MizMyColi:


Lol

Falconey, your truth is noted and duly discarded. No offence please

The truth lives in me.
I live the truth everyday.
I am one in being and in flesh with the truth.

There is no truth that I will be told now, that deep within me, I do not know already.
What anyone can do is to remind me of that which I have long forgotten.

NinaArsenal:
If I hear say I sow seed for any man head. Tufiakwa

predatorX:


Sounding like a GAY advocate

MizMyColi:
The desperation to get married comes from a place of incompleteness, a sense of lack and a total disconnect from one's worth and value.

I will rather remain unmarried and keep on being the best I can be, while ensuring that I fulfil my life's inner purpose....than get hitched with someone who thinks he's doing me a favour.
To hell with that kind of mentality and God forbid!

Well, thankfully, that's not the case

Edusouls:
shut up,rejected women, stop covering up ur woes and ur shameful inability to get a man. if u aint married,u re just nothing in the face of God and man,continue to deceive urself's in ur own deceitful lives, end time women..

Jollyjoy:
agreed we shouldnt live our lives by other people opinions but their opinions to some extent are relevant,

yes you have the right to live the way you want,to upheld your own opinion irrespective of what people say but ask your self,are you ready to bear the consequences of your own actions?come to think of it,how do you even expect to live when the society wouldnt stop castigating,descriminating and passing all sort of demeaning remarks...







Most times,it not about setting standard for ourselves but coping with the set standards,just like the world is a stage and our actions are judged by spectators and those are people in our every day lives,without those people i bet our world would have been boring...





miss my point is if you in rome then behave life that roman,......

MizMyColi:
@JollyJoy

What matters isn't the end result, but the process.
Enjoy it.

ekemini606:


Quit being too strong, its not a woman quality.
Moreover no one talks about career when they are 50
You simply just look at your friends kid and wish you had given it more go.

You are giving work/career more meaning and importance than they where originally intended to have

Jollyjoy:
are you serious Infact by the time you clock 29 and you are still single it then u will understand the true meaning of depression.

ekemini606:


Quit being too strong, its not a woman quality.
Moreover no one talks about career when they are 50
You simply just look at your friends kid and wish you had given it more go.

You are giving work/career more meaning and importance than they where originally intended to have

Eugenedimgba:
this post would have had more sense if it was written by a man.... Looks like a lady's tryin to diffuse her situation.

MizMyColi:


Lol

Falconey, your truth is noted and duly discarded. No offence please

The truth lives in me.
I live the truth everyday.
I am one in being and in flesh with the truth.

There is no truth that I will be told now, that deep within me, I do not know already.
What anyone can do is to remind me of that which I have long forgotten.

MizMyColi:


Sis, it is true that we do not exist in Isolation. There are different opinions my dear. Some are positive, some are negative...You have the right and power to choose the opinions that are relevant to you.




I thank you very much for your honesty.
First, please understand that your life situation is different from your life.
Please also understand that you cannot continue to identify with people's undermining and demeaning remarks...else you will not make any head way.

I have taken up interest in politics.
There is hardly a day at least one person doesn't say things to undermine me and make me feel really bad about myself.
I have been called a LovePeddler, I have been called a bigot, I have been called FAT and Ugly, please name them

But I made a choice not to identify with any of those....because that is not who or what I truly am.

Accept it or not, it does not matter what the world sees or thinks of me...what matters is what I see and think of me.

I am sharing this because I know that there are people who are out there who have one issue or another but aren't bold enough to talk about it.

If people have called you fat and ugly...If people have called you a perpetual bachelor or spinster....if they have labelled you unprintable names....WHAT IS YOUR OWN PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF?
You might not fully grasp it now, but that is what matters in the long run.




I understand your point my dear.
But what is the use of holding on to people's opinion if it doesn't favour me?
What is the use of holding on to negativity and pain which people try to drag me into when I can very much chose life, positivity and sweetness.

It is hard, but we need to understand that that first and foremost we exist for ourselves, not for people.

Yes, people will talk...
But this is life and it is what we make of it.

There is a spirit in you and I that gives us understanding of what is right and what is wrong. Though people's input are welcome, but you and I have the right to discard it if it does not resonate with that which is inside us.



I beg to disagree here.
That is a worldly mentality and I will not be part of it.

So because people shame those who have no job, who are fat and unattractive, who have one ailment or another and other negativities....then I should join the band wagon because that's what they do in rome?

No!

I will not compare myself to anyone.
I don't want anyone to compare theirself with me.
I am whole, I am complete. I am strong.
This is the reality of everyone else reading this too. How much of this you believe about yourself is what matters.
Remember, your life situation is different from your life. They are two different things.

