MrsKheiron:
It's posts like these that make me lose my shits.

The very fact that some many males feel this way about adultery, that a woman's job is to look the other way while still trying to be the perfect wife.

Same males that wanted to shut down the Internet when news about the Ibadan lawyer came to light.

All I'm going to say is while you're philandering, do remember that so many females can kill and I mean that in the literal sense.


Between, whatever happened to divorce and alimony?

Di bu ugwu nwaanyi, is not for a man that doesn't understand the concept of loyalty and fidelity.
A philandering husband is no respect to me

vfactor:



If the above are ur reasons, then why get married? For you, sex is the ultimate reason for marriage. Wouldn't it be better for a woman to just have a sex partners and have her own kids and focus on her career, than marrying and then viewing her husband as a sex partner cos of infidelity. I don't believe in settling for less cos of low standards of morality. Divorce after infidelity is a personal choice in which many issues should be considered before the decision. But the reasons u have given is as flimsy as the word flimsy

ThoniaSlim:


I tell you! It's appalling! This right here is the reason I'll rather happily remain single than marry some myopic clown who'll give me unnecessary trouble! Maka gini? Achoro m ilu di?

Toks2008:


I don't write to get accolades and by now im happy many nairaland ladies have realized that im not trying to impress them lin anyway cos the last time i checked,i have passed the age of reproach or fooling around.

As a lady, if you don't have the psychological shock absorber to cope with the possibility of your man cheating on you PLEASE DON'T EVER BOTHER GETTING MARRIED..Period.

As i wrote, i write in a no holds barr manner and im so realistic and down to earth.

I am not interested in any form of bragadocio remarks from the unmarried ladies who still believe in me and my hubby alone and how i wish each lady that have ever commented put their marital status so that i will know who to respond to cos as far as i am concerned,every reply i make to any comment of an unmarried lady is a total waste of time.

This thread is for married ladies to comment while the unmarried just read and learn.

Toks2008:


This is a thread for men and not boys please...

If you want to comment here please do so like a matured person and not one high on liquor or oshogbo weed. Its not a must to make comments an we are not in a palm wine joint so make intelligent comments or keep mum.

freecocoa:
Really? Every man must cheat, if I ever for any reason believe this after my research, than that means I'm cheating in marriage, because whatever will make him cheat despite trying his best not to, (meaning he couldn't say no), will definitely happen to me too, leading me to cheat, as afterall, we are both humans with no self control.

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Kachisbarbie:


hehehe. Very yeye question

I will stay and be a sex and HIV partner. #Iranu


he won't list that one...rather he listed this

^^^, forget the IF there_that's just an easy way out, trying to make the statement conditional while subliminally implying that all men cheat. That's the lie they use to encourage women to stay in bondage

They would ask her:-
How are you sure the next man would be better?
*how are you sure he won't beat you too?
*or be a worst cheat.

And a younglady would take it as her destiny to perpetually endure. When my name isn't ndidi...

banmee:


Here we go again. Another chauvinistic article from a chauvinistic prick. You can never end up with an assured and confident woman. I pity the slave you end up with. I strongly believe you should emigrate to Afghanistan or Iraq. You'll fit perfectly over there. At least they think exactly the way you do in matters relating to women. This muthafucker is justifying staying with a philandering husband. Really? Come and say this same shiit in an organized society and see if they'll not throw you out head first. There is something seriously wrong with you. I wonder what kind of environment you grew up in. I really wonder. I will keep bugging you till you receive sense.

Recherche:
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Exactly, thanks
He expects a woman to tolerate a cheating partner and not cheat, because of stigma, and he went further by saying majority of men cheat.

Then who exactly are those same men cheating with, if not someone else's woman or wife.

Which means on one hand, he accepts that women can cheat too(since we all know men cheat with women), and it seems he has no problem with it because, obviously he was looking at it from a man's perspective or he probably felt like ignoring that aspect.

Yet on the other hand he expects women not to cheat and tolerate their cheating spouse.

Toks2008:
the fact that your husband cheats on you does not mean he does not deeply love and desire you.

cococandy:


@bold, gbam. Exactly.

