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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:27pm On Sep 06, 2015
Demigods:


Oh my God! Irritating black disgusting fool! Your family and generation is a joke, I feel sorry for your dad, wasted sperm, your father and mother are waste product and you are the end product, wtf? Mehn get your black irritating looking face outta here. Words are not enough to desrive your animal type.

Hypocrite... Smh
Her choice, your headache.
Chilax dude
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 06, 2015
Pamelayoung:

An idle mind is d devil's workshop, they should be busy with smx n not allow d mind 2 strale.


Unnecessary evil
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Pamelayoung: 12:39pm On Sep 06, 2015
Axeurdaddy:



Are you trying to infer that sexual feelings are from the pit of hell First off, Are you married?

You don't just wake up n have sexual feelings, now see dis 'evry man is tempted wen he is drawn away of his own lust n enticed. Then wen lust hath conceived it bringeth 4th sin n sin wen finished brngeth 4th death.

Am only suggesting that such feelings shldn't be entertained wen onces partner isn't arnd, this can be achieved by keeping d mind busy.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:47pm On Sep 06, 2015
Pamelayoung:


You don't just wake up n have sexual feelings, now see dis 'evry man is tempted wen he is drawn away of his own lust n enticed. Then wen lust hath conceived it bringeth 4th sin n sin wen finished brngeth 4th death.

Am only suggesting that such feelings shldn't be entertained wen onces partner isn't arnd, this can be achieved by keeping d mind busy.


These urges are perfectly natural and were not put into humans by the devil.


Its good to keep the mind busy but be honest to yourself.


Can you keep your mind busy ALL THE TIME When those lonely and cold nights hit you and you suddenly wish you were with your spouse??
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Pamelayoung: 12:56pm On Sep 06, 2015
Axeurdaddy:



These urges are perfectly natural and were not put into humans by the devil.


Its good to keep the mind busy but be honest to yourself.


Can you keep your mind busy ALL THE TIME When those lonely and cold nights hit you and you suddenly wish you were with your spouse??

I ain't disputing ur 1st paragraph. Thats was my humble opinion tho.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by iliyande(m): 12:58pm On Sep 06, 2015
teemy:




Everyone is open to make opinion known in this open forum without the need to resort to insults. You might want to apoligise markmira.

iliyande I do agree with you but I also believe you do not tell a hungry person "God bless you" and then goodbye without settling his pocket with food or coin. Paul says you see my faith by my works. Atimes extra aid is needed.

The only help a Christian can render in such situation is prayers. Our Lord's prayer Jesus thought his disciples that they should say "lead us not into temptation" he knew that such temptation is inevitable in our daily activities as we continue in our Christian life.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by LatestTrend: 12:58pm On Sep 06, 2015
No it's not but should still have limit. grin


joehis2013:


What if its sexual thoughs of your partner, is it still sin
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:58pm On Sep 06, 2015
Pamelayoung:


I ain't disputing ur 1st paragraph. Thats was my humble opinion tho.


Its alright smiley . Everyone is entitled to an opinion
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GodblessNig247(m): 1:01pm On Sep 06, 2015
[quote author=GlorifiedTunde post=3

u are not more righteous than her. if u know u have not done anything that is immoral be the first to cast a stone

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Jasperwhizz(m): 1:07pm On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be sad sad

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period tongue).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome wink
self servicing is a sin Rnman 1:26. it is contrary to nature.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by raayah(f): 1:09pm On Sep 06, 2015
Jasperwhizz:
self servicing is a sin Rnman 1:26. it is contrary to nature.

Then pray for me, Oh holy one without sin.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Jasperwhizz(m): 1:16pm On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:


Then pray for me, Oh holy one without sin.
Dnt call me 'holy one' i am only working to be one. but to be sincere self servicing is a sin.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by castro316: 1:28pm On Sep 06, 2015
If it's not a sin why can't you talk to u friends about it.

If it's not a sin why do you do it in sercret places

If it's not a sin why does ur conscience tell u its wrong.
If it's not a sin why watch porn along with it

Sin is a sin regardless of how you put it or how often u do it

There are different kinds of sin which are
1. Sin against God
2. Sin against ur neighbour
3. Sin against urself
This 3rd one is where masturbation come in. As far ar it's not the right way to have sex, it's a sin

I used to do it before and my life was in shambles. I used to have problems with relating with women and didn't give them time because I had a solution of satisfying myself. It took me many years of trying and failing before I could conquer this satanic act. But now I am repentant and two years sober. My life is much better with my new relationship with God to whom deserves my praise.
Thanks be to God.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by uzolexis(f): 1:40pm On Sep 06, 2015
Tjayjosh:

