I share an apartment with a friend from an Island in the Eastern Caribbean. He has a girlfriend from the same Island, but she lives the states. Every single day, an average of 40 text messages are exchanged, about an hr in phone calls, and they have a[b] minimum of 4-5hrs of video calls[/b] on messenger every night (please re-read the last sentence to fully realize the magnitude of time they spend communicating). I told him that's just plain sick. His excuse: she loves a lot of attention (his ex-girlfriend was just like that- maybe even worse). This kind of act is very typical of most relationships I've seen in the Caribbean, so it seems very normal.

I told him it's all insane; that I can't date a Caribbean girl cos I can't handle all that "tab-keeping", and that I'm speaking for most Nigerians- both male and female. I argued that we are not attention freaks, that our girls don't want their guys calling them every other hour and texting every half hr, and I'm damn well sure Nigerian men don't want their ladies checking their every move. I told him they have trust issues, and their are hiding under the pretext of "attention cravings"

He said I should speak for myself, and ask other Nigerians on my forum what they think.

I think it's one annoying turn-off. What do you think?

what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

You need another hobby cos the one you are exerting is very dangerous

Detectified Gbeborun . . . . get a life.

which on consign you with palava? If its comfortable with it why is it bothering you or you pi55ed that you not having him all to your self no more?

The definitions and characteristics of every relationship is up to the individual

NaJa HaJe:

what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

You need another hobby cos the one you are exerting is very dangerous

Detectified Gbeborun . . . . get a life.

which on consign you with palava? If its comfortable with it why is it bothering you or you pi55ed that you not having him all to your self no more?

The definitions and characteristics of every relationship is up to the individual

You are an absolute idiot. You could have just typed your last sentence and moved on to another thread rather than resorting to razz, abusive language with appalling grammar. What is it from my post that induced your opinion that I'm into my room-mate's life as a hobby? And in what manner did I imply that I was at all bothered? We got into a cheery argument and he wanted opinions from Nigerian forumers over 13yrs old. dummy

Its call Love.There is nothing wrong with calling and texting each other 40 times a day.They cant get much of each other.

SeanT21:

Its call Love.There is nothing wrong with calling and texting each other 40 times a day.They cant get much of each other.

No dear, it's called smothering. Puppy love will lead you down the road to ruin in a hurry.

Ok i got to say. . .I love my space. . .I don't mind calling me to check up on me. . .but please don't go over board. . .it makes the relationship boring.