[b]$ex and love are often confused by many as the
same which is one of the major causes of
breakups nowadays.
Having great $ex with someone doesn’t mean
you love them and any relationship built on that
is bound to fall apart because it started for all
the wrong reasons but true love always stand
the test of time.
Tor Constantino of The Good Men Project lists a
few abilities couples should have in common to
help secure lasting love:

1. AvailAbility: The first necessary “Ability”
for ensuring a great love and relationship
is the ability to be present and in the
moment, mentally, emotionally and
physically for your partner. It’s important
to note that being available is more than
just physical proximity. The hearts of a
couple sitting right next to each other
can be miles apart. Obviously, there are
long-distance relationships due to the
economy, military duty or other
circumstances that separate individuals,
but distance doesn’t have to equate to a
doomed love. The key is maximizing your
availability to your partner as much as
possible—mentally, emotionally and
physically. If you’re available to your
mate both mentally and emotionally, you
can still be a great lover despite a
challenging physical distance.


2. DependAbility: Perhaps the most
important “Ability” of any relationship is
the ability to be earn and keep the trust
of your mate. Trust is also one of the
most difficult aspects of a relationship to
achieve, and it’s also the easiest to
destroy. Yet dependability is an easy
concept to understand. It necessitates
that you’re someone who can be relied
upon, that you keep your word, that you
follow through on promises, and that
you’re worthy of trust. Betrayal is a
violation of that dependability, that trust,
and very few relationships can survive a
pattern of that bad behavior. Maybe
that’s why Dante’s Inferno reserves the
last circle of Hell for those who have
betrayed a special relationship.


3. AccountAbility: The truth is that all of us
make mistakes in our relationships, but if
you want your love to last you have to
have the “Ability” to fess up, admit your
mistakes and apologize—quickly.
Accountability to one another is critical
to long-term success in any relationship.
It’s about mutual understanding, shared
expectations, as well as individually
accepting the consequences and
outcomes of our own actions or words.
But as individuals, we tend to be
notoriously selfish. I know I’m more apt
to blame someone else for my mistakes
and shortfalls, even when I’m obviously
at fault. That’s because I’m human and
you are, too. Accountability and love
require us to rise above that selfish,
individual nature and consider the needs
of others first.[/b]

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ajantala:
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U no dey tire?

story for d gods, der ain't no true love.

bigiyaro:
story for d gods, der ain't no true love.

says who?

Sm couples still fight evn if all dis "abilities" r present due 2 lack of trust cuz trust is d most important factor in marriage

Rosemary216:
says who?

true love only comes from God to man, d rest na give n take.

marvelous000:
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Tho you are on point, on 2 and 3,but 1 is flawed.

Humans are designed to seek new things. Just like you can't keep watching same film over and over again.

Same apply to our everyday life. relationship to be precise.
If you "maximize your availability" lyk you said.

You are giving room for what I we call "see finish" in the getto.

not giving room for her to miss you and she might seeking new things else where.

This analogy applies in all sphere of human life.
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I agree with you

bigiyaro:
true love only comes from God to man, d rest na give n take.

daz so nt true! I disagree on dat

Rosemary216:
daz so nt true! I disagree on dat

ur cross

bigiyaro:
ur cross

yea... My opinion