That things are not the way you want them to be now is never a reason to think less of your humanity. Focus on the right person...Not the wrong people.
Let that which is within change that which is without.

chubbypearl:
I wish i could see you,hug you and give you a big kiss on your cheek and no,i am not a lesbian.you have just poured out the words from my heart,infact better than i could ever have said it.Respect babe!

obowunmi:


You have no concept of what "societal norms" mean

success9:
Confused OP.

It is okay to frown @ ladies sowing seeds to get married...but it certainly is not your business. After all, its not your money.

It is okay if you call the pastors thieves...but the bible does not frown against sowing seeds...and what is most important is these ladies having the faith that it will work. So how the pastors spend this money is also not your business.

But note, God is not mocked.

I don't know if calling your parents, siblings, friends, acquaintances and a random few the 'society' is totally correct...cos they are d ones that will ask u "when are u getting married"? One thing I know is...nature will call as time strolls by. At least, body must tell u its time.

The 'society' can't force u to get married but may remind u; can't tell u who to marry but is free to recommend; and can't tell u when u are ready...cos that has u written all over it. So leave d society out of it.

The message the OP should have preached: MARRIAGE IS NOT AN END in itself but A MEANS TO AN END.

What is today's problem? Misplaced Purpose.

People marry for all sorts of reasons...mostly wrong.

The woman is created as a help-mate to the man. What are women these days?
More pertinent, what are the men doing that the wives will help them with?

What role does time, ageing and the preference of men to young women has to do with this?

Gosh! The OP made it sound like women desperate for marriage are less than women. It is an INSULT to such ladies. It is a free world...they can crave for anything DESPERATELY but be careful that they marry a man of vision. Get education on what make him behave d way he does... Be a virtuous woman. Submit to him.

It is an order in the bible for the man to LOVE is WIFE. Provide for his home.

free2ryhme:

If only they could sit down and read their bible, if only.

priscaoge:
[size=14pt] All these grammar ↑ ↑ there shey na for husband abi? OK Kontinu

Make i ask sef, When did Marriage/Husband become a Ticket to Heaven? African mentality shaaaa


Mizmycoli happy new year! It's been a long time I read Ur post! [/size]

MizMyColi:
"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together." ~Rob Hill Sr.

joe4christ:


Religion has made you a limited version of your full potentials. What a pity!

success9:
Confused OP.

It is okay to frown @ ladies sowing seeds to get married...but it certainly is not your business. After all, its not your money.

It is okay if you call the pastors thieves...but the bible does not frown against sowing seeds...and what is most important is these ladies having the faith that it will work. So how the pastors spend this money is also not your business.

But note, God is not mocked.

I don't know if calling your parents, siblings, friends, acquaintances and a random few the 'society' is totally correct...cos they are d ones that will ask u "when are u getting married"? One thing I know is...nature will call as time strolls by. At least, body must tell u its time.


The 'society' can't force u to get married but may remind u; can't tell u who to marry but is free to recommend; and can't tell u when u are ready...cos that has u written all over it. So leave d society out of it.

The message the OP should have preached: MARRIAGE IS NOT AN END in itself but A MEANS TO AN END.

What is today's problem? Misplaced Purpose.

People marry for all sorts of reasons...mostly wrong.

The woman is created as a help-mate to the man. What are women these days?
More pertinent, what are the men doing that the wives will help them with?

What role does time, ageing and the preference of men to young women has to do with this?

Gosh! The OP made it sound like women desperate for marriage are less than women. It is an INSULT to such ladies. It is a free world...they can crave for anything DESPERATELY but be careful that they marry a man of vision. Get education on what make him behave d way he does... Be a virtuous woman. Submit to him.

It is an order in the bible for the man to LOVE is WIFE. Provide for his home.

Edusouls:
u re still a small girl., why contribute ur opinion to forum for the matured...

MizMyColi:


Bros.
It doesn't matter whether I am in my mid-thirties or not.

I know who I am.

I will not let myself be cajoled, blackmailed, oppressed, depressed or bluntly forced into marriage.

No sane person should!

yanabasee:
It baffles me how this girls think diz days!

Look, OP, if a man is worth keeping, then you should work hard to keep him....

A friend will say, if I work hard to ensure that my woman isn't gonna be taken away from me from other men... Then my woman should also work hard to keep me to herself so that other women won't take me away from her.

You ladies should ask Urselves questions... What kindaf seed are u sowing on ur man's body?

-Nagging seed?
-Cheating seed?
-Quarrelling seed?
-Imposing seed?
-Arrogant seed?
-Self Important seed?

Ask yourself!

FlirtyKaren:




http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/09/memo-to-desperate-single-nigerian-women.html

gloria34:
brother, sorry 4 dragging u back to this post, just stumble on it. I don't /cant fight to keep a man. if a guy wants to b in ur life, he will stay without stress, but if he doesnt, if u like lie on d floor 4 him, he will still complain that u are not flat enough