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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by raydatluvs(m): 10:12am On Sep 23, 2015
So this kind of thing still happens in this millennium... Whatever happened to letting mother nature take its course. God knows nobody would try this for me when it's time.

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 10:50am On Sep 23, 2015
MarvellousGod:
Alright grin grin ... so you wan tell me say you no get anybody wey you dey hold tight now? wink grin
I no get o. U fit find for me? I trust ur judgement. But non go find one wey go dey watch a.magic I while ma son dey kitchen. Lol.. That thread sha
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 10:52am On Sep 23, 2015
Valeree:
Anambra is here for you dear... your mum can't possibly exhaust the whole villages in Anambra na mbanu... narrow your search to Anambra.
lol. U don't wanna know what she said bout anambra. And d funny thing is DAT my sisters mother in law is from deer and she behaves jux d way she's scared of. So it ain't helping. I know many good anambra peeps o. Jux telling u my mums point for view
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 10:53am On Sep 23, 2015
temi4fash:


Are you from anambra ni?

@Op

Mehn am about to be there, its funny when ur parents place restrictions on you due to some factors best known to them..

God would see ur through.
am guessing she is.lol. no b small thing bro. God ll see us through.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by Nobody: 12:12pm On Sep 23, 2015
faith2ogesco:
I no get o. U fit find for me? I trust ur judgement. But non go find one wey go dey watch a.magic I while ma son dey kitchen. Lol.. That thread sha
grin grin grin .. na only that type I get embarassed .. you no fit manage? grin
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 12:14pm On Sep 23, 2015
MarvellousGod:
grin grin grin .. na only that type I get embarassed .. you no fit manage? grin
I ll pass. Marriage no b for managing o undecided
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by Nobody: 12:21pm On Sep 23, 2015
faith2ogesco:
I ll pass. Marriage no b for managing o undecided
grin grin grin ... just kidding...

Don't worry, you'll marry a befitting lady smiley
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 3:27pm On Sep 23, 2015
MarvellousGod:
grin grin grin ... just kidding...

Don't worry, you'll marry a befitting lady smiley
and let d church say a big. AMEN!!! grin
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by Nobody: 3:29pm On Sep 23, 2015
Did you tell her about Mushin or Elegushi

I'm sure she'd like those places try and convince her

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by tpiander: 3:30pm On Sep 23, 2015
I find it so annoying and irritating when people bring stories of their family members for nlers to insult.

Your mum made a list of places not to marry from, and so?

See what you're doing now, she has her reasons!
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 7:24pm On Sep 23, 2015
tpiander:
I find it so annoying and irritating when people bring stories of their family members for nlers to insult.

Your mum made a list of places not to marry from, and so?

See what you're doing now, she has her reasons!
did any1 insult her here, I haven't seen any dude/lady. I brought it up Cos a number of young peeps like us go thru it. Family member or not. If Its something odas can benefit from or I get a good piece of advice from 1000 insults and bad ones. I ll pick it n bounce cos its wat am looking for. Peace

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by EVILFOREST: 7:31pm On Sep 23, 2015
WOMEN don suffer..
From the way things are happening, people may Join oshiomole
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by macsilver(m): 2:27am On Sep 24, 2015
MarvellousGod:
grin grin grin grin... So funny. . Just keep convincing her..


So you don dey plan marriage, faith? Nice..

OP someone is jealous here o! :-D;-)
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 6:06am On Sep 24, 2015
macsilver:


OP someone is jealous here o! :-D;-)
lol. DAT lady name Mrs oooo
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by Nobody: 2:30pm On Sep 24, 2015
Most times the personal experience our parents have when growing up or from people affects their choices,

Imagine an (example)Edo woman telling there son/daughter not to marry from the village/State, meanwhile the mum and father are not just from Edo but from the same village and their family is doing well...

So tell me... I don't call it tribalism because it even happens from people like deacons/pastors(mean while they preach in Christ there is no difference). Parents forget sometimes that it's personal character/attitude that matters more

Just let her know where you stand, when you ready marry she will only do initial gara gara but stand your ground as a man. She will respect your view
Abi na our parents wan marry for us...

