₦airaland Forum

hi

if he were in Nigeri and wanted you to move in with him would you do it? Doyou want a sex partner or a husband? Did your mom move in with your dad b4 he married her? Why cant the guy marry you intoto?

I'm not one to ever suggest getting married whilst in school because I think it's hard to be a student AND a wife at the same time; I've seen it before and it's really tough. But is that an option that is open to you? Like if the problem is living together unmarried, would that solve things for your family? Because really, if you can move abroad to just go and live with him, it's pretty much the same thing if you marry him and live with him, because it's the same "wife-work" you'll be doing in addition to your studies.

Additionally, I wouldn't advice you to just move abroad to be with this guy without some SOLID commitment (i.e. marriage) even with the promise of an education especially if HE has anything to do with the education plans. I know you said there's love there but its not a good idea to just go and be dependent on him in another country without a solid commitment because if things don't work out, where does that leave you? You'll be 100% dependent on him and that is never a good idea. Better that he has a legal responsibility to you.

Anyway, that's just my opinion, I hope you manage to figure out what's right for you. Good luck, girl.

If you are 19 as your name suggests then  would say listen to your parents. A responsible man will not ask a 19 year old girl to leave everything she knows to come live with him simply because he is obodo oyibo. Would he dare say that to your parents if he lived in Agbor (my apologies to my agbor peeps lol). Nonsense. If he loves you he will wait until your finish school. He will come to Nigeria to visit you when he can. He will continue to be attentive and loving. He will respect your parents by not forcing you to disobey them.