You guys lead. We follow.

If you will stay married to the lady and endure her lover after lover, pray for her to change and protect the marriage from divorce even when the lady can't stop sleeping around, we will.

If you won't, we won't.

uzolexis:


pls upload your pics so I can distribute it amongst all the ladies I know and warn them to stay away from you....you think you are a man?? you are still a baby and I am truly sorry for the unfortunate woman that'll end up with you.

Toks2008:

See dont ever be among those who claim equality with men when it comes to philandering except you just want to jettison your essence as a woman.

Toks2008:


If only it is possible not to have teenagers and ladies who have no clueof what marriage ia all about comment on this thread.

Most comments i have seen so far are from ladies who are still living in fantasy.

This is a realistic thread and how i wish even after these ladies with wild adrenaline make their odoriferous remarks, they end up answering the questions i asked..WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF FACED WITH SUCH SITUATION?Period.

If you like curse me from here to the skies,it does not change the fact on ground that most guys cheat on their wives and even if i preach from now till kingdom comes,it will not chnage the polygamous nature of men so start living with this fact or dont bother getting married.

Toks2008:


You see how you reason?

Have you ever watched some fantastic best sellers? will you say tyhe writer of these films wrote those films to reflect their beliefs and lifestyles?

This is why i always write that common sense is not common.

Aunty abeg anytime you read articles or watch movies,try and understand that these are never reflections of the writer's personaility ok?

It is a confirmatory signj of mental dumbness to leave a write up to start attacking the writer...infact a total uneducated but intelligent person will never do that.

Please grow up.

I have a pics on my profile page by the way so download that and start sharing..odensin.

hedonistic:


Don't mind these deceitful things. It irritates the hell out of me when they pick and choose the grounds for gender equality... Only when it suits them. You want to be equal with me in philandering, but when it comes to paying the bills and spending I must take the lead as a man since thats the 'normal' thing. On the rare occasion when she supports with money, then she would do it with so much reluctance and regret because it's abnormal, . Nonsense people.

hedonistic:


Don't mind these deceitful things. It irritates the hell out of me when they pick and choose the grounds for gender equality... Only when it suits them. You want to be equal with me in philandering, but when it comes to paying the bills and spending I must take the lead as a man since thats the 'normal' thing. On the rare occasion when she supports with money, then she would do it with so much reluctance and regret because it's abnormal, . Nonsense people.

Toks2008:
All over the world,women divorce their hubbies for so many reasons but statistics have shown that infidelity tops the list especially in this part of the world where polygamy has become the norm,but the question is;does it make sense for a lady to divorce her hubby over infidelity when same man can as well decide and indeed marry more wives?

I want ladies to understand this one vital point that most and i mean MOST HUSBANDS will cheat on their wives even if they are married to angels and the fact that your husband cheats on you does not mean he does not deeply love and desire you.

ladies are always quick to say they can not stand an adulterer as a husband and some will threaten to rain fire and brimstone on a philandering hubby but in case you discover your hubby cheats on you please what would you do?

[color=#000099][size=12pt]1.Would you rather leave your marriage, remain single and celibate for life?

2.Would you rather leave your adulterous hubby and start sleeping about with other men who are probably randy or husbands of other women?

4. Would you prefer to stay with an adulterous hubby and also shamelessly philander about in the bid to seek a revenge?

5.Would you prefer to stay with a philandering hubby,live a decent lifestyle and focus on your life and that of your children and just see him as a sex partner warning him to use protection if he must eat out?

hedonistic:


Don't mind these deceitful things. It irritates the hell out of me when they pick and choose the grounds for gender equality... Only when it suits them. You want to be equal with me in philandering, but when it comes to paying the bills and spending I must take the lead as a man since thats the 'normal' thing. On the rare occasion when she supports with money, then she would do it with so much reluctance and regret because it's abnormal, . Nonsense people.

enygmababe:


I am amazed that you think an unfaithful HUSBAND has the option of marrying more wives.