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by montezz(f): 2:42pm On Sep 24, 2015
lol...my mum won't stop warning me against ijebu people she believes dia love for money is too much. she says an ijebu man is capable of using dia wives for money ritual most esp if she's nt frm his town. i dnt bliv sha bt its so funny.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by Timoleon(m): 1:30pm On Oct 02, 2015
Its tough enough finding who to give that kind of commitment to....many parents who have never traveled beyond their geopolitcal zones will be passing judgement anyhow...sometimes dey av lead their children into a life of bitterness denying them what could av bin their true happiness. Let God guide.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by drnoel: 11:25am On Jan 13, 2016
If one allows mothers have their way sons would never get hitched. My mum is a professional matchmaker and have matched a lot of couples together. When they call her to settle problems that arise later she would say "Why are they calling me to settle problem. Did I know when they met or who introduced them together"? grin grin
The one that almost made me faint was my cousin´s marriage. My mom swore the man she favoured for my cousin´s hand was the son of Pope something. That the man was a saint that can´t hurt a fly. My Cousin was not getting young then and though she was already successful on her own but like most Nigerian ladies wanted the security of a man (naija Girls sha, una worry). And years after the marriage incompatibility became an issue and they called my mum to settle gbese. Mummy complain tire saying "they have called me again to settle Problem. That´s when they remember me. If it is to enjoy now they won´t remember me". Me I just laugh tire but I used my tongue to count my teeth. Next time my mum told me she knew the sweet daugther of one of her friends that like me and that she can organize me I told her "Mummy take ya time" grin
That was 4 years ago and am married now.

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 12:06pm On Jan 13, 2016
drnoel:
If one allows mother have their way sons would never get hitched. My mum is a professional matchmaker and had matched a lot of couples together. When they call her to settle Problems that arise later she would say "Why are they calling me to settle Problem. Did I know when they met or who introduced them together"? grin grin
The one that almost made me faint was my cousin´s marriage. My mom saw the man she favoured for my Cousins Hand was the son of Pope something. That the man was a saint that cant hurt a fly. My Cousin was not getting Young then and though she was already successful on her own but like most Nigerian ladies wanted the security of a man (naija Girls sha, una worry). And years after the marriage incompatibility became an issue and they called my mum to settle gbese. Mummy complaint tire saying "they have called me again to settle Problem. Thats when they remember me. If it is to enjoy now they wont remember me". Me I just laugh tire but I used my tongue to Count my teeth. Next time my mum told me she knew the sweet daugther of one of her friends that like me and that she can organize me I told her "Mummy take ya time" grin
That was 4 years ago and am married now.
lmao. and she has come again. her last statement on this issue was a question she asked me.. "Will you marry a medical doctor if you see one?" . As a sharp guy who knows his mother, I asked her "which one your customers daughter are you looking at now??" NOTE: Fear hair designers. mehn that shop is a place of gossip o. Gawd. I go hear my story for another woman way I never meet for my life mouth.smh
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by MurderX: 11:25pm On Jan 13, 2016
Dont get married, wait and seek her opinion again when you are 40, her response will definitely shock.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by toprealman: 6:33pm On Aug 30, 2017
faith2ogesco:
The funny thing is that when she was done, no state in Nigeria was left out...did I say state, no village sef. Dis case share tire me. Even my own village and her maiden village get wahala for her eye. You call this state... She counters...next one she counters.... And so on.... And her responses are hilarious...pls whos facing this predicament ooo. I Don convince her small small sha. But d process is so slow cos if u go too fast you go back to square 1 of the mind changing. undecided
She knows you aint ready yet cos when you are....she will release a revised list!
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 9:40pm On Aug 30, 2017
toprealman:
She knows you aint ready yet cos when you are....she will release a revised list!
lmao. U no serious.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by dangotesmummy: 8:38am On Aug 31, 2017
faith2ogesco:
The funny thing is that when she was done, no state in Nigeria was left out...did I say state, no village sef. Dis case share tire me. Even my own village and her maiden village get wahala for her eye. You call this state... She counters...next one she counters.... And so on.... And her responses are hilarious...pls whos facing this predicament ooo. I Don convince her small small sha. But d process is so slow cos if u go too fast you go back to square 1 of the mind changing. undecided
fast and easy solution is

