JeffreyJamez:


Who's this demented bastard?

Dragonking:
Many guys be they male child or male adult rarely come out to complain because the society believes that you either enjoyed it or since you are a male you should automatically get over it which is not so...This act is one of the major cause of a guy womanizing, masturbating, or even being a rapist in future.

iPopAlomo:


Just imagine... so we're all lying... typical female reasoning...

iPopAlomo:


fair enough... although... I know you're being sarcastic... but...

MarieSucre:
THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT MALE CHILD MOLESTATION DOES NOT OCCUR AND NO IT IS JUST AS DANGEROUS AND SHOULD NOT BE OVERLOOKED BUT MOST STUDIES SHOW THAT ONE KIND IS MORE PREVALENT THAN THE OTHERS.
" The global prevalence of child sexual abuse has been
estimated at 19.7% for females and 7.9% for males. [13]"
" [14] Most child sexual abuse is committed by
men; studies show that women commit 14% to 40% of
offenses reported against boys and 6% of offenses
reported against girls. [14][15][16]"
"The most-often reported form of incest is father–
daughter and stepfather–daughter incest, with most of
the remaining reports consisting of mother/stepmother–
daughter/son incest. [86] Father–son incest is reported
less often; however it is not known if the actual
prevalence is less or it is under-reported by a greater
margin. [87][88][89][90] "
More offenders are male than female, though the
percentage varies between studies. The percentage of
incidents of sexual abuse by female perpetrators that
come to the attention of the legal system is usually
reported to be between 1% and 4%. [119] Studies of sexual
misconduct in US schools with female offenders have
shown mixed results with rates between 4% to 43% of
female offenders. [120] Maletzky (1993) found that, of his
sample of 4,402 convicted pedophilic offenders, 0.4%
were female. [121] Another study of a non-clinical
population found that, among those in the their sample
that had been molested, as much as a third were
molested by women. [122]"
Global
Based on self-disclosure data, a 2011 meta-analysis of
217 studies estimated a global prevalence of 12.7% —
18% for girls and 7.6% for boys. The rates of self-
disclosed abuse for specific continents were as follows:
[151]
Region Girls Boys
Africa 20.2% 19.3%
Asia 11.3% 4.1%
Australia 21.5% 7.5%
Europe 13.5% 5.6%
South America 13.4% 13.8%
USA/Canada 20.1% 8%
A 2009 meta-analysis of 65 studies from 22 countries
found a global prevalence of 19.7% for females and 7.9%
for males. In that analysis, Africa had the highest
prevalence rate of child sexual abuse (34.4%), primarily
because of high rates in South Africa; Europe showed the
lowest prevalence rate (9.2%); and America and Asia had
prevalence rates between 10.1% and 23.9%. [13]
A ten-country school-based study in southern Africa in
2007 found 19.6% of female students and 21.1% of male
students aged 11–16 years reported they had
experienced forced or coerced sex. Rates among 16-
year-olds were 28.8% in females and 25.4% in males.
Comparing the same schools in eight countries between
2003 and 2007, age-standardised on the 2007 Botswana
male sample, there was no significant decrease between
2003 and 2007 among females in any country and
inconsistent changes among males. "
" A survey by CIET
found around 11% of boys and 4% of girls admitted to
forcing someone else to have sex with them. [157] "
" In 2007, the Ministry of Women and Child Development
published the "Study on Child Abuse: India 2007." [165] It
sampled 12447 children, 2324 young adults and 2449
stakeholders across 13 states. It looked at different
forms of child abuse: physical abuse , sexual abuse and
emotional abuse and girl child neglect in five evidence
groups, namely, children in a family environment,
children in school, children at work, children on the street
and children in institutions. The study's [165] main
findings included: 53.22% of children reported having
faced sexual abuse . Among them 52.94% were boys and
47.06% girls. Andhra Pradesh , Assam , Bihar and Delhi
reported the highest percentage of sexual abuse among
both boys and girls, as well as the highest incidence of
sexual assaults."
"[175][176][177] Research in North America has
concluded that approximately 15% to 25% of women and
5% to 15% of men were sexually abused when they were
children. [14][15][178] In the UK, a 2010 study estimated
prevalence at about 5% for boys and 18% for girls[179]
(not dissimilar to a 1985 study that estimated about 8%
for boys and 12% for girls[180] ). More than 23,000
incidents were recorded by the UK police between 2009
and 2010. Girls were six times more likely to be assaulted
than boys with 86% of attacks taking place against

MarieSucre:


You need to redefine what manhood means to you.
Shia Labeouf(main actor in the movie franchise transformer) came out about him being raped recently. Yes, he said he(a grown man) was raped by a woman. And a lot of you guys laughed at him in Twitter. You need to kill that ego, that machoness that is disallowing you from reaching out to each other through an emotional platform to address such issues.