The question is essentially this: if
a husband and wife are
separated for a long period of
time, and have each other’s
permission to do it, and can do it
without pornography or lustful/
immoral thoughts, would that
mean it is not a sin to
masturbate? The most common
situation in which this question
arises is that of spouses
separated due to service in the military or sent on official assignment. It is true that, if a person
is used to having sex and a
significant amount of time
passes without sex, sexual
tension increases. This
physiological sexual tension can
make it more difficult to resist
sexual temptation, whether in
the form of adultery or
pornography. Masturbation can
relieve this tension. So, what
about this situation? Would this
be an instance when it is not a
sin to masturbate?
The best answer to this is
“perhaps.” Having your spouse’s
permission would turn 1
Corinthians 7:4 into a non-issue.
There being absolutely no
pornography/lust or immoral
thoughts/desires would remove
the clearly sinful aspects that are
almost always linked with
masturbation. But, with this
situation, a very important
question is being overlooked.
What is the alternative? What
would happen if a person in this
situation did not masturbate? To
say that he/she would be
incapable of resisting temptation
is to neglect the power of the
indwelling Holy Spirit ( 1 John 4:4)
. The Bible instructs us to flee
sexual temptation ( 1 Corinthians
6:18, 10:13; 2 Timothy 2:22). The
Bible does not tell us to find ways
to make the temptation less
powerful.
So, while it might not be a sin for
a person in the above situation
to masturbate, the Bible tells us
to make decisions with more
certainty than “might,” “maybe,”
or “perhaps.” Romans 14:23
says, “Everything that does not
come from faith is sin.” Romans
14:5 indicates that we are to be
“fully convinced” before we do,
or do not do, something. The fact
that “is it still a sin?” is even
being asked is proof of a lack of
assurance and evidence of not
being fully convinced. Asking a
question like “Is ______ not a sin
IF…?” is dangerous at its core.
While “if something is a sin, it is
always a sin” is not universally
true, it is much more biblical than
trying to find situations in which
a sin is no longer sinful.

For me there is no if,it is not a sin IMO period. If you have sexual urges n ur spouse is far away, call him/her, talk dirty, have phone/video sex, touch urself while doing it. Problem solved, reading bible will not stop the conji.
We really need 2 be realistic even as Christians, we should not forget that we r humans as well.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Fearcom(m): 1:45pm On Sep 06, 2015
AheadMarket:
SIN: Any activity that can inflict harm on somebody else. Going by this standard definition, masturbation is not a sin.

Wrong! You can SIN against your OWN BODY! 1 Cor 6:18
That's why a person who commit suicide will be judged because he has no right to take his/her own life. Why? God owns his life. He has KILLED someone. HIMSELF!
That your sin doesn't affect another person isn't an excuse
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GlorifiedTunde(m): 1:53pm On Sep 06, 2015
GodblessNig247:
[quote author=GlorifiedTunde post=3

u are not more righteous than her. if u know u have not done anything that is immoral be the first to cast a stone


I didn't say I was never in sin, check post below



However I do not empathize with sin!
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GlorifiedTunde(m): 1:55pm On Sep 06, 2015
GlorifiedTunde:






Iam not judging anyone! I can't!

I don't hate anyone! I can't!

But I detest sin and downplaying it!

Because my words sounds harsh doesn't mean I'm condemning - its just the truth. It can be bitter!


1 Timothy 1:8 But we know that the law is good, if a man use it lawfully; 1:9 Knowing this, that the law is not made for a righteous man, but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and for sinners, for unholy and profane, for murderers of fathers and murderers of mothers, for manslayers, 1:10 For whoremongers, for them that defile themselves with mankind, for menstealers, for liars, for perjured persons, and if there be any other thing that is contrary to sound doctrine;

STOP ABUSING THE LOVE OF GOD! STOP ABUSING THE GRACE HE GAVE US.

GOD WILL NOT LOWER HIS STANDARD FOR.ANY SINNER



2 Timothy 2:19 Nevertheless the foundation of God standeth sure, having this seal, The Lord knoweth them that are his. And, Let every one that nameth the name of Christ depart from iniquity.

Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by LushGreenz: 1:59pm On Sep 06, 2015
Joniboi:
Nooo! How can it be a sin? See question ooh.

I self service most times when am away from my partner cos its better to self service than to go after prostitutes and some cheap girls and get infected with some deadly disease on infection which in turn will be passed onto your partner.