Choose a lady you like. Once you've agreed on the basics take her to your home to meet your mom and if your mom has a problem with wherever she's coming from,get the Lady pregnant. Your mom will be forced to give her consent

One thing with African patents is that they're always paranoid with every decision you make and if you keep waiting on them till they're satisfied you'll wait in vain because they're insatiable. It's when you finish making your choice they'll tell you they're proud of you and you took after them.if you keep waiting on them they'll baby you for the rest of your life or for as long as you permit them
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by ImaIma1(f): 3:33pm On Aug 31, 2017
faith2ogesco:
The funny thing is that when she was done, no state in Nigeria was left out...did I say state, no village sef. Dis case share tire me. Even my own village and her maiden village get wahala for her eye. You call this state... She counters...next one she counters.... And so on.... And her responses are hilarious...pls whos facing this predicament ooo. I Don convince her small small sha. But d process is so slow cos if u go too fast you go back to square 1 of the mind changing. undecided

Dont worry when u reach 45 and you are still unmarried, she will be the one to say you should marry anything female. Mothers are not all knowing. They make decisions based on sentiments sometimes. Use wisdom.

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Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 7:35pm On Aug 31, 2017
ImaIma1:


Dont worry when u reach 45 and you are still unmarried, she will be the one to say you should marry anything female. Mothers are not all knowing. They make decisions based on sentiments sometimes. Use wisdom.
a lady has spoken. Lol
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 7:36pm On Aug 31, 2017
dangotesmummy:
fast and easy solution is

Choose a lady you like. Once you've agreed on the basics take her to your home to meet your mom and if your mom has a problem with wherever she's coming from,get the Lady pregnant. Your mom will be forced to give her consent

One thing with African patents is that they're always paranoid with every decision you make and if you keep waiting on them till they're satisfied you'll wait in vain because they're insatiable. It's when you finish making your choice they'll tell you they're proud of you and you took after them.if you keep waiting on them they'll baby you for the rest of your life or for as long as you permit them
brossss. Easy abeg I no follow for Dat one
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by dangotesmummy: 7:54pm On Aug 31, 2017
faith2ogesco:
brossss. Easy abeg I no follow for Dat one
you don't have to
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by loshybab(m): 11:14pm On Aug 31, 2017
nickz:
Bro marriage is overhyped
work hard,make money,spoil your mother and sisters,travel enjoy nd be happy.

HAVE CHILDREN OR ADOPT-don't chain yourself to a tree especially a nigerian (ibo,hausa nd yoruba,they are all same)one that likes to use padlock for the chain...2 kobo
bros,na life you call that one
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by ImaIma1(f): 12:59am On Sep 01, 2017
faith2ogesco:
lol. U don't wanna know what she said bout anambra. And d funny thing is DAT my sisters mother in law is from deer and she behaves jux d way she's scared of. So it ain't helping. I know many good anambra peeps o. Jux telling u my mums point for view

Bros are you going to man up or wait on your mother's approval?
My very good friend had an issue like this. He is the first son and his mum was so particular about where he would marry from. He finally picked a wife from a village approved by mumsy. He is married now but the wife and the mum cannot see eye to eye. The wife is like her...quite domineering and doesnt take nonsense just like his mum. So they dont agree.When the mum visits from the villa, she stays with her other son who married a yoruba woman that she didn't approve of. She gets along with that one.
Sometimes mums are picking based on what works for them rather than what works for their son. It is you that will marry the wife not her.
Re: My Mum Made A List Of Places Not To Marry From. by faith2ogesco(m): 6:35am On Sep 01, 2017
ImaIma1:


Bros are you going to man up or wait on your mother's approval?
My very good friend had an issue like this. He is the first son and his mum was so particular about where he would marry from. He finally picked a wife from a village approved by mumsy. He is married now but the wife and the mum cannot see eye to eye. The wife is like her...quite domineering and doesnt take nonsense just like his mum. So they dont agree.When the mum visits from the villa, she stays with her other son who married a yoruba woman that she didn't approve of. She gets along with that one.
Sometimes mums are picking based on what works for them rather than what works for their son. It is you that will marry the wife not her.
plz o. Calm down. I Jux raised a serious but hilarious point, I already know what I want was Jux trying to emphasize what mums do

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