PunkyVeer:
How you found out about the child?

Realist5:
Eyah... Go ahead if u love her

truthforall:



she passively mentioned it sometime back, but i thought it was a joke, so i never took it serious; the child has being with her mother in the east. she just told me yesterday while we were talking on the phone, as i sought to enquire whose voice it was talking at the background.

she told you about it stupi*d!!!

So what do you wanna do now uh? Dump her ass after consuming for 3years? I think you should even lover her MORE cuz she opend up to you...these guys just keep getting dummmer everyday!

truthforall:



she passively mentioned it sometime back, but i thought it was a joke, so i never took it serious; the child has being with her mother in the east. she just told me yesterday while we were talking on the phone, as i sought to enquire whose voice it was talking at the background.

PunkyVeer:


Oh ok. Well, I'm sure there must be a way around this issue. At least infertility won't be an issue I honestly don't think you should throw away the relationship over this. By your own admission, the child is being raised by the grandmother. Don't know if that means there's any father figure for him to look up to, so this could be your chance to make sure one less child being raised without both parents. You sound like a nice guy that this child could benefit a lot from. But anyway, the choice is still yours at the end of the day. Good luck with that.

Btw, I think your girl hid it because she thought you were going to reject her. Self fulfilling prophecy if you ask me because here we are.

NinaNigeria:
If this was 1941i would be worried, come on bro, this is 2015, please do not such a backward thinker. You would not be the 1st step dad on earth, though I have noticed that here in Nigeria, this kind of a thing is not common and it is still frowned up on. I am just more worried about what your family will say. But it is something that can be overcame if you truly love each other. My dad married my mom, and he died when I was 5, then when I was 11 another men married her. He knew he was not my dad, but he loved me as his own, and not even once, did he treat me as if I was not his, even his family loved me. Marrying a woman who has a child is no biggy sweetheart. Imagine you marry her and you die after you give her 2 kids, would you expect her not to marry again? or if she died and left you with kids, would you not marry again? abeg open your mind nwane

NinaNigeria:


I agree with you honey, she might have been scared of exactly what is happening now

mobuch:

The issue is, even if the o.p accepts her, will his family accept her

NinaNigeria:
If this was 1941i would be worried, come on bro, this is 2015, please do not such a backward thinker. You would not be the 1st step dad on earth, though I have noticed that here in Nigeria, this kind of a thing is not common and it is still frowned up on. I am just more worried about what your family will say. But it is something that can be overcame if you truly love each other. My dad married my mom, and he died when I was 5, then when I was 11 another men married her. He knew he was not my dad, but he loved me as his own, and not even once, did he treat me as if I was not his, even his family loved me. Marrying a woman who has a child is no biggy sweetheart. Imagine you marry her and you die after you give her 2 kids, would you expect her not to marry again? or if she died and left you with kids, would you not marry again? abeg open your mind nwane