I was chilling with my homie, this lovely evening when this dude walked in and started gisting boiz on his wedding preparations and arrangement when the question popped up. Is it good for married couple to live in separate rooms?
Hear his reply: "Yes. (I felt bad because it goes against my perception of marriage, then he. continued). " I believe a man should have a sanctuary-like abode where he can go for relaxing and reasoning because women are always in the habit of gisting both relevant and irrelevant things"

At this moment the feeling was indifferent and I decide I'd come and get the views of the nairaland community.

So what's your take peeps.

Wrong

It will create room for infidelity.

Wrong!

When they are married... The two have become one.

Picture this you're married but in separate rooms. Eventually one person creeps into the others room for some hmm. Anyway wife gets preggers she's with the baby after delivery naturally of course.

Then the second child.

Maybe more or not.

Then the woman and the kids naturally form a bond. You're left to your sanctuary. Those kids grow old you're retired after paying school fees and all and they need to celebrate mummy birthday, she gets a G wagon as a birthday present.

On your birthday a text at 12.01 to say "Happy birthday to the best dad in the world"

Are you getting the picture or you need further clarification ?

aventura:
I was chilling with my homie, this lovely evening when this dude walked in and started gisting boiz on his wedding preparations and arrangement when the question popped up. Is it good for married couple to live in separate rooms?
Hear his reply: "Yes. (I felt bad because it goes against my perception of marriage, then he. continued). " I believe a man should have a sanctuary-like abode where he can go for relaxing and reasoning because women are always in the habit of gisting both relevant and irrelevant things"

At this moment the feeling was indifferent and I decide I'd come and get the views of the nairaland community.

So what's your take peeps.

Op the truth is this, there is no textbook approach to make ones marriage work, what worked for me, might not work for you, same applies to every facet of our life or psyche. Some people at a point in time, I have seen couples who sleeps in separate rooms, and yet their marriage blossomed, and couples who share the same room yet do not live in peace, it does not follow like that, and may not be the panacea to the underlining problem, if any; Understanding and respect of one's feeling to me is the key. I like sleeping alone.

refreshrate:
Picture this you're married but in separate rooms. Eventually one person creeps into the others room for some hmm. Anyway wife gets preggers she's with the baby after delivery naturally of course.

Then the second child.

Maybe more or not.

Then the woman and the kids naturally form a bond. You're left to your sanctuary. Those kids grow old you're retired after paying school fees and all and they need to celebrate mummy birthday, she gets a G wagon as a birthday present.

On your birthday a text at 12.01 to say "Happy birthday to the best dad in the world"

Are you getting the picture or you need further clarification ?

I think your analogy is a bit skewed. A father can still bond very well with his children even if the children sleep with their mother. What Op is asking is even circumstantial, what if situation prevents you from making that choice, you live in a one room or two rooms apartment, with kids and maybe house help, you will have no choice but to stay in the same room, even if you don't want to. What may save some marriages, would be if one jejely carry his or her stuffs into another room.

b4 marriage, it's 'wring'.