, its just that I made wrong choices in life and missed good man or I have not met the man I can comfortably say I love etc.

Its very rare to hear a man say '' I DON'T NEED A WOMAN/WIFE". Majority rather keep quiet when they see they have also made mistakes in life, than giving fake responses.

Secondly, you are now going into the nitty gritties of what happens in marriage, that is not the point we are discussing here. We all know that life on its own is not a packet of candy. Even though its like that, people don't stop getting married because marriage has challenges. It didnt stop you from getting married as well. This is not about the complexities of marriage.

The point was " IF WOMAN ABOVE 30 AND UNMARRIED ARE REALLY HAPPY". That includes dear LINDA IKEJI.
We all wanna experience that unknown which may be good or bad. Our experiences in marriage are all going to be different. Even some woman who had bad experiences in marriage, wish to re-marry and relive the marriage in a different way

Back to the point, A WOMAN IN HER 30's WILL NEVER ADMIT THAT THEY ARE UNHAPPY AND THEY WISH TO EXPERIENCE MARRIAGE. especially when they have never been married. They will keep on giving fake responses and pretending that they are happy being unmarried. Meanwhile they want to experience marriage.

Don't be deceived by the cool exterior that LINDA IKEJI potrays. When she is all alone, alot floods her thoughts and what she could have done right etc. She is no angel. She might have fooled men, and got fooled herself and regretted etc. Majority of woman in their 30's have rejected good man in their youths and later regretted. I don't believe she never met a good man in her 35 years that she has lived.

I still say you will never understand what those ladies go through because you got married before 30yrs. But honestly they yearn the happiness that is increased by having a man on your side.

scribble:



the majority of men are polygamous by nature...a man that has money and game may not be in a hurry to marry unless it is to fulfull all righteousness

most men are happier playing the field....i.e. courting different women

women dont seem to like dating several men at the same time or consecutive without it leading to marriage

a man is happy as long as it leads to the bedroom, marriage is always the after thought, whilst for women its almost always the fore thought

Man thinking: That girl has a nice ikebe, I wonder if I can bed her tonight

Woman thinking: That guy has a great personality and physique, I wonder if he is my Mr. Right

Summary: You are comparing apples to oranges....are you a feminist?

edwife:


Lol why you mad?

It's Saturday man,chill.I am happy.....



**dancing out of the thread**

cococandy:
Ok summary
Men are irresponsible
Women are responsible.
Yes I'm a feminist.

scribble:



Men have more love to give than women


We have a more elastic heart


We can fit y'all in and adjust so you guys don't suspect a thing


At least the wise ones

cococandy:
Nice way to put it.

Promiscuity = more love to give.

Tomorrow you sef go dey form true Christian and try to teach me the bible. No?

Confused folks.

coogar:


they are all unhappy.....
they are just coping with the situation & pretending to be happy. suffering & smiling!!!

Setaje:



Don't mind this idi0ts that just talk anyhow. I went for a wedding like that and I still have the pictures. The guy is an American soldier and was serving somewhere in d middle east. They kept on postponing the wedding until it was getting to much. They had to do the wedding in absentia. Right now the girl is wiv him in yankee.

coogar:


i am on my way to RCCG camp. operation find hubby for linda.




because some human beings are never contented!



toke is still in her hubby's house after everything that happened. that's to tell you how much a big deal marriage is in nigeria. why didn't toke leave? she fit?