MarieSucre:
[198] because "males have been socialized to
believe they should be flattered or appreciative of sexual
interest from a female." [120] Journalist Cathy Young
writes that under-reporting is contributed to by the
difficulty of people, including jurors, in seeing a male as a
"true victim". [199]

joywendy:
This is serious and extremly sad to read.

Seeing this thread reminds me of 2 movies that october 1 movie,how is rage and pain turned him into a maniac and the perks of being a wallflower.

Anyways that thread that was created by one of our mods some weeks ago, I was surprised that most people keep refering to one gender forgetting it is a thing that happens to both. I think our media and the orientation of the people is to somehow blame for this.

I don't know why some people are taking this as some sort of joke, this is a serious matter.it is very sad and irritating to say the least!

People should stop being close minded and also stop puting their blames on others. What does a 2 year old child know what he is doing? How can he enjoy what is being done to him? How do some people reason for God's sakes?

A girl is raped she was indecent, a guy is raped he enjoy it. What kinda messed up society do we live in

A rehabilitation centre needs to be created for both the rapist and the victim, and more awareness should be put in place to discuss on child/adult molestation/rape for both genders regardless of age.

izeeqpotter:
I was a victim, age 7 by the time

craziebone:


my dear, i suspect you are a pretender. You are PROBABLY a feminist wo is afraid of knowing that women can be bad too.

Dragonking:
@bolded, The funny thing is that you just posted the major reason why men or male child don't come out to cry about rape..See your post below which you copied without giving credit to the source;
Now, the major reason why males don't come out to cry rape is because the society sees it as enjoyment on the part of the male(whether child or adult)....If a guy goes to the police station that he was raped by a female, do you think they will take him serious? The answer is No, hence, men are forced to swallow the bitter pill called rape right from childhood till they die.

craziebone:


i think this is a real experience.

vedaxcool:
I detecting a huge presence of feminist hypocrites in this thread.

Lawsimon:
Oh! Don't tell me female rape is very common compare to male. Rather, female rape can easily be detected unlike male rape.

MarieSucre:


Its sad that it has to be this way for men. Not too long ago a lot of female rape victims were ashamed to report it and lived with the emotional scar in quiet. Thankfully the stigma is being lifted.

Is there anything that can be done to change our societies orientation? Maybe we could open a separate thread for men who are victims or those who have witnessed it in one form or the other to air it out. We need a resident nairaland therapist to act as an agony aunt or uncle.

Pls, could you do a little research on;

*ways to protect your child from sexual predators and paedophiles with emphasis on the male child.
*How to cope with trauma of sexual molestation as a male.

We can ask the mods to move it to the front page to give it publicity and a wider audience.
Its long overdue.

The quotes were culled from Wikipedia.

nnafather:
Please let the adult female come and rape me....I swear, I won't tell anyone. I SWEAR!!!!!!

Dragonking:
[size=20pt]You deserve a Presidential handshake [/size]

MarieSucre:
Here in lies a major portion of the problem.
" Significant underreporting of sexual abuse of boys by
both women and men is believed to occur due to sex
stereotyping, social denial, the minimization of male
victimization, and the relative lack of research on sexual
abuse of boys. [196] Sexual victimization of boys by their
mothers or other female relatives is especially rarely
researched or reported. Sexual abuse of girls by their
mothers, and other related and/or unrelated adult females
is beginning to be researched and reported despite the
highly taboo nature of female–female child sex abuse. In
studies where students are asked about sex offenses,
they report higher levels of female sex offenders than
found in adult reports. [197] This underreporting has been
attributed to cultural denial of female-perpetrated child
sex abuse, [198] because "males have been socialized to
believe they should be flattered or appreciative of sexual
interest from a female." [120] Journalist Cathy Young
writes that under-reporting is contributed to by the
difficulty of people, including jurors, in seeing a male as a
"true victim". [199]

Slimzjoe:
. Your English teacher deserves to be Stoned ASAP!!

Dragonking:
[size=20pt]You deserve a presidential award![/size]

MarieSucre:


That is not the point of my post mister. There has being a strong prejudice against the Igbo's since the civil war in 1963, the Hausa have also being stereotyped as illiterates and fanatics. Would I also be a pretender and a TRIBALIST if I say the igbos have it worse than the Hausa's in Nigeria.

I am not saying that there is nothing like male child molestation. I acknowledge it and I detest it. I am not saying that women do not molest male children or rape grown men. It is twice as disgusting to me. I believe sexual relations must be bound on the principle of #yesmeansyes.
Why did I quote the above; this thread like the other thread by that girl about not visiting guys started on a good foot and I believed we could finally have an open discussion about this plague in our society that our enforced gender boxes would not allow us to discuss. But like the other, it quickly descended into falsehoods and generalizations that were in no way helping any of the past or future male rape victims.

Pls let the statistic speak for itself.