what am i doing?

i am a 29 yr old lady. i met my current bf ,who is 36 yrs, 8 months ago and all seemed to be going fine and rosy until my family objected to the union. becos of gentype issues.

now i met another guy 2 months back that i really like too but he's my age mate and his genotype is ok for me,

recently i seem very distanct frm my old boyfriend, that we barely talk and i try to avoid any form of physical contact btw us instead i spend all day talking to this new guy i met. though he hasn't said anything and i doubt if he ever will.

please am i cheating on my old boyfriend or have i just found a new friend in my life

do you feel you're cheating on him . . . ? What does your conscience tell you . . . ?

Ya u are cheating, but seeing ur age i say u are doing whats best for u, but then again with the genotype issue, u both can always adopt

didique:

what am i doing?

i am a 29 yr old lady. i met my current bf ,who is 36 yrs, 8 months ago and all seemed to be going fine and rosy until my family objected to the union. becos of gentype issues.

now i met another guy 2 months back that i really like too but he's my age mate and his genotype is ok for me,

recently i seem very distanct frm my old boyfriend, that we barely talk and i try to avoid any form of physical contact btw us instead i spend all day talking to this new guy i met. though he hasn't said anything and i doubt if he ever will.

please am i cheating on my old boyfriend or have i just found a new friend in my life

why are you calling him an old BF if he's still in the picture and why are you starting a new relationship when you are still in an unfinished one?
That's unladylike.
Are you keeping the "old boyfriend" as a back-up incase the new man doesn't work out just as you fear?
How are you handling it?
I mean juggling 2 unsuspecting men at the same time
Is it worth it?

My advice

Break off with the 36 year old man cleanly and let him go rather than waste his time with you.
It's obvious your heart is with the new guy.
Let the other man go.You are not being fair to him.Don't you have a conscience?

i met my current bf ,who is 36 yrs, 8 months ago and all seemed to be going fine and rosy until my family objected to the union. becos of gentype issues.

now i met another guy 2 months back that i really like too but he's my age mate and his genotype is ok for me,

This is scary.
6 months into a relationship you found yourself an undercover lover?
stop giving women a bad name

If the new one makes you feel better and rocks your boat harder, stick with him.

If it works out, you're lucky. If it doesn't, you made a mistake.

Who cares? Life is all about risk. . .

But you be cheater o, ah ahn. Atleast tell the old b4 you no want am

**osisi:

This is scary.
6 months into a relationship you found yourself an undercover lover?
stop giving women a bad name

L.O.L

ur cheating
break off the initial one before moving with the new guy

tho u have to dec ide if ur love for the old guy transcends genotype issues

Ebony-Silk:

But you be cheater o, ah ahn. Atleast tell the old b4 you no want am

Damn!

I want the modify button back ASAP

Ebony-Silk:

If the new one makes you feel better and rocks your boat harder, stick with him.

If it works out, you're lucky. If it doesn't, you made a mistake.

Who cares? Life is all about risk. . .

But you be cheater o, ah ahn. Atleast tell the old b4 you no want am

But you be cheater o, ah ahn. Aleast tell the old one you no want am b4 going to the next guy

. . .broken bottles e'erywhr. . .

@topic

Make up ur mind. . .u're too grown 4 this. . .

ebony silk why are you quoting yourself and responding to your own posts?
ROFL

**osisi:

ebony silk why are you quoting yourself and responding to your own posts?
ROFL

LOL, my new Modification method

Ebony and Osisi

hahaha the self quoting funny sha. i like your style Silk

Clear things up with the 36 year old man before starting things with the new man.

Peace.

@poster, is dis how immature u can be at dis age of urs? You go soon nack 2 zero where u dey play 2guys, and by then u go don clock 35.
Trust naija men nao, na only God's intervention go make naija man marry gal wey don clock 35.
Be warned!
Time no dey 2check time, oh!

i hope they put this post at the front to show all the women who come on here to complain about men that women do it too.

And for the person who wrote "if he rocks your boat better stick with him" you are dead wrong thats not how matured people do things

@ didique

Instead of feeling quilty or whatever, you should somewhat settle issues with the old bf in a amicably manner, then you can sweetly move on with the new guy - Fini.

@poster,i hope u dont find a reason to still abandon this ur new boy-friend,since u're in the business of gettin younger ones after six months.Maybe by the time u be 36,na 19yrs guy u go don meet.U berra a kiafu

look its not as bad as you guys make me out to be, i discuss practically everything wit this new friend, infact he's bn cheering me up and giving me support. we are close friends just that i feel that im cheating on my current bf.

i take back the word ''old''. current bf.

Your cheating on him emotionally. . .Its just a matter of time before it goes physical. . .

ThoniaSlim:

Your cheating on him emotionally. . .Its just a matter of time before it goes physical. . .

My dear, are u talking from experience or, ?

excuse me, but whats experience got to do with answering the topic?

why r u still hanging on to this guy when u clearly know it aint working, no more comment, ur just a plain bitch, pple lyk una no go make us dey fall in luv again.

Am I cheating?

Chai! See Jamb Question!

@ poster

I'm sorry to say but if you feel like you say, then in your mind you are cheating emotional. Plus if you discuss everything with this new guy and he supports you as you say then you kind of chose him already.
What you are doing with the new guy is what you are supposed to be doing with the guy that you are acually with. Meaning it is the man in your life that is supposed to give you that feeling that you get from the new guy. Unfortunately it seems you chose him over the other guy. Plus you are avoiding any physical contact, which is a red flag in itself!
Have an honest talk with your current boyfriend and give him the respect he deserves and then move on.

abeg if another word dey way pass cheat, i go use am for u then,

another thing be say, if u see another man (MAN LIKE ME WAY GET BODY ' TALL AND HANDSOME) after 4 month , u go leave the new guy self,

there is a yoruba saying that goes by,

ale obirin ko kin pesu

another advice,
the devil u know is better than the angel u dont know,

stick to the other guy, the new guy might be a player

you have cheated on your husband emotionally and a little bit physically. That poor guy does not deserve to be treated the way you are treating him.

too bad

WOMENNNNNNNNNN!!!!

Woe unto men.That's the curse.They are nothing but selfish beings who care about their own heart desires.You dont need to ask if you are cheating coz if the NEW GUY makes a move on you right now, i can bet your legs would be open without second thought so why decieve yourself by finding justification for your deeds.

That's women for you.Dem go do bad finish, come dey ask question to prove innocent, lol.Yansh things.

Mccloud don't generalize.not all women are like that.

@pc guru,

I went a lil overboard i guess.Must be all these sickening posts (i have a lovely lady though and would do just about anything for her).It's these, okay, make i no too talk again.

Em, what's with the Darth Vader pix?