A married man can only go ahead to marry more wives in Nigeria if the first marriage was customary or Muslim in nature. If he was married under the act in the first instance, then any subsequent marriage is bigamy which is a criminal offence for which he can be convicted by a court of law in Nigeria. A lot of women just don't know this and so do not harness it. Also if the first marriage is customary, any subsequent marriage to another woman can only be customary in nature

If my hubby tries it, sadly the woman will never be able to bear his name. In fact I know of a woman whose husband secretly went to marry another woman, she gave him and the other woman an ultimatum and they had no choice but to annul the marriage because at the time of the marriage the man was already marriage so the subsequent marriage was void an initio.

It is sad indeed that most men would cheat and say it is meaningless, a harmless fling and that they love their wife. If they only realised that the act of lovemaking to a wife transcends the physical to the spiritual as well as the emotional trauma it could cause, am sure they would restrain themselves. A man who cheats on me cannot love me and I doubt that I have the capacity to stay with such a man and pretend to manage it. However, this post is not about the repentant adulterer but about the unrepentant philanderer.

Guys beware! The day a woman stops crying for you that day you need to start fearing for you life.

Before deciding to leave it will take some time. The first time I discover it, I will give him time to do the needful and change. This is because i know what i have invested in this family and would not want to leave for another person who did not sow to come and reap. After this period of grace, if he does not change, I may draw battle lines. By battle lines I do not mean incessant quarrels but I mean a withdrawal of cooperation.

By withdrawal of cooperation I mean that he will become the bread winner of the family in the true sense of the word. After all, he has an abundance and that is the reason why he can entice girls in numbers. He will drop the household allowance, my personal allowance and pay for everything even to the match box. If he doesn't then there will be no food in the house. He will also not get a dime from me whether as a loan or support of any kind. We might actually live as strangers in the house.

The moment I know about the affair we will start using CDs for intimacy though for the life of me I still wonder how much intimacy there will be becos I will imagine him with another woman, see them in the act in my minds eye and be repulsed. Pretending through the motions of intimacy is no mean feat but is definitely beyond my powers. Biko leave me I beg.

On philandering shamelessly in revenge ...lol. Giving myself to his friends in revenge would be stupid and I value myself too much to harm/abuse myself all in the name of revenge. However, a philandering man who refuses to change is obviously advocating for an open marriage and should get it. However, the female need not go about it abrasively just for revenge. If I were to chose that option? I would not rush it. I would only be with a man that also attracts me but which said attraction I would hitherto have suppressed because of the institution of marriage. However, if I ever get to this stage, it would me that I do not have an iota of love for my hubby anymore in which case, I can kill him...subtly. So I would be better off leaving him and filing for a divorce.

But right now, even though I pray it never happens, I keep myself busy by making the home so happy and homely that he knows how good he has it. So that when the battle lines are drawn, he knows what he is missing.

Truth be told though the questions are not easy to answer nor are the answers sacrosanct. A lot depends on how I feel when it happens. I may bloody well take a gun and blow his head off in a dark alley.

francizy:



Hehehehehehe!!!

I can't imagine my wife distributing my personal belonging to other men oh! Straight up, divorce! Even if she just kissed a man (knowingly or unknowingly), then divorce is a must...

However, if am not man enough to keep myself from cheating when am married, then I don't deserve a faithful wife either...

It's a vice versa thingy...

hedonistic:


All these ones and their deluded rants on social media. Yada Yada Yada.

And when you're caught cheating, you expect to remain married right? You think the rules, privileges, expectations, and unwritten do's and don'ts are same for both sexes, right? In Nigeria?

These small girls sef.

jadelyn007:
you have been so stuck up in your misogynistic world you didn't even realize that 50 percent of the female replies you got on this thread are from married women, cococandy is married, so is kachisbarbie and others. Do me a favor, stick to the boyfriend and girlfriend topics you are used to. You are not even married yet you are advising married people, who even dash you counselor role, or you think counseling is by settling Iya ramotu and baba saheed figh ? Did you study guidance and counseling or psychology in school. All these cut and nail self acclaimed counselor, you are the problem with Nigeria.