All them hypocrites in the house, make una begin bash me oooh! The truth is that 90% of men self service and 75% of women self service...Oti kpariii! lipsrsealed

The Scripture disagrees beloved brother.Yes,there are some biblical principles that can be applied to the issue of masturbation. Ephesians 5:3 declares, “Among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity.” It is hard to see how masturbating can pass that particular test. The Bible teaches us, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31). If you cannot give God glory for something, you should not do it. If a person is not fully convinced that an activity is pleasing to God, then it is a sin: “Everything that does not come from faith is sin” (Romans 14:23). Further, we need to remember that our bodies have been redeemed and belong to God.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GodblessNig247(m): 2:04pm On Sep 06, 2015
[quote author=GlorifiedTunde post=37730445][/quote]

ok. cleared. Thanks
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by teemy(m): 2:18pm On Sep 06, 2015
is lust sinful? yes. when madam grabs oga or the other way round in an expression of lust is it sin? no and we all know this. there is the place of permitted sexual expression of lust and masturbation in marriage within the area of christian beliefs.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by deedondavi(m): 2:30pm On Sep 06, 2015
Uh mm...... All this biblical stuffs against maturbation..... That's why innocent girls are being raped daily.....because most guys don't wanna go fucking prostitutes and they hear all this ill stuffs about maturbation from fanatics.... And they belive......that's why we blacks dont move forward we so backward...

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Obaf16(f): 3:50pm On Sep 06, 2015
chichriso:
it is sin to do ''self service'' otherwise known as MASTURBATION, God frowns at it, therefore it is better that the couple stay together at all times to avoid the anger of God in such marriage .
Couples should stay together at all time,how possible because i don't understand wot u mean,r u saying each of them shd not travel ?
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by gbaskiphylle: 4:08pm On Sep 06, 2015
Why can't we just face the reality of the question and give suggestions that are helpful that quoting scriptures that might not help matters. For me,it is better to feel your body in the absense of your partner than falling into the temptation of cheating....

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by chantoebi: 6:46pm On Sep 06, 2015
As a Christian self servicing is a sin or call it mastubation it still sin. sex is for procreation even though partners involve derive pleasure in it. but mastubation is just to satisfy the flesh because of lust and its selfish apart from God its a sin to your soul and your partner if your married

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by belcom10(m): 7:09pm On Sep 06, 2015
demon in action, run away frm masturbation,is a terrible sin

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Jexyme(f): 7:18pm On Sep 06, 2015
rallymento:
Masturbation damages the sexual organs, why damage ur body....

Na lie.......!

Sex (rough) one damages V or P with same probability as the other.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by ayodejiadetoro(m): 7:19pm On Sep 06, 2015
Joniboi:
Nooo! How can it be a sin? See question ooh.

I self service most times when am away from my partner cos its better to self service than to go after prostitutes and some cheap girls and get infected with some deadly disease on infection which in turn will be passed onto your partner.

All them hypocrites in the house, make una begin bash me oooh! The truth is that 90% of men self service and 75% of women self service...Oti kpariii! lipsrsealed

92% of sexually healthy men masturbate. The remaining 8% are most likely lying.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Danyl(m): 8:11pm On Sep 06, 2015
if u call it a sin, what about someone who lied or just gossiped sin is still.sin however we shouldn't be too quick to judge matters as this when it involves couples. I guess y it is called sin is because you are lusting after a sexual figure in your mind. if that figure is your wife or husband it may not be outrightly categorized as sin because you definitely cant be lusting after your spouse it sounds crazy. Jesus said in the scriptures & I quote if you lust after a woman (not your spouse in this context) you already are an adulterer or adulteress(which ever ones your gender suppose). if you are having intimacy you n ur spouse part of pre-intimacy exercise is mutual frolicking which you will.definitely referred to as mutual masturbati** so we need to have a balanced views before tagging anything sin. Or is it adultery that's good for such people? you wouldn't try that I guess so y r we sounding too holy when we r not actually?
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by STEVENcrack(m): 8:11pm On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be sad sad

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period tongue).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome wink
No wonder you left deeperlife that you were borned into.
I pray God brings u back to repentance because one day we will find a time to die.
Give ur life to Christ my sister. Worldly pleasures is vain and doesn't last.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Danyl(m): 8:15pm On Sep 06, 2015
Jasperwhizz:
self servicing is a sin Rnman 1:26. it is contrary to nature.
how is it contrary to nature? so is digging another that doesnt belong to you thats natural. we cant seize to be humans except we become like God n I wonder how that could be possible.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 8:28pm On Sep 06, 2015
Fearcom:


Wrong! You can SIN against your OWN BODY! 1 Cor 6:18
That's why a person who commit suicide will be judged because he has no right to take his/her own life. Why? God owns his life. He has KILLED someone. HIMSELF!
That your sin doesn't affect another person isn't an excuse
mchew
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by iguita: 8:51pm On Sep 06, 2015
Fidio or adonbilif
raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be sad sad

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period tongue).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